Please, tell my wife that her names suggestions are awful!

[Demainsdeslaube]

Hello everyone!

I am 5 months pregnant, and my wife and I are having a hard time agreeing. After weeks of "arguing", we decided to forget about all the previous names suggested before and make a new list.
I absolutely hate all the names she wrote down :

• Bradleigh ( her favourite)
• Dallas
• Paris
• Lisandry
• Helen ( The only one I like)

Whereas my favourite names are:

• Romy ( She likes it but not love it)
• Dahlia
• Neva

She is so sure, those are pretty names. Pleaaase help, she'll be reading all the comments!

Helen and Dahlia are nice enough!

The rest are completely naff.

I like Romy and Dahlia but none of the others.
bradliegh??!! Is the worst. I hate names with extra letters where they are simply not needed. It’s also a rather boy sounding name. There are lots of neutral names that can be for either gender but I don’t think bradliegh is one of them.

Elena - which is a form of Helen (and my daughter’s name!)

Elena is pretty and a bit different? Just as another option. I like Helen/Helena but the others aren't ones I would personally chose.

I do believe you know in your gut the right name when you find it.

To be perfectly honest I don't care for any of the names - hers or yours. Helen is ok-ish but I think rather old fashioned. Someone else suggested Helena and I think that is better, but I'd really say go back to the drawing board and hopefully find a different option you can both agree on.

They're all pretty awful. Helen is boring. Helena would be better. Neva is a terrible way to spell it - could be pronounced Never. If you're going to have a Gaelic name you should spell it correctly (Nevaeh). Paris for a girl makes me think of Paris Hilton (bleurgh). All the Bradley/Bradleighs I've come across are tossers. A dahlia is a bit of an old lady flower. There are lots of much prettier flowers. There is a trend at the moment for naming boys with surnames, like the Americans do (Cooper, Jackson, Tanner, etc) that I really can't stand. One family I know named their boys Orlando, Lorenzo and Cortez, apparently after places in the States. Poor buggers.

I'm called Helen and in my early 40s so I can't imagine a newborn/young Helen nowadays! I do like Helena, sounds softer. I know an Eleanora. I love the name Emma and if I'd have had a girl, I would have probably picked Erin although probably wouldn't have sounded right with me being called Helen!
I love the names Seren, Faye and Willow.

How we picked after many disagreements was to both write a list and then swap and cross off the ones we definitely didn't like, star the ones we loved and underlined the ones we didn't love but didn't hate. It helped us agree in the end!

Lola , Carla, Fiona , Flora, Sophia, Gabrielle.
i think all these are pretty. I agree with the earlier suggestion of Helena over Helen

Sorry OP but I prefer your wife’s list to yours

Theyre all awful IMO

The child has to love with whatever you choose. Their name will impact their future job prospects and economic success (studies have been done). Go with what you both like. When we named ours we wanted a name you could imagine as a judge or a binman. If you can imagine them with either role then go for it. Also, no funky spellings. Their name will always be misspelled or mispronounced.

What about Clementine / Clementina then? Clemmy for short?

Neva would not be pronounced like ‘never’ - it would clearly be pronounced ‘Neeva’ in English. It’s of Spanish origin. Nevaeh is not the correct pronunciation of any Gaelic name. It’s a made up name which is just ‘heaven’ spelt backwards. I assume you’re thinking of Niamh, which is a different name to both Neva and Nevaeh im every way.

Orlando and Lorenzo and Cortez are perfectly normal names and not only the names of cities? Just because they’re not common in English-speaking countries doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them.

Bradleigh however you spell it, is well known as an infantry fighting vehicle, the best avbl. If you have another child, on the same theme, maybe you could go with Abrams.

The others are rubbish, infantile except Helen, the only proper name.

If you want something controversial, an ice breaker, how about Markle?

I’ve been thinking of this most of the evening. There are some gorgeous names for little girls and so sad at some of the ludicrous suggestions. Does the Father have any say?
The silly names some are suggesting is making a joke of this little girl who is deserving of a name that doesn’t need constant spelling when she’s saying her name. Having a hyphenated name will be confusing enough. Keep her name simple, easy to spell and pronounce. Eg Daisy, Rose, but not Wisteria. The hyphenated might be worth a rethink too. If given a traditional name they mainly can shorten it eg Margaret can be shortened to Rita. Or Alice can be Ally. Noreen can be Reena. Angela - Angie.
This little girl deserves an uncomplicated life!!

Yeah I like this, and so many cool Jodie’s (comer and foster).

I was going to suggest this. Lovely name.

Lisandry sounds like a disease...like a cousin of dysentery. That's how I read it in my head, anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

This trend of choosing a modern cool name has shown to negatively impact people. It comes across as uneducated and tacky.

A name is not an artistic expression of you, it is something you are subjecting another human being to carry as a representation of themself, which will affect how people view their resumes, job applications, introductions, etc. So it is best to stick to traditional, classy, elegant, timeless, simple…. if you want unique it is great to choose something from your cultural ancestry or heritage. But you have to obviously consider how it sounds to the English ear.
Lisandry sounds like lizard (a prostitutes for truckers), misandry, laundry, larceny
i agree Dallas and Paris are cheap names, like a stripper or porn star
Dahlia was a serial murderer
I don’t like any of the names to be honest
how about Amelia? The first woman aviator
Abigail (quite a few strong historical Abigail’s)
Penelope
Delaney
Delphine
Natalia
Nadia
Nalia
Delilah
Nadine

Why can’t either of you pick actual names (except Helen), instead of just odd words??

This generation is very odd, I have to say it.

Poor kids.
Glad I’m not inflicting this nonsense on mine.

@Inthebleakmidwinter2 as an Irish person with the name, it’s Niamh - there’s no p

Lisandry rhymes with Misandry - a word that means 'contempt for men'.
I don't like any of the names, but her list is worse.

Hopefully you'll be whispering rather than screaming once your daughter has joined you!

Yup, as it did when I pointed that out numerous posts ago.

Paris is a literary name. And Dahlia is a flower name from long before the black Dahlia ( which btw was a nickname for the victim not the killer) and it’s pronounced differently. Object to the name is you like, but at least have the correct information.