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my partner smacked my dd

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majormug · 07/09/2006 23:03

help.... the other night my partner smacked my daugter because she licked her hands after she had eaten a doughnut..... he had told her not to and told her to go wash her hands.... temptation got the better of her and she licked them. i giggled because its the sort of thing i would do. it was a smack not a tap. he isnt in my good books anyway.... long story but we havent been together long and even her daddy wouldnt smack for something so trivial. he is always getting at her.... on a recent holiday she went through a 'dribbly' phase (how else do i put it.... little accidents' he went mad... took away privaledges and i had to turn my head whilst i cried. i know that this is def NOT the way to treat her or deal with her but our relationship is very fragile...

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twinsetandpearls · 15/09/2006 00:05

I wasn't bumping the thread, I was enlightening you about what welshboris meant by op.

cowmad · 15/09/2006 00:11

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please resd 1st posting
what would you do if it wre in your power??

essbee · 15/09/2006 00:13

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cowmad · 15/09/2006 00:15

but she didnt read she stayed

sunchowder · 15/09/2006 00:15

Cowmad--I am so sorry that this has brought up such strong feelings in you. Please try to let this rest for now, it is very late where you are and nothing can be done at this time. We have to wait for her to make a decision.

MrsApronstrings · 15/09/2006 00:15

cowmad - I read this thread all the way through from the beginning and have stayed with it - only caught up with today's postings quite late on. I agree the initial posting is sad and worrying but unless you know the people - names addresses etc how do you help to help - other than by providing on line support?

sleepysooz · 15/09/2006 00:16

I'd leg it with dd and phone police, I'd end up in a refuge somewhere, which is still safer than staying at home! but poor little mite, just starting school, she must feel very frightened! hope mum keeps her spirits up, which is so hard to do when your're feeling crap!

essbee · 15/09/2006 00:22

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runkid · 15/09/2006 00:24

MM had the perfect oppurtunity to leave she said she still had her house.

Whose protecting and supporting that little girl!!

I was in an abusive relationship when my dd was 2 the first time he layed a hand on my dd i was gone it was totally FG out of order. Just packed my bags and walked

sleepysooz · 15/09/2006 00:25

essbee - I realise this is a tricky situation, I am very sorry to hear of your bad time aswell, I hope you are a stronger person now and are safe?

sleepysooz · 15/09/2006 00:27

runkid - how long ago did you flee and are you ok now (obviously still hurts) but I mean are you getting through it?

runkid · 15/09/2006 00:30

i left 12 years ago the best thing i ever did im safe and happy and live on my own with the kids. Have a few problems with teenage dd but it seems many do

essbee · 15/09/2006 00:35

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 15/09/2006 00:38

Sorry but I think the only reason shes staying is becuase she needs him (a man) more (wacky warehouse quote and all)

Lets face it there are a lot of women who put the men first and really, there is NO excuse.If she wants to put up with a bully thats her choice but what choice has her child got?

Its unforgivable.

If it was my friend I would tell her either get out and make it safe for child or else I will report you.I would not think twice.

You might think that would make me a bad friend but I could not standby knowing there was child at risk.SS are crap but its far more crap lying in bed at night thinking what might be happening.

I sympathise with your frustration cowmad.mm doesnt need sympathy she needs a kick up the arse.

cowmad · 15/09/2006 00:42

flip thread on read first comment

essbee · 15/09/2006 00:44

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essbee · 15/09/2006 00:45

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 15/09/2006 00:47

Whats? all that about??

essbee · 15/09/2006 00:51

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CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 15/09/2006 00:54

it makes me very sad and angry

going to sleep now as need to be in asda by 8

hope that little girl is sleeping well tonight and that b@stard never wakes up

cowmad · 15/09/2006 00:54

essbee why would you do that?

runkid · 15/09/2006 00:59

majormug if your reading this your duty as a mother is to protect your daughter somethings arent easy have courage your daughter needs you

cinderelly · 15/09/2006 01:03

Couldnt have put it better myself rudkin. MM show your daughter what your made of or she will turn into a victim too. Get rid of him.

sleepysooz · 15/09/2006 01:05

mm - please find the strength to at least protect your daughter whatever you decide to do!

runkid · 15/09/2006 01:10

Cowmad are you ok