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In memory of my beloved Fraser and all our children.Little buds sown on earth to bloom in heaven

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frasersmummy · 28/07/2010 18:52

A new haven for us all to say exactly what is in our heart or on our minds knowing that everyone understands and wont judge

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deemented · 02/08/2010 22:43

It's impossible to think, but there is a way there, to wherever 'there' is... it's just finding it, is all.

Urgh, i'm stinking i am. Just eaten half a tub of garlic mayo dip with some pringles - the MIL will love me tomorrow, we're off out to Ikea for the day - what fun!

SassySusan · 02/08/2010 23:04

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shabbapinkfrog · 02/08/2010 23:09

Its been good to see you here Dee - Must admit I love it best when you get angry LOL.....you are so funny!! We have been on a couple of threads where you have lost you're temper and you really go for it - xx

deemented · 02/08/2010 23:35

I bet you'd have a lovely time, Sassy - it's a good place to be.

Me angry???? Never.....

Night folks x

hazygirl · 03/08/2010 04:54

morning girls,big hugs to everyone ,been awake since 3, and got night shift .

SassySusan · 03/08/2010 08:15

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deemented · 03/08/2010 08:19

Morning folks.

Just about to head out to Ikea I'll be thinking of Catherine as i wander round, Sassy

shabbapinkfrog · 03/08/2010 08:20

Morning girls xx

travellingwilbury · 03/08/2010 08:30

Morning all xx

We are off out today to meet another lovely mum who I first met on tcf . We have only met in rl once as she lives in scotland but they are in the New Forest today so wish me luck for the 4 hour round trip in the car . "Are we there yet?" Before we have even left the village

SassySusan · 03/08/2010 08:42

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lavandes · 03/08/2010 08:59

AllI want is one day when I don't feel so bloody miserable. You know just one day off for good behaviour!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SassySusan · 03/08/2010 09:23

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lavandes · 03/08/2010 09:29

sassy yes we have to keep going. I woke up at 4.00am in tears I haven't done that for ages. It is Richard's birthday on Sunday, the first milestone, I think that must be playing on my mind in the night. xx

CazEM · 03/08/2010 10:25

Morning ladies...

dee - enjoy Ikea. DH always has a moan when we go there, possibly because I HAVE to follow the yellow brick road as I call it and walk around the entire building without deviating to straight where we need to go! Sassy - I hope you can go there again one day and smile at your happy memories.

Our anniversary was really quite lovely - we reminised a lot, talked about Belle a lot, cried a lot - but we actually enjoyed our day. Spa treatments had me sleepy and relaxed, we then enjoyed a light lunch and few drinks, went to our room and made an album of our wedding disposable cameras, exchanged presents and had a lovely dinner, drank champagne and toasted to our beautiful girl and our family. I wore the dress I word to Belle's funeral and I felt like it connected us somewhat. Like she was there with us too.

We both gave paper presents as is tradition. I gave DH a poem I'd written myself (not a poet but quite proud of it), rolled into a scroll, all about us and our first year of marriage and he cried... I'll post it here if anyone would like a read! and DH had turned one of our wedding photos into a drawn effect type picture for me - it looks really pretty. DH also gave me a beautiful sparkly watch covered in crystals, as the modern list of 1st WA suggestions is clocks. He is a bit naughty because we weren't supposed to be doing presents that cost lots of money - but I love the watch!

I need a quiet week now after that weekend, I'm really shatterred, and I will need lots of energy and strength to cope with Saturday and give Belle's memory a lovely day. I want to do things for her on Saturday.

lavandes - thinking of you this week. Like Sassy said - we have to 'keep going' - what else can we do? My Dad says 'keep going' to me often.

shabbapinkfrog · 03/08/2010 10:51

Oh Caz that sounds so wonderful. Yes 'keep going' is the only advice I can give. I used to say to myself 'One foot in front of the other and dont forget to breathe.'

shabbapinkfrog · 03/08/2010 10:53

Awwww a new mum just popped on the Multiples thread. She is about 14 weeks pregnant with twins. I just posted to her to say congratulations. Couldn't leave any details about my twins because what good would that do for her? Would be like a dark cloud hanging over her. I often feel I have no 'right' to post on the multiples but I have made some great friends there.

NONE of them make me feel like I shouldn't post - its just my own strange mind working overtime!!

lavandes · 03/08/2010 11:36

caz so glad you could relax on your special weekend it sounds lovely.

shabs if only our minds had brakes!!!!!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 03/08/2010 12:31

I think 'keep going' is great advice actually. It means a lot with such few words.

I'd love to hear your poem Caz

You have every right to post on the multiples thread Shabs and I'm sure that others on there feel that way too.

You may have seen us mention this before Lavandes, but I think most of us have agreed that the weeks/days leading up to birthdays and remember days are worse than the actual day.

I'm almost like a pressure cooker building up pressure in the weeks leading up to special days then on the actual day it's like the pressure is slowly released and I start to feel a bit better. It took me a while to realise that that is how I deal with it and before I did it felt like my grief was going backwards.

CazEM · 03/08/2010 12:49

On the 1st August 2009,
A princess I felt at the Cwrt Bleddyn.
A magical day becoming your wife,
And thinking I was in heaven.

The new Mrs to your Mr,
It?s a year today I married you.
Became Mrs. Caroline Elizabeth Morgan
And promised to you I?d always be true.

It was the ?Greatest Day? of our lives,
The union of two people completely in love.
It was everything we?d dreamed it would be,
You?re my gift from up above.

We vowed in good times and bad,
Already having our fair share of those.
And for in sickness and in health,
But it is still you I would always ?chose?.

We?re three now, a beautiful daughter we made,
Miss. Anabelle Violet her pretty name.
But our precious angel sleeps with Jesus in heaven,
And things will never again be quite the same.

As we remember our girl, with tears in our eyes,
And forever love in our hearts.
Remember too that I love you,
And nothing will ever tear us apart.

Not to forget little kitty-cat Fiz,
Our furball who brings a smile to our face.
As long as we?re together,
Everything else will fall into place.

I love you Jon, and always will,
You?re amazing and faithful and strong.
My ?wonderful man?, I call you,
Unconditional love can never be wrong.

And now we begin married life year two,
I know that we?re stronger than ever.
Still whispering the words to you, I do,
And staying together forever.

lavandes · 03/08/2010 13:49

caz that is beautiful xx

SassySusan · 03/08/2010 13:58

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shabbapinkfrog · 03/08/2010 14:32

Danny says that there is always a feeling of 'something is wrong or somebody is missing.' He says that he remembers Gareth through what we have told him but he feels incomplete. He is always attracted to friends who are twins or to people with lots of brothers and sisters. I do think its very important to tell twins or any siblings everything about a child that is 'lost.' I have always spoken openly with my sons about their brothers - we have pictures of them everywhere and talk about them constantly.

SassySusan · 03/08/2010 14:56

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shabbapinkfrog · 03/08/2010 15:17

I noticed your posts on there Sassy and I agreed with every word you said. My Mum always says 'If you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.'

Oh you wouldn't believe how many people told me I was lucky to still have Danny.....I would imagine it ran into 100's. Having just one twin is a real double edged sword - you are so grateful for them being there but miss their partner so very much. I was also told what a blessing it was that Gareth had died - then he wouldn't have to have major heart surgery...... Yes thank you - you daft owd biddie (cause it invariably was) for those weird comments!!

SassySusan · 03/08/2010 15:27

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