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The boys are pissing me off

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 16:09

I am trying to ignore them and not interact with them.

Keep me occupied before I knock his fucking head off.

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 16:14

DH is pissing me off a lot more now having just smacked ds2.

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Collision · 06/06/2010 16:15

Mine were winding me up big time and ds1 is such a stroppy little toad.

DH has taken them to the gym for a swim and I was supposed to be washing the kitchen floor!

chaostrulyreigns · 06/06/2010 16:15

how old are they?

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 16:20

4
6
9

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chaostrulyreigns · 06/06/2010 16:28

Cutting and sticking/playdough at the kitchen table - will it give you a few minutes to MN?

Mine are all outside in the rain. Although boy is 4, girls are 7,8,10 so slightly different gender bias.

Wii etc?

Make popcorn - put a film on and MN in the corner pretending you've one eye on the screen and you're actually interacting with them?

Biscuit dough?

or jest kill'em.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 16:32

I like the last option

They are going to bed soon. I am fucking sick of it. they are certainly not having a dvd or anything. A reward for what they have done? No way.

Just venting on here so I don't shout at them or clobber them.

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TheFallenMadonna · 06/06/2010 16:36

What are they doing?

Mine (8 and 6) are going through a winding each other up phase, and I leave them to it. I don't want to hear tale-telling, and no-one is to hurt anyone. After that, they're on their own. Preferably outside...

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 06/06/2010 16:38

I feel your pain (sih) - the DSs (4 and 22m) have gone bananas and DS1 keeps blooming pooing and piddling on everything. I have locked the playroom, said a definate NO to the cake he was going to get and just ridden it out. DS2 has now fallen asleep on my lap and DS1 is watching T.V. I am putting DS1 to bed in about a hour, they seem to be waking at the crack of dawn anyway the past few days so it won't make much difference. Can you get the whole bedtime thing going earlier?

chaostrulyreigns · 06/06/2010 16:47

I never ever dared to put mine to bed before 6.45.

You are a bravebravelot or aren't you in UK?

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 16:50

Bed is the safest place for them right now.

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 16:52

One pushed the other and he now has a big bump on his head from where he hit the wall.

That one spat in the others face.

Refusing point blank to do anything we say, just constant no, no, no.

Kicking each other.

Laughing at us.

Banging the window.

Refusing to listen.

I could go on.

I don't want to do this anymore. I won't do it anymore. Calls will be made tomorrow.

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ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 06/06/2010 17:21

divide them and put them to bed. Sometimes the line has to be drawn. If they need dinner, get them back out of bed. If they need washing, give them some flannels. Might 'shake' them up to behave for the last few hours. Sometimes it'll just keep going and going otherwise. Give them dinner in bed if needs be, if they cannot behave enough to eat at the table. Anyone who doesn't get into their PJs sleeps in their clothes. Tehn sit down witha cup of tea

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 17:26

They had their tea.
Quick showers.
Are now all in bed.

Dh and I have failed hugely. He smacked the youngest and I said they won't think it is funny when they are taken off us.

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck.

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Tryharder · 06/06/2010 17:27

Is it raining where you are? Lock them out in the garden. I've come to work to get away from my 2 - they are currently running riot at my mum's.

unltd · 06/06/2010 17:30

you have put a 9yr old to bed at 5.30pm?

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 06/06/2010 17:38

It doesn't sound like you have failed. 4 is old enough to know somewhat how to behave - it's totally wrong to smack a child so young they know no better, or to smack for no good reason, or be out of control etc. but a smack generally is "just" a smack, you won't be having your DCs taken away! Children play up, children go bonkers, parents get peed off - no one is 'perfect'. At the end of the day, we are all just mammals and kids can get abit feral and there is nothing wrong with going "actually, enough is enough, to bed the lot of you". It's 5.30, so not exactly early, they have eaten and are clean - sometimes it feels harsh and wrong but it'd be worse to not put your foot down and let them know their behaviour won't be tolerated. And don't feel guilty that they behaved like this in the first place either.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 17:41

Yes, unitd though I can hear one of them talking and the other shouting so not asleep.

Thanks ASLD. You are being very kind and generous.

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ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 06/06/2010 17:42

unltd- I am presuming the 9yr old isn't being locked in a box in the dark here. Nothing wrong with sending a naughty child to bed early. Reading a book, or having a sulk never killed anyone.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 17:43

He is asking for more food. Only apologised because he wants food.

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unltd · 06/06/2010 17:48

i think its asking for trouble imho

if i was 9 i would act up at the unfairness of it

who is in charge here?

lostinwales · 06/06/2010 17:49

Oh I am so tempted now. I have just threatend my three (10,8 and 3) with bed and told them someone on here has just put their boys to bed. You should see their faces. Although if DS3 gets to bedtime without me having serious thoughts about giving him away I would be amazed, he is pure evil. DH has been away at a party overnight and has spent the afternoon lying on the sofa and being usless, where can I send him?

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 17:50

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 06/06/2010 17:50

unitd - i can't be arsed to row.

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pinkstripes · 06/06/2010 17:52

Fab grab a glass of wine & relax , tomorrow is another day .

compo · 06/06/2010 17:53

Did you try the family game idea ?

Have they been out today?

Boys are like dogs, they need exercising couldn't dh take them to the park for a game of footie rather than sending them to bed?