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Bullying - my dd being accused of bullying by some women I fell out with !

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Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 14:23

Not sure where to start with this really !

Up till last year I was very friendly with a couple of other mums at school - anyway I was getting increasingly fed up with one of them as she was never around in the day (she works full time) and rarely did playdates - and fundamentally I disagree with mums working - but anyway - I decided to end the friendship by starting an email argument - which she fell for hook line and sinker - and a few months later she stopped speaking to me which was great.

Later in the year I confronted the other woman who had continued to be friends with the first one and told her she had to choose between us as it was disloyal of her to still see the other one knowing that I hated her ! Unfortunately she wasn't the person I thought she was and refused to make the break - so I ended up not being friends with her either !

Obviously those two have talked about me to loads of people as a lot of people at school are wary of me now and I don't really have many friends - but i think that's their problem really !

Anyhow - now my dd is being accused of bullying their two dds at school ! I have been summoned into the school and told of her alleged misdemeanours and the school have given her an official warning and put her on a report card ! I am furious of course as the two biches have clearly dreamed this up together to get back at me !

I need a plan for revenge !!! What would you do ?

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Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:10

Is it a crime for me to disagree with mum's working while their kids are young ? Aren't I entitled to my opinion ?

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Cammelia · 12/06/2008 15:11

Get real

oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:11

Why should the other women stop talking to your ex-friend just because you got fed up with her - in my opinion they are both well rid.

Do you think the teacher is involved in this scheme to make your DD out to be bully or distruptive?

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:12

I think the teacher has been hoodwinked by these two other mums. i think she likes them more than she likes me and likes their dd's more than she likes mine - so she is taking their words against mine.

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beaniesteve · 12/06/2008 15:13

"and fundamentally I disagree with mums working "

this was part of your reasoning?

I've not read the rest of the thread. Sorry if someone has already highlighted this part of your post.

oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:14

Your entitled to think that its not best for you but that isn't the case for everyone. If have worked full time since my DS was 5 months old. This wasn't out of choice but out of necessity. My DS has grown to be an extremely well-rounded, kind, loving and sociably boy.

Have you ever thought that the reason your DD doesn't get invited on playdates is because the other parents don't want to have to deal with you?

Carmenere · 12/06/2008 15:15

You know Lamb shit happens, suck it up and get over it

Pinkjenny · 12/06/2008 15:15

If this is such a genuine thread and you are so confident in your opinions, why name change?

fryalot · 12/06/2008 15:15

" By Lambiepie on Thu 12-Jun-08 15:12:39
I think the teacher has been hoodwinked by these two other mums. i think she likes them more than she likes me and likes their dd's more than she likes mine - so she is taking their words against mine. "

um... yes, probably

beaniesteve · 12/06/2008 15:16

at Squonk.

BouncingTurtle · 12/06/2008 15:16

Bored now

Going to play with puppy now.

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:17

Oh yes I know some people have to work - but these two have high earning husbands and lovely houses, nice cars etc - they just work because they want to and want to have nice holidays etc. It is definietly a lifesytly choice rather than a necessity. we would rather have old cars and go on cheap holidays so I can be there for the children while they need me to be.

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Twiglett · 12/06/2008 15:17

so do you have many / any friends and what are your main personal qualities that you offer in these friendships?

madamez · 12/06/2008 15:17

What you need is some nice tinfoil hats for both you and your imaginary DD. THose will keep the alien rays from contaminating you and stop your enemies from beaming their wicked thoughts in your direction.
ONce those are in place and you are feeling better, perhaps you could call NHS direct for their advice policy on removing a horsehair tampon.

Pinkjenny · 12/06/2008 15:18

Going to have to flounce, this is making my blood boil. There seems to be a lot of WOHM bashing on here today.

Cammelia · 12/06/2008 15:19

PMSL

Carmenere · 12/06/2008 15:19

Oh Pink don't even consider rising to the bait.

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:19

I really don't see why you are getting so heated ! I am just saying that's all !

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Cammelia · 12/06/2008 15:20

Yada

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:20

what's Yada mean ?

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oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:20

God, I'm bored now. Pregnancy hormones can't take much more - off home to my huge house to book my fab holiday and drive my three cars that I obv have since I'm a working mum!

Carmenere · 12/06/2008 15:21

Look Lamb you are crap at this, if you were even vaguely for real you would have been very offended AGES ago. Give it up.

Twiglett · 12/06/2008 15:22

not intelligent enough to do it properly

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:23

Crap at what ?? Mumsnetting ?

I am offended but I just don't understand why you don't agree with me. Why ae you all taking the other mum's sides ? Why don't you take my side - dh agrees with me entirely.

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Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:25

I am intelligent - I used to have a great job before I had my kids - but I have chosen not to work while they are young. That doesn't make me uninteligent does it ?

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