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Any one else who actually LIKES having all boys?

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tide · 23/12/2009 16:26

I can't tell you how sick I am of all the demonising of boys that goes on in mum circles. When I was about to have my third boy all I got was pitying comments about how brave/foolish I was. Got me so worried. And all so unneccesarily. Who says boys are always more unruly/messy/loud/sports crazy/obtuse etc etc. Mine aren't. They sit and draw for hours, they cook, they give the best hugs and chats... all the things I was told I would be missing out on if I didn't have girls. So far all I've missed out on is endless fights about what to wear, moans, whinges and psycho warfare. Why did no-one tell me boys could be so lovely? That's not true. Before the first was born the old Irish lady next door told me. But I didn't believe her. Now I do.

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verybusyspider · 28/12/2009 21:01

will - well read, I missed that entirely

CarrotForKing · 28/12/2009 21:03

Oh my ds is fantastic. So affectionate and cheeky, thoughtful and loving, noisy and funny. I adore him (and dd of course but just not on this thread )

PootleTheFlump · 28/12/2009 21:47

This thread made me think of this

bogie · 28/12/2009 21:48

I have 1 of each and another girl on the way, but I really wanted 2 boys I think it is lovley when people have all boys... I wouldn't change in now dd is here but I would have loved her to have been a boy.

mumofsevenplusfour · 28/12/2009 22:35

as a mother of 4 boys 3 girls the thing that really annoys is peoples stereotypes particularly notice with ds4 a really blessing conceived post m/c and really gentle kind loving little boy as are his broters ok yes they can be a bit noisy and boisterous at times but i love them all dearly and certainly so far as teenagers the boys have been easier than there more hormonal sisters.
what really annoys is if you walk into any shop all the girls t shirts etc are mummys little angel mummys little pet while you can find nothing positive about boys its all little monster liitle monkey etc almost setting boys up to be trouble from the start
BOYS ARE GREAT TOO

pigletmania · 28/12/2009 22:55

wilfell that was my bad typing meant bond sorry [fshame]

displayuntiltwelfthnight · 28/12/2009 23:01

3 boys here and they are great fun, affectionate, funny and rough-and-tumbly. I didn't mind what I had when I was pregnant, just wanted healthy babies but having all boys is definitely great for me because I can identify with Niecie and ABetaDad talking about some mums not being "girly girls". I have no interest in plaiting hair or buying frilly party dresses, even to the point where if I have to buy a present for a daughter of a friend or relative, I find it quite tedious as I'd rather be buying boys' stuff!
All dcs would be lovely but I am VERY happy being mum to 3 boys.
(but do get quite sick of people asking me if we're going to have another baby to try for a girl next time)

AitchTwoOhOneOh · 28/12/2009 23:03

blah blah blah i find it so DULL the way that mothers of boys need to bang on about this. id rather DIE than dress either of my dds in a t-shirt marked 'mummy's little pet'.

busybeingmum · 28/12/2009 23:24

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sayithowitis · 28/12/2009 23:45

I have 2 DS's and they are great. I too, used to get wound up by people who assumed I would be disappointed that DS2 was another son. Why would I be? Actually, I secretly wanted another boy, as did ( I later discovered) DH.

To answer your point AitchTwoOhOneOh,I think the only reason that mothers of boys 'bleat on' about it, is because mothers of daughters seem to think that not having given birth to a female somehow makes us a failure! Personally, I don't see how any mother should be made to feel she has failed just because she hasn't given birth to a particular sex. It's rather like Henry VIII's reaction to his wives having daughters. I am sure that the same women would not be so judgy and feel so able to intimate failure on the part of women who give birth to children who have problems of one sort or another, so why do it to mothers of sons?

AitchTwoOhOneOh · 28/12/2009 23:49

i didn't say bleat.

and why are boys so special, don't you think we mothers of daughters get the same treatment in reverse? i think that you've all got chips on your shoulders, personally. of COURSE boys are great, as are girls. but i have to listen while my friends who have only boys tell me how bitchy and awful my daughters are going to be in the future.

displayuntiltwelfthnight · 28/12/2009 23:53

Aitch - I remember what I was like as a teenaged girl and am glad I have sons!

Your friends shouldn't be telling you your daughters are going to be awful. It's all stereotyping but it is true that when you only have sons everyone seems to think that you are strange for not wanting to keep trying for a daughter!
You have no more chance of falling out with your teenaged daighters as I wil have trying to communicate with my sons while they skulk about wearing hooded tops and mumbling inaudibly about having more food...

busymummy3 · 28/12/2009 23:56

have 3 kids girl boy girl. good combination all get on most of the time except little miss can be a bit bossy towards ds and older dd finds him annoying sometimes

pigletmania · 29/12/2009 00:00

There seems to be a bit of girl bashing going on here tbh, i have a dd and she is so lovely, rough and tumbly, huggy, warm loving where do i stop. It was really sad to read in the daily mail today of a man who killed his wife and baby girl because he wanted a son . Yes its great that you have your lovely sons, but girls are also great too, not all of them are sly,bitchy and spoilt btw and can actually be lovely adults too

pigletmania · 29/12/2009 00:02

When we are trying again we will be trying for a baby whatever sex it is. Before the m/c i got ooh so you will want a boy then! what happens if you dont have one and have another girl so you will keep trying until you have a boy then. I just want another baby fgs

sayithowitis · 29/12/2009 00:58

Sorry Aitch, you are right, you didn't say bleat, you said bang on, same thing in my book, but I apologise for mis-quoting you.

I have never said that I think boys are better than girls, truth is, that with DS1 I really didn't care one way or another as long as my pregnancy didn't end the same way as several others did, in a MC. Once I had DS1, and we wanted DC2, at that point, I wanted another boy. Not because they are 'better', but because I felt it would be a better playmate and companion for DS1, also, practically, we were set up for boys with regard to clothing, toys etc and space would have been an issue if we had had a girl. I don't doubt you have had friends tell you nasty things to expect of your girls. I don't do that because I don't believe that one is better or worse than the other. They all bring their issues. Maybe those that are like that to you are a bit jealous? Or maybe they pick up a certain vibe from you? I don't know. I can only say that for me, having had both my Mum and MIL go on and on about wanting a grand daughter throughout every one of my pregnancies, and the disappointment they both expressed when they were told that my two successful pregnancies had produced healthy grandsons, has maybe coloured my view on this somewhat.

AitchTwoOhOneOh · 29/12/2009 01:16

well of course it's coloured your view, that's my point. but you're plumb wrong if you think that if you'd produced three girls or whatever that people wouldn't have been asking you if you'd be trying for a boy. it's just silly.
personally i think that the mums of just boys must have some regrets that they'll never have a daughter, just as i have some regret that i will never have a boy. how extraordinary, however, that you think i'm giving off some vibe that invites comment on my girls yet you don't think the same of all these women on here who are complaining of the 'negative' comments they get and are promoting boys by bashing girls. read the OP again, it's horrible.

sayithowitis · 29/12/2009 01:29

Actually, I tend to agree with you Aitch, however, I can honestly say, I have no regrets whatsoever that I never had a daughter.I am sure I would never have regretted not having a son if I had had all daughters. I do think that to make sweeping generalisations about what boys/girls are like is a tad silly. I know that however much I love my sons, and they love me, life is never all rosy and that there will be times when we don't like each other very much. And anyone who says different is just living in cloud cuckoo land. But then mine are grown up now and I have the wonderful benefit of hindsight, which clearly some of the mums on here do not yet have. It does get harder when they get older, especially the teenage years, and sometimes it is hard being piggy in the middle when they are having the manly power struggles with DH. It can be hard having 3 men in the house, but I wouldn't change it. I know, coming from a family of girls, that it makes no real difference whether the household is boy or girl dominated, there are still problems, just different ones!

pigletmania · 29/12/2009 01:37

Yes the op is bashing girls a bit imo, not all girls are psychos who fight and moan all day long as she suggests. Obviously she does not have much experience of them. The girls and boys that i know are lovely, yes there are some girls and boys that i have come accross that can be brats but not often.

pigletmania · 29/12/2009 01:42

Yes i agree satithowitis, when both girls and boys become teenagers they present problems but different ones, not that the girls are hormonal whiney and boys are all sweetness and light and perfect, i dont think so somehow, ever watch kevin and perry very funny.

shabbapinkfrog · 29/12/2009 01:53

Sorry but I havent read all the thread - just wanted to say that I am the proud mum of 4 DS's. Two of my sons are not physically here but are always with me. Story on my profile.

I just think that being able to have children is a massive, amazing, wondeful opportunity and I am more than happy with what I have been given.

I have never had a daughter - they frighten me girls are so capable...they just seem to know what to do...and boys, well!!!! they are so funny - always need their Mums - no matter how old they are.

This life is short and we should all embrace it xx

pigletmania · 29/12/2009 10:09

Aww shabbapink , i did read your profile. yes in the grand scheme of things all this petty arguing about which sex is better is very immature, ALL children are a miracle and not a right, and we should be thankful that we are able to have them boys or girls as some unfortunately cannot.

Flame · 29/12/2009 10:17

I want your boys. Mine is a git.

shabbapinkfrog · 29/12/2009 10:24

Flame - LOL at your post!!

BeckyBendyLegs · 29/12/2009 11:05

I haven't read all the posts but six weeks ago I had my third boy and I love my boys so much! I also get fed up of people saying (when I was pregnant) 'I bet you are hoping for a girl' and (now I've had another boy) 'are you going to try again for a girl?'. I knew (gut feeling) that DS3 was a boy and I was happy when he was born. I love them all, they are a little team and they are all so cuddly and loving.