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Any one else who actually LIKES having all boys?

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tide · 23/12/2009 16:26

I can't tell you how sick I am of all the demonising of boys that goes on in mum circles. When I was about to have my third boy all I got was pitying comments about how brave/foolish I was. Got me so worried. And all so unneccesarily. Who says boys are always more unruly/messy/loud/sports crazy/obtuse etc etc. Mine aren't. They sit and draw for hours, they cook, they give the best hugs and chats... all the things I was told I would be missing out on if I didn't have girls. So far all I've missed out on is endless fights about what to wear, moans, whinges and psycho warfare. Why did no-one tell me boys could be so lovely? That's not true. Before the first was born the old Irish lady next door told me. But I didn't believe her. Now I do.

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DoesntChristmasDragOn · 23/12/2009 16:28

[shrug] girls are always labelled shrill, bitchy. You'd get similar style comments if you had all girls.

performancegirl · 23/12/2009 16:31

I have 2 boys age 4 and 2 and wouldn't change them for the world. if i do have a 3rd child I would love another boy, they are great! everyone assumes they are a handful but it is so not true. they have their moments like all kids but are also kind and gentle to each other.
boys are fab!

thatsnotmymonster · 23/12/2009 16:35

My first is a boy then I had 2 girls. My SIL who only had a girl kept making pitying comments and saying that boys were awful- till she had one herself!

My boy is the most chilled out, easy to read little boy who loves rough and tumble but also drawing and lego. He is clever, chatty, very affectionate, always complimenting people, he is thoughtful, loves cooking and engineering and all things machine! He is only 4.8!

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tide · 23/12/2009 16:36

I am so glad to hear it, performance girl. Do you get the same looks I do when we all walk into a cafe or whatever, the wary watchfulness, then the weirdly surprised congratulations when they don't trash the place?

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BedfordFallsResident · 23/12/2009 16:36

My two boys are great - they get on well and are soooo affectionate toward me (even the 8 yr old in public). They are also like chalk and cheese in so many ways and if i had one of each might have thought that was becasue one of them was a girl iyswim.

But then i'm not a girly girl, we camp, we walk the dogs, we play MarioKart alot...i wonder if that makes a difference?

BedfordFallsResident · 23/12/2009 16:37

Also i quite like being the only girl - they all get to roll their eyes at me sometimes.

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tide · 23/12/2009 16:38

that's my monster: that's part of the problem. my only sister has a little girl (2) and seems determined to draw the gender lines along girls good/sweet/quiet v boys noisy/unruly/exhausting...

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tide · 23/12/2009 16:42

to Bedfordfallsresident: you're right, because they're all the same sex it's easier to see the differences between them as personality rather than gender based

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lockets · 23/12/2009 16:43

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tide · 23/12/2009 16:45

lockets: but now you have 'your girl' do you see what people told you you were 'missing out on'?

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BedfordFallsResident · 23/12/2009 16:45

Well yes, after i'd written it i thought it came across a bit sexist - sorry. I'm guessing if i'd have had Dds they'd have loved it too.

JollyPirate · 23/12/2009 16:46

I only have the one child and he's a boy. Every time I see the "Lelli Kellie" advert I am grateful.

BedfordFallsResident · 23/12/2009 16:47

It just that all four of my nieces are into pink, princesses etc. and two of them refuse to wear trousers - just dresses and skirts every day. So it's hard for me to imagine none pink girls.

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tide · 23/12/2009 17:02

dear herbietea: that's so great to hear. there are four brothers at our school who always kiss their mum at drop off time, in front of everyone. and there's another mum I know who has three boys, two early twenties and one 6, who always thought she would have girls but can't believe the amount of straightforward love and affection she gets from them.

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gingertoo · 23/12/2009 17:06

Three boys here - couldn't be happier

Jamieandhismagictorch · 23/12/2009 17:07

They are also like chalk and cheese in so many ways and if i had one of each might have thought that was becasue one of them was a girl iyswim.

Totally agree BedfordFalls. I have 2 boys

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tide · 23/12/2009 17:10

dear gingertoo: did you get the same grief from other people I got/get?

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LizzyLordsALeaping · 23/12/2009 17:13

Totally agree with Jamie who is agreeing with Bedfordgirls

My two are very close but very different and very wonderful.

DH and I were talking about the possibility of trying for another DC and the very first thing he said was "Imagine, another little baby boy, the boys would love him, it would be fantastic".
We have it in our heads that we can only produce boys, it is a shame that I am outnumbered, but my boys flood me with love and adoration.

We have two wonderful children, who happen to be boys.

sweetkitty · 23/12/2009 17:19

3 girls here and get the same (but different way round) everyone pity's my DH saying he must want a son.

We get all the "bitchy" "teenage years" "weddings" comments all the time too. Unless you have one of each then stop people will always comment (and even if you have one of each you are told how clever you are and that you must be finished)

Am pregnant with no4 and am getting all the "oh trying for a boy?" thing all the time. We all have it in our heads it's another girl and we are so happy about that.

My DD2 is more like a boy than most boys I know.

I think individual personalities are more important than gender.

LizzyLordsALeaping · 23/12/2009 17:22

Sweetkitty, my DS1 is more like a girl than most girls I know!

Congrats on No. 4. One thing stopping me ttc no. 3 is all the "trying for a girl?" questions.
No, trying for a baby!

People can be so very dim, can't they!

Oblomov · 23/12/2009 17:24

2 boys. great. what is therenot to like about having boys ? or i guess you are saying thtas maybe wanting a girl ASWELL ?
I think I always knew that boys were fab. many people told me thast they were often more loving and cuddily than girls.

piscesmoon · 23/12/2009 17:24

Three boys here-and lovely! I don't know why people are so negative. A recent thread tried to say that girls are more polite-utter rubbish! It depends on how they are brought up, not gender.

gloomgirl · 23/12/2009 17:27

I needed this thread!!!

3 boys here and loving it!

they fill my life with uncomplicated and unconditional love both ways and the cuddles are wonderful!

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tide · 23/12/2009 17:28

keep it coming please! how many of you are in the UK/urban areas? we've moved out of london and I have to say there's less of the anti-boy stuff. I do get the feeling city parents (Brits in general?) prefer their kids to be seen (decoratively) and not heard...

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