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Bullying - my dd being accused of bullying by some women I fell out with !

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Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 14:23

Not sure where to start with this really !

Up till last year I was very friendly with a couple of other mums at school - anyway I was getting increasingly fed up with one of them as she was never around in the day (she works full time) and rarely did playdates - and fundamentally I disagree with mums working - but anyway - I decided to end the friendship by starting an email argument - which she fell for hook line and sinker - and a few months later she stopped speaking to me which was great.

Later in the year I confronted the other woman who had continued to be friends with the first one and told her she had to choose between us as it was disloyal of her to still see the other one knowing that I hated her ! Unfortunately she wasn't the person I thought she was and refused to make the break - so I ended up not being friends with her either !

Obviously those two have talked about me to loads of people as a lot of people at school are wary of me now and I don't really have many friends - but i think that's their problem really !

Anyhow - now my dd is being accused of bullying their two dds at school ! I have been summoned into the school and told of her alleged misdemeanours and the school have given her an official warning and put her on a report card ! I am furious of course as the two biches have clearly dreamed this up together to get back at me !

I need a plan for revenge !!! What would you do ?

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oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 14:52

As a working mum I'm voicing my opinion as loudly as I can in an open plan office

TROLL TROLL TROLL TROLL TROLL

fryalot · 12/06/2008 14:52

pmsl Love2bake

come on, tell us who you are, I have to tidy the living room before getting dd2 from nursery and times getting on you know

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 14:52

I need to think about what you've said there Seona - it is pretty much what the second woman said to me at the time but I was certain I was in the right - you're making me slightly doubt that now ....

I haven't been on any other threads today by the way - have only just got in from manicure and will be off again on school run shortly.

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Pinkjenny · 12/06/2008 14:53

TROLL!!!!!!!!!

Youcannotbeserious · 12/06/2008 14:54

oh, such a troll.... makes breastfeeding more enjoyable tho...

fryalot · 12/06/2008 14:54
BouncingTurtle · 12/06/2008 14:54

"slightly doubt"

Words fail me

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 14:55

Why do you feel sorry for nmy dd ? She is a great girl - very feisty and very funny - she has some excellent one liners !

She has been a little down as she lost her two best friends through the fall out last year and since then has had very few playdates and mainly with new kids to the school, and rarely gets more than a couple before they move on to be friends with other kids. But she is OK - she is perfectly hapy in herself.

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Cammelia · 12/06/2008 14:55

Believe me I have met a Lambiepie in RL

Very scary

Carmenere · 12/06/2008 14:56

Perhaps not a troll but as a bitch my dear, you are an amateur. You don't make people feel bad about their life choices by confronting them and being openly stupidly bitchy. You smile sweetly and ignore them and have little to do with them, that way everyone is happy.

barnstaple · 12/06/2008 14:56

Lambiepie, you're quite right. Your daughter is being picked on by teachers and peers and will be picked on by everyone she ever meets. So will you. You will both have horrible lives and no one will like you or want to be friends, and it will always be their fault. You will have to put spells on every one to make them behave properly towards you in future.

BouncingTurtle · 12/06/2008 15:00

i feel sorry for her because she will get to the point of having no friends, because you are giving her the message that is okay to treat others so nastily. I'm not surprised her friends move onto others - probably because she does bully them!
She sounds like a great kid who is being led by a very bad example.

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:00

At last - thank you barnstaple!

So what shall I do?

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oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:03

You should grow up is what you should do! What a complete waste of space time

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:03

But bouncingturthle - I am teaching her to stand up for ewhat she believes in - is that not the right thing to do ?

She tells people what she thinks of them honestly - I admire honesty, She is not false - she doesn't pretend to ike people that she doesn't like. I think I have given her good solid values.

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BouncingTurtle · 12/06/2008 15:03

PMSL.

We obviously need a sarcasm emoticon.

Cammelia · 12/06/2008 15:04

Is that you Greensleeves?

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:04

Oh I don't get you people - you are all weird today !

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Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:05

I'm not coming out of the closet - sorry !

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oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:05

There is a difference between being honest and being down right ignorant and nasty. If your DD treats people they way that you treat people then she is in for a very hard and loney life.

oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:06

sorry should have been lonely not loney

Obv getting myself worked up there!!

BouncingTurtle · 12/06/2008 15:07

There's standing up for yourself and there's bullying. There is a fine line between them, and I believe your dd is on the wrong side of it.

'Allegedyl my dd has been telling girls in her class that x hates them, and then no-one has been speaking to x - so x has got upset ! (she is also a child of a working mother so I am not really surprised though). Then she has also alegedly been saying to child y that she is fat and ugly (she looks like her mum by the way - the one I fell out with first).'

I suspect there is nothing alleged about this. What nasty, horrible behaviour. It is not frankness" that caused your dd to say Y is fat and ugly. It is nasty and unnecessary.

kiskideesameanoldmother · 12/06/2008 15:08

to OP

If you are not a troll then...
A) you have too much time on your hands.
B) I hope you don't live within a 50mile radius of me.

oopsadaisyangel · 12/06/2008 15:08

"she is also a child of a working mother so I am not really surprised though"

FFS wind your neck in and (as my granny would say "go boil ur heed"

Lambiepie · 12/06/2008 15:09

I don't really see what you think I have done wrong !!

I ended a friendship after getting fed up with the woman, then I asked the other friend to give me some loyalty and stop seeing the first one - then they've gossiped about me and spread lies (probably) about the whole fall out and now I am lonely - and my dd is getting accused of something I am sure she hasn't done !

it is so clear to me that these women have come up with the bullying story to get revenge on me ! Why can't any of you see that I am the victim here not the perpetrator ?

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