Any one else who actually LIKES having all boys?

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I can't tell you how sick I am of all the demonising of boys that goes on in mum circles. When I was about to have my third boy all I got was pitying comments about how brave/foolish I was. Got me so worried. And all so unneccesarily. Who says boys are always more unruly/messy/loud/sports crazy/obtuse etc etc. Mine aren't. They sit and draw for hours, they cook, they give the best hugs and chats... all the things I was told I would be missing out on if I didn't have girls. So far all I've missed out on is endless fights about what to wear, moans, whinges and psycho warfare. Why did no-one tell me boys could be so lovely? That's not true. Before the first was born the old Irish lady next door told me. But I didn't believe her. Now I do.

I have one boy here - he is ADORABLE. So sweet and loving.

I am in semi-rural Lancashire.
Traditionally boys would be seen as good potential farmhands, I suppose!

I do get a lot of "not fancy trying for a girl then?" from people, lots of it.

I have 3 boys and they are wonderful.

I do get fed up of being told by strangers as we walk down the road " wow 3 boys, you've got a handful"

or by well meaning friends / relatives "so are you going to try for a girl/"

I think the logistics are easier with 3 the same: smae clothes passed down, same toys, though 3 very different personalities!

I have three boys, love them to pieces. I was a bit disappointed when I had my 20 week scan when we were told that we were having another boy, but that lasted all of 5 seconds.

I often get asked if I'll keep trying until I get a girl . As if having three kids wasn't enough of a challenge! And have had a couple of omments about having two more boys to get a 5 a side team.

I have 3 DSs and 2 nephews (ages ranging from 2 to 9) with me right now .

Blooming noisy, can hardly hear myself think, but I love it.

Way way back in the mists of time, I remember telling my 6th form friends that I wanted all boys and I got them.

Nowt wrong with girls, but just wanted to be a mother to boys. I seem to relate to them better.

3 boys here too - all very different personalities, all very lovely and loving and all adore me (I quite like being the only girl in the house!). I wouldn't be without them for the world. My brother has 3 boys too and my mum is more than happy with her 6 grandsons.

I also got the "are you trying for a girl then?" when I was pregant with DS3, which really irritated me - as if DS2 being a second boy had been a disappointment and we were going to keep on popping out babies until we got one of the right gender. I was thrilled to have a third boy - we're stopping at three, so hopefully it's clear to all those unhelpful people that we don't feel anything is missing from our family by not having a pink princess.

there is a lady in the local supermarket who has said to me on at least four occasions "3 boys? oh dear" which I think is insufferably rude!

People are very rude when they find out you are having another boy. One of my friends has had some terrible comments and I have noticed a difference in excitement when someone says they are having a girl. However, many people will almost defend it by saying but my boys are so quiet, artistic etc etc. Well my boys are loud, boisterous, rough and tumble, love wrestling with anyone they can and have me chasing all over the place after them. They don't like sitting quietly doing art and one is very shy of affection BUT they are still great despite being unlike girls and very funny and cute. And when the less affectionate one gives me a cuddle out of the blue, it is incredibly touching.

And as to being simple, well my ds1 is a complicated, emotionally, sensitive creature but has his typical football gang and boys toys. Basically there is way too much stereotyping as well as too much apologising for boys' natural behaviours.

BTW I have a girl too and before she was born all I got was "wait till she is a teenager". There is no winning.

I have 3 boys and initially I did want a daughter but once I had DS2 I just assumed I would have all boys.

There was no dissapointment at all when DS3 arrived, I did get all the 'trying for' and 'oh sorry it's another boy' comments but was happy with my lot and was done with being preg etc.

Am 6m preg with DC4 (a suprise!) and have been told this one is a girl. Two different sonographers think so anyway.

I found this out at 19 weeks and still am not sure how I feel about it. Although I thought I always wanted a girl, I got used to the idea of having only boys and although I know I will be overjoyed when she arrives, I can't get my head round it at the moment.

I love having three boys, would love another child but only if I could have another (red head) boy, anything different now would just stand out. I echo the idea of it being great being the only girl in the household, and I'm with ThomasTank getting annoyed at the perpetual 'ooh three boys, you've got your hands full.'

When I was pregnant with DS1 and people asked what I wanted I parroted out the 'anything as long as it's healthy' whilst shouting in my head 'I want a little boy with red hair' looks like I wished too hard!

And 'boak' at Lelli Kelli shoes!

1 boy here and hes fantastic.

2 boys here too and they are the most affectionate loving boys ever. DS1 is 9 and is still happy to have a cuddle in public. I wouldn't have minded one of each but I 'knew' that DS2 would be a boy from the very beginning of my pregnancy and I wasn't disappointed at all. What I wouldn't have liked is 2 or more girls but then I am not a girly girl so maybe why.

Funnily enough, my mum said to me the other day that she had been talking to my dad and brother and they all agreed they couldn't imagine me with girls.

But I suppose there is more to personality than gender. My MIL had 3 boys and then had 4 grandsons. She was desperate for a girl and was delighted when one of her sons adopted a boy and a girl. However, no pink dresses and dolls there either - she is a total tomboy and probably more of a boy than my DS1! At least she fits right in with the rest of the family

Niecie - interesting you say that you are not a girly girl. DW says exactly the same and cannot imagine having a girl. We have two boys and we do of course love them. DW once asked if I would have liked a girl but really I feel very happy with our DSs. In a way DS2 role plays the 'girl' as he likes dressing up, sitting down drawing, making necklaces, very emotionally intelligent, etc While DS1 is the opposite.

We send both boys to a former girls school and they were the first two boys in the school when it went co-ed so we are trying our best to give them 'pink tinge'.

How do you manage to get your DS to cuddle in public though? Both DS1 (9) an DS2 (7) will not even hold my hand. That makes me a bit .

lostinwales Your picture of your 3 boys on your profile is lovely, very handsome and red-headed

I have a dd and was pregnant with a dc, i had comments like ooh your want a boy, and my dh best man said what will you do if you have a girl? well you cant send it back to the shop for a replacement can you . I had a miscarriage and its put things into perspective, i am happy to have a happy healthy baby regardless of being a boy or girl.

2 boys here. They are adorable and I love them both to bits. I get the "you've got your hands full" comments with just the 2 of them, which I find slightly irksome, but I supoose it's just something to say...

More worrying is wanting to TTC a third but feeling v defensive of DS2 and that people will assume I wasn't happy to have a second boy, and am trying for the girl I didn't get that time round - when in fact I really wanted another boy, and would be perfectly happy to have a third DS. I know that those assumptions (if made - I don't really think everyone is going round thinking about the composition of my family all the time...) would not be correct, which is all that matters, but it makes me feel v protective of DS2!

Oh thank you so much blametheparents, I obviously think they are gorgeous but it is exceedingly lovely when other people tell me so. I must take a photo of them in the sun so people can get the benefit of their red red hair! You make great looking children cakes!

Ah yes, I make cakes, but I eat children! lol!

Have always loved red heads, but alas not a hint of any red for either of my two
Perhaps I should have married a red head (don't tell DH!)

Do you not think the "got your hands full" comment is more to anyone who dares to have more than 2 children?

I have 3 girls and have totally lost count of how many people have told me that I must have my hands full.

I also have all the pitying and the feeling sorry for my dh, plus all the
"oh dear, just wait till they get to teenagers"
oh yes and even the
"3 girls? oh no no no, you don't want 3 girls"

• I mean really?? WTF?

I generally pass it off as people wanting to comment just for the sake of having a chat, but sometimes it really pisses me off and I want to go tell them to boil their heads ...

blametheparents, apparently I told everyone as a small child I would marry a man with red hair! Didn't find that out until after the wedding. Whan DH's (readhaired) cousin had her first child with brown hair, I accidently said 'nevermind the next one might have red hair' before I realised what I was saying

Boys are ace!

I always wanted boys (my dream family would be 5 boys!) and have 1 DS. Due again in May and I know I shouldn't have a preference, but I would REALLY like another boy.

There's something so straightforward about boys. OK, they can be noisy, boisterous (sp?) and messy, but that's the appeal for me.

I guess it's also what you're used to and the fear of the unknown. Tbh, I (think) I know how to deal with boys now I've had one and girls are so different.

People say daft things all the time, just try to ignore it. You love having your boys and they just don't know what they're talking about!

And if you have a boy and a girl people will think that they won't have that special bond that 2 girls have or 2 boys... you can't win!!

I have 2 boys and a girl. My girl is delightful and I love her to bits. My boys are AFFECTIONATE, LOVING, SWEET and SENSITIVE. I adore them and they absolutely melt my heart in a completely different way to my dd. I feel so lucky to have boys!

I wanted three boys. I imagined them all sitting on the back seat of the car in a row looking cute.

When I found out at the scan DD was a girl I burst in to tears.

She's really not that bad though.

Random old ladies seem to think I've done rather well to prduce 2 boys and a gril, as if it's some perfect combination.

Cant people be happy with what they are given, Mishy i know you want boys but what if you have a girl or several! Just be happy with what you have instead of having this idealised image. I did before the m/c wanted a boy so that i would have one of each flavour but now would just be happy to be able to have another dc boy or girl.

Lynette i expect that ALL your children are lovely.