this is a bit long - sorry
DH and I had been a bit on and off for a while and he left me in July but we stayed on good terms and were trying to work things out. Slept together 2 weeks later, and then found out that due to contraceptive failure I was pregnant. Baby is due in 2 weeks. We already have a DS and a DD and although we have very very different taste in names we both love their names.
Basically I knew when I found out I was pregnant DH would not be pleased as he was quite adamant he wanted no more children. He reacted as expected and wanted me to have a termination which I refused to do. Initially he wanted nothing to do with the new baby ( another DD ) but as time has gone on he has accepted that this baby is coming whether he likes it or not and realises he should not treat it differently than his other children. He is now keen to have contact and will financially spport it. He has also requested to be present at the birth which I have told him I am not comfortable with, and he does understand.
My dilema is this - I have been alone for the pregnancy, will give birth alone and for the will be bringing the baby up mostly alone, yet he wants an equal say in her name. There is only one name I really love and when I mentioned it to him earlier in the pregnancy he did not like it. I have asked him for suggestions in case there was anything I could compromise on. Unfortunately he has only suggested 2 nnames - Ellie ( which does not go with our surname, is a nickname and not a 'proper'name in my mind and too too popular. The other one was Ronnie ( which I like for a boy but not for a girl, especially as I have a unisex name myself )
So, do I give the baby My name, or settle for something tolerable that he likes too
Advice / opinions please ladies