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why can't my 22m dd talk?

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lucyellensmum · 09/05/2007 13:25

why can't my little girl talk, i see that other children her age are talking the hind legs off several donkeys. I thought i did it all right, im always talking to her, reading, singing but clearly i've fucked up. Feeling V sad just now

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dustystar · 09/05/2007 13:27

Children develop at different rates so try not to worry. However if you are concerned talk to your GP or your HV. My nephew said leaa than 10 words at 2 1/2 and his HV was worried but then all of a sudden he just exploded with language and by 3 years old he was the same as most of his peers.

dustystar · 09/05/2007 13:28

That should say less than 10 words

KTeePee · 09/05/2007 13:29

I would say that 22 months is a bit early to be talking fluently....is she saying anything at all? It's absolutely nothing to do with you - my youngest sister was very late walking & talking and has turned out to be extremely bright.

The HV will assess your dd at her 2 yr checkup anyway and if she has any concerns will be able to give you advice on what to do - but please try not to worry - all children are different!

Leander · 09/05/2007 13:30

Lucyellensmum you havent fucked up all kids are different.with my ds you could have a full blown convo with him at 22 months but with my dd 24 mths we struggle to understand her, she has qiute a wide range of vocab but doesnt put words together and she also only says the beginning of a lot of words.

Twiglett · 09/05/2007 13:30

well DD didn't say her first word till she was over 2

she understood lots .. and was able to follow instructions and communicate what she wanted .. but no actual words (not even mummy)

it was NOTHING I'd done .. much as I'm sure its nothing you have done .. they just develop at different rates and you need to relax about it

she turned 3 on friday .. she won't ever shut up

my DS (who's older) said first word at 10 months and was speaking in sentences by 18 months

TooTicky · 09/05/2007 13:35

Children vary so much. My Dd1 and ds1 talked early but ds2 didn't put 2 words together until he was 3. My dd2 is 22m and doesn't say all that much. Try not to worry, just to enjoy her. Make sure you have relaxed time to play together, it's all too easy to rush from one thing to another without real play time in between. Let her take the lead when you are playing and see what happens.

Eleusis · 09/05/2007 13:36

When my DD was just 2 I was concerned that she wasn't talking as well as some other kids her age. And then a couple of months later her vocabulary exploded and she hasn't shut up since. Now DS is about the same age (2 next week) and he is the same. But, this time I am enjoying the peace because I know it won't be long until they are both blabbing away driving me bonkers.

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lucyellensmum · 09/05/2007 13:36

leander, my dd misses the ends off of most words, except for dirt which is her new word, the way she says it is so cute as she comes to me with some peice of shite shes picked up from the floor!

DD is to have speech therapy starting next week, i love her so much and just want her to be happy, which she is, i hope,just dont want her to struggle. Just can't wait to have little girly chats with her, but then i dont really want her to grow up either - oh dear

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BandofMothers · 09/05/2007 13:37

So she is talking just not ever so clearly.

lulumama · 09/05/2007 13:39

DD is 21 months old, she is just starting to say the odd word

shoes

bye bye

night night

noooooooooooo!!

she jabbers away, in what sounds like esperanto, and gets her message across, she is bound to start talking soon, but i get the feeling, when she does, she won't stop!!!

please do not worry, of course you haven't f*cked up..she will talk, at her own pace.

Malaleche · 09/05/2007 13:39

why is she having speech therapy?

GooseyLoosey · 09/05/2007 13:40

Cos she's 22 months old and its not the right time for her. Nothing you can do to change it. Maybe she is so happy, there is nothing she needs to communicate to you!

My ds was one of those children who could talk for ever and I used to bask in his reflected glory - a child genius surely! He will be starting school in Sept and how much difference is there between him and his peers now - b*er all!

I don't think there is necessarily a problem, but if you are worried, see your GP. I know several children who have had delayed speech (beyond 3) and in each case it was becuase they had glue ear and could not hear sounds properly.

LadyMacbeth · 09/05/2007 13:40

I didn't speak until I was well in to my two's... and now I never stop! If it's any consolation to you LEM, my siblings as babies were apparently very advanced in their speech but NOW my brother's pretty unintelligible and my sister can't spell for toffee. Apparently, once I could be arsed to speak I very quickly rose head and shoulders above them in terms of articulation and vocal clarity. I later went on to do English at A level (tosses mane) which neither of them did.

(Ooo get me! Sibling rivalry not an issue at all, ever...)

LadyOfTheFlowers · 09/05/2007 13:42

ds1 is 22 and babbles mostly and says 'digger' 'mummy' 'daddy'. he also asks 'wassat?' (at everything!!)
im happy with that for the time being tbh, once they start, they dont stop! lol

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lucyellensmum · 09/05/2007 13:46

thanks guys, feeling a litte better - she is having speech therapy because the SALT thinks its appropriate having assesed her (that isnt meant to sound sarcastic, it does but its not meant to - my point being that i havent really been given a reason). I think i would have worried less if this wasnt the case, she says she has expressive language delay but no assesment is being made as to why!

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TooTicky · 09/05/2007 13:48

I don't think why really comes into it.

Tutter · 09/05/2007 13:48

oh bugger, does this mean i should be worrying about ds (2yo next week, says nothing distuinguishable as english - just a concoction of 'g' and 'd' sounds)?

Eleusis · 09/05/2007 13:53

Tutter, bring him over to play with mine. He is the same. When is your DS' birthday?

Eulalia · 09/05/2007 14:00

My ds (21 months) doesn't talk either and I mean doesn't. All he can say is 'hiya' and 'no' and sort of says 'Ma'. He is 3rd child so feel this may have a lot to do with it although my guilt does rise from time to time that I don't spending enough time sitting with him and read books, talk to him etc. All I seem to be doing at the moment is either running after the other children or hauling ds2 down from somewhere he has climbed up to.

he babbles a lot though so maybe shouldn't worry - yet!

boo64 · 09/05/2007 14:06

lucyellensmum - I can't really understand why your dd is being sent for speech therapy already - there are loads of us with non-talkative dcs the same age and we aren't all being referred. Sounds like she is normal and I bet she will get going soon.

Tutter · 09/05/2007 14:09

the 17th eleusis, yours? (i remember your alterego from the antenatal thread0 (i wasn't a regular visitor and was vic891 back then)

MorocconOil · 09/05/2007 14:20

My DD was 2 on monday and only says a few words. She understands everything as she follows complex verbal instructions. I'm not worried as she seems quite happy. I know it won't be too long until she starts the why, why, why stage so I am trying to enjoy the peace while it lasts. Your SALT service must be really well resourced. It's really difficult to get referred here even if the school picks up on a problem.

ZipadiSuzy · 09/05/2007 14:26

Will come all of a sudden, don't wish it toooo soon, because once they start they don't stop! my DS1 was 4 by the time he said things you could understand, and he's fine, but my dts were 2 when they started to put words together, each child is so different, don't worry, just enjoy the peace now!

mumfor1standfinaltime · 09/05/2007 14:31

My ds is 27 months and he has only just started to 'get interested' in talking. He rarely strings things together, but he says things he sees like bus, car, nose, ears, shoes etc. He also has his own 'words' for some things like 'zet zet' is a helicopter!
I have learnt his vocabulary.

He just wasn't interested in talking! I don't think you should blame yourself, I know it can make you feel that you somehow 'can do more to help' but trust me it will come. I am learning that it will happen eventually.

Eleusis · 09/05/2007 14:48

Tutter, my DS was born on the 19th. SO you beat us by two days!

Oh, and nobody's CV mentions how old they were when they talked, walked, or any other toddler aged milestone. A few years from now it really won't matter.

You are being way too hard on yourself.

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