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Bullying - my dd being accused of bullying by some women I fell out with !

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Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 14:23

Not sure where to start with this really !

Up till last year I was very friendly with a couple of other mums at school - anyway I was getting increasingly fed up with one of them as she was never around in the day (she works full time) and rarely did playdates - and fundamentally I disagree with mums working - but anyway - I decided to end the friendship by starting an email argument - which she fell for hook line and sinker - and a few months later she stopped speaking to me which was great.

Later in the year I confronted the other woman who had continued to be friends with the first one and told her she had to choose between us as it was disloyal of her to still see the other one knowing that I hated her ! Unfortunately she wasn't the person I thought she was and refused to make the break - so I ended up not being friends with her either !

Obviously those two have talked about me to loads of people as a lot of people at school are wary of me now and I don't really have many friends - but i think that's their problem really !

Anyhow - now my dd is being accused of bullying their two dds at school ! I have been summoned into the school and told of her alleged misdemeanours and the school have given her an official warning and put her on a report card ! I am furious of course as the two biches have clearly dreamed this up together to get back at me !

I need a plan for revenge !!! What would you do ?

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hatrick · 12/06/2008 21:07

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 12/06/2008 21:16

How bizarre!

RubberDuck · 12/06/2008 21:22

Am guessing this was the original thread from a year ago: mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2724&threadid=310582#6256541

milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk · 12/06/2008 21:51

how odd

StarlightMcKenzie · 12/06/2008 21:54

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RubberDuck · 12/06/2008 21:59

Just call me Search Guru

(I did it the slow way - used poster's name specifying Jan - June 07 and scanned down the thread titles. It helped that I vaguely remembered the thread in question.)

scatterbrain · 12/06/2008 21:59

Oh My God - why did you link it RubberDuck ?

Please please get that link deleted before she sees it and goes berserk

RubberDuck · 12/06/2008 22:05

given that you've posted extensively on this thread and the previous thread wasn't exactly hard to find, I don't think she'll be surprised, even if genuine.

scatterbrain · 12/06/2008 22:07

She wasn't on here then and definitely hadn't read it then - I can't believe you did that - you just made my life a lot harder ! I did say I didn't want to link back ! God - please please get it deleted

1dilemma · 12/06/2008 22:07

not read whole thread yet. In linked one scatter has a full-time job and describes both these women as being glam not one is short and fat so sad in such a short time

micci25 · 12/06/2008 22:08

i know a woman like this we had problems as teenagers, she was a bully then and made the mistake to pick on my little sister, and endured much retaliation from me. but in my defence i was only 15 and didnt know any better.

she is now 23 and her sons to go to nursery with my dd1. they told my dd that she is always scruffy has no nice clothes i am old enough to rise above it now and told dd to ignore them that they are only jelous, although tbh i did find it rather amusing as this woman appears to be rather unfortunate financially and that shows in how she dresses herself and her ds's. but that is my opinion and i did not tell dd this obv.

my dd1 is more mature than this woman and the op. she is 4 years old!!!

lambiepie you need to get off the the pc and let your mummy have a go. surely you have homework to do?

scatterbrain · 12/06/2008 22:09

Read the whole thread then - I am the short fat one that works full time ! They are both glam and SAHMs

1dilemma · 12/06/2008 22:10

sorry confused I see scatter is the wronged will read next time

at least I said I hadn't

1dilemma · 12/06/2008 22:12

sorry cross posted
I'd assumed you were glam

RubberDuck · 12/06/2008 22:13

Um... so you think she wouldn't return to this thread after all these posts confirming you knew her Even without the link it wouldn't actually take Sherlock to work out who you are. You do realise these things are stored don't you?

If not trollery, suggest you get the linked thread removed if you're that concerned.

scatterbrain · 12/06/2008 22:15

Thanks - that's really helpful - definitely supportive

LyraSilvertongue · 12/06/2008 22:17

One of scatterbrain's other names is Littlelamb, or something to do with lambs.
Getting suspicious...

scatterbrain · 12/06/2008 22:18

That's purely a coincidence - Blimey what is it with all the amateur sleuthing ?

StarlightMcKenzie · 12/06/2008 22:19

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LyraSilvertongue · 12/06/2008 22:20

I remember because she was rude to me a while back under both names.

wannaBe · 12/06/2008 22:23

oh fgs.

for one, the op in this thread said that the working one and the other one had remained friends despite her demands to the one to stop seeing the working one, and the thread linked to said that the op (I assume) and the other one had remained friends, so not the same.

secondly, given that sb came on to this thread, identified herself as the ex friend in question and made reference to issues she had had with this woman, she's hardly in a position to start getting upset about original thread being linked to as she was the one who started the identification process.

Thirdly, if one is going to write identifyable information on the internet, then one cannot really get upset that people might read it.

But I have to say that this sounds like tipicle trolling to me. Op comes on, makes a ludicress suggestion, people don't agreewith her. And then the wronged party comes on, makes claim to victim status, and then claims that those linking to said victim's original posts are the ones making her life difficult because of identifyable information in the other thread. Oh and op claims to be regular... .

I suspect they are one and the same poster, or at least sb and a friend having a larf.

scatterbrain · 12/06/2008 22:29

I am really not having much of a laugh - Lambiepie has now started sending nasty emails round to all the other mums quoting stuff I've said on here.

No - definitely not enjoying myself at all.

Tortington · 12/06/2008 22:29

i can't see what the problem is

whats with the outing and naming and shaming FGS!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 12/06/2008 22:32

Yes, indeed custy. Tres bizarre.

I think I've said that already

Is there a lighthearted thread somewhere I can arse about on?

AitchTwoCiao · 12/06/2008 22:33

man, this is an odd set of events...