Controlled crying - please don't shout at me

[treadwithcare]

Please don't shout at me - positive responses only please - I am going to attempt controlled crying this evening. Who out there has done it successfully? And how did you do it? I am on my own for the next five days so it seems a sensible time to start. I need to teach dd to settle self to sleep without me pushing her in the pram in the freezing cold or taking her for a drive. How did you do it and how long did it take?

I was brought up with the 'if their bum is clean, they've been fed and they're crying, they are fine' philosophy. I consider myself a fairly confident and balanced individual. However, with my DS I don't seem to have too much trouble. He is 6.5 months old and I have let him lead me. He has always had a bath around 7pm since birth. His bedtime has gotten earlier and now instead of 10.30pm it is around 8pm. I take him upstairs to be bf at about 7.30. From then on I do not speak to him at all. I whisper I love you as I put him down, just in case he hears me . If he is still awake I potter around his room in semi darkness, putting clothes away etc. I also use that time for me to chill too. Catch up on FB with friends or whatever. Eventually, 30 mins after feeding him max, he nods off curled up on his tummy. He sleeps, generally through until about 6.30am. If he wakes during the night, I don't speak to him, or change his nappy, unless absolutely necessary. If it is only a couple of hours since he fed, I shush him and sit quietly by his cot. If its a while since I fed him, say 4 or 5 hours, I feed him with no comms and put him back.
Sorry for the long thread , I guess my point is - stay calm, and trust yourself to do what works for you. It is tough on your own, it is tough if you're not tbh, but find a solution for you and your dc and stick with it.