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Do you swear at/kick your kids?!>!>!

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CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 22:54

I just watched a bit of "driving mum and dad mad" (car crash tv prog on tonight)

A family were on for help with dealing with their 5 yo ds who was allegedly out of control.

In the 5 mins I was watching, I saw the mother kicking him and shouting "fuck off you little shit" and also, upon finding him with the freezer open and the bottom drawer out, picked him up and threw him out of the room shouting "fucking leave it alone you little fucker"

WHAT DO THEY EXPECT???

I am horrified that this can be televised. It is child abuse IMO

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CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 23:11

My point exactly puff

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wheresmyfroggy · 23/02/2005 23:13

The fact that the parents are willing to have that footage of them shown on t.v makes me think they don't realise it's that wrong

am just pleased that they are willing to undertake the ppp programme and learn how to parent effectively

hope it is a sucsess for them

unicorn · 23/02/2005 23:13

I agree, I think that family (well the mother particularly) shouldn't have been televised, but they should have been dealt with off screen...
but then it just wouldn't be so sensationalist would it?

I just wonder about the bits that have been edited?

CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 23:14

wmf you must be right.

How can they not realise though? I don't understand how anyone can not realise that that is damaging behaviour

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Fran1 · 23/02/2005 23:14

Thats the thing about these documentaries, i always think if it were me i couldn't help but turn into the best possible parent i couldbe whilst cameras are rolling - i guess thats why they never come knocking at my door .

wheresmyfroggy · 23/02/2005 23:15

Maybe they were brought up in a similar way?

sad though isn't it?

JoolsToo · 23/02/2005 23:15

I suppose because for them its normal behaviour?

LGJ · 23/02/2005 23:15

Do you swear at/kick your kids

In a word ..............NO

Child abuse dressed up for the cameras

CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 23:16

well maybe

How awful and sad.

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Fran1 · 23/02/2005 23:16

God i hadn't thought about the bits taken out - maybe they'll put an extra series on ITV2!

No sorry, i do agree with you that the family need serious help rather than provided for our entertainment purposes.

But i still can't stop watching these things!

RTKangaMummy · 23/02/2005 23:17

The only thing is it may help other parents who see their kids on here

And so try to get help

unicorn · 23/02/2005 23:17

CD, I suggest that mother is just doing what was done to her?
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and therefore she desperately needs to learn parenting skills.

CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 23:17

Not my cup of tea normally but I happened to flick past it as that woman was doing her worst.

i am going to bed now, I feel so sad

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RTKangaMummy · 23/02/2005 23:18

what i mean is they may see kids like theirs and their behaviour

CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 23:18

Yes you are right kanga

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wheresmyfroggy · 23/02/2005 23:19

if that is abuse then isn't the woman who told her son he looked like a wierdo, and was child version of victor meldrew, and that him stressing her out was making her skin bad(?) mentally abusing her child

Gobbledigook · 23/02/2005 23:19

DH and I always wonder how people don't praise as it comes up a lot on these programmes - like Fran1 says, it comes naturally to say 'well done', 'clever boy'...I must have said it 100 times today while doing jigsaws, climbing in the Wacky, eating up dinner, saying thank you....SO easy it's not true!

That's not to say I don't do my fair share of telling off! My boys can be horror bags but no way would I swear at them or kick them.

JoolsToo · 23/02/2005 23:20

again - where have you been?

CountessDracula · 23/02/2005 23:20

missed that

Presumably if he is young he won't know who victor meldrew is lol!

The rest sounds awful

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Gobbledigook · 23/02/2005 23:21

Have replied on t'other thread!

Gobbledigook · 23/02/2005 23:22

Going to bed now Mammy - speak to you tomorrow x

wheresmyfroggy · 23/02/2005 23:22

CD - be pleased you missed that bit, you'd be even sadder

LGJ · 23/02/2005 23:24

CD I missed it and I just feel sad reading about it.

I try to positive parent DS 3.5 mixed with a healthy dose of, don't you dare young man. I knew it was working when he dressed himself the other day and said .......Are you very proud of me ??

I didn't realise how often I told him I loved him and I was proud of him

RTKangaMummy · 23/02/2005 23:27

That was lovely when the mum read a story to ANGUS and he went to sleep

She said she had forgotten she could do that

rogan2001 · 23/02/2005 23:42

I missed the programme because i had been watching crimewatch and forgot to turn over, but when i was in a shop the other day a woman was in there with her son who was about 4 and he started wandering off and she shouted " come here you fuckin little bastard"I thought it was totally disgusting, I would'nt speak to my son like that in the privacy of my own home how about in the middle of a packed shop.How do these parents expect thier children to grow up with any respect, when treated like that.

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