Please, tell my wife that her names suggestions are awful!

[Demainsdeslaube]

Hello everyone!

I am 5 months pregnant, and my wife and I are having a hard time agreeing. After weeks of "arguing", we decided to forget about all the previous names suggested before and make a new list.
I absolutely hate all the names she wrote down :

• Bradleigh ( her favourite)
• Dallas
• Paris
• Lisandry
• Helen ( The only one I like)

Whereas my favourite names are:

• Romy ( She likes it but not love it)
• Dahlia
• Neva

She is so sure, those are pretty names. Pleaaase help, she'll be reading all the comments!

ExP vetoed my favourite name for DD, so I'm offering it here - Serena. I still think it's lovely, unusual enough, but not so unusual she'd have to keep spelling it every day of her life. Our choices for both DC were slightly limited because I insisted on both surnames which have weird/foreign spellings & it gets boring when you have to keep correcting people.

I'm sorry to say the only name I think is nice is Dahlia! Please god, not Bradleigh. Just don't do that. What about Demelza? It's a traditional Cornish name, pronounced exactly as spelt.

Your names are no better though! It’s all personal taste and typical to disagree.

Helen or Romy are both ok, if you can agree on those, great.

OP are you able to distil for us what it is you each liked about those names? It would help us to be more constructive rather than just rude about what you have suggested ( putting my own hands up and admitting to the dysentery objection). To be honest I’m not really seeing a common element. I wouldn’t have thought someone who liked some would have liked others.

Some suggestions

Gethsemane (classic AND biblical)
Tulip (suits roughly when she’s due, see also Grape Hyacinth)
Tantric (spiritual innit)
Hot (preparing her for an attractive young womanhood AND the menopause
The day of the week she’s born on.

YOU’RE WELCOME 🤗

You made me snort laugh.

And Bradley? Wtf. Might as well just call her John Smith and be done.

I’ll be honest.. none of the initial names are to my taste, but that’s me.

Lola and Flora are lovely names.

Please don’t name her Bradleigh, she’ll be “called” her name more than it “read”, so the spelling will not make a difference. It’s a masculine name. A 40+ woman springs to mind with Helen, another no from me. It’s as bad as naming her Sandra, Julia, Alison. It’s 2023.

If you’re looking at unisex names, what about Rowan, River etc.

Choosing names is one of the hardest decisions I've (we) ever had to make... my son was "baby Surname" for a good week or two after he arrived & neither of us had especially off the wall suggestions we just couldn't agree

I'm a Helena but I think there are far lovelier names than any you have both chosen.. I love the idea of that "Kinder" app someone previously mentioned, good luck & whatever your baby is named, a year from now, or less, you won't be able to imagine her being called anything different

Emma is lovely and it’s nice and short if you’re going to double-barrel the surname.

Dallas is almost exclusively used for boys in the US, but I’m guessing she knows that if she wants to call her Carter.

If you like American place-names:
Caroline/Carolina
Virginia (Ginny)
Brooklyn (only used for girls, the Beckhams are just bizarre)
Sierra
Georgia (or Georgina or Georgiana- any of them could be shortened to Georgie, Gina, Gigi, etc)

Since moving here I’ve also heard Nevada for girls as well as Denali, though that sounds a bit… rugged (which makes sense as I think it’s in Alaska). Nevada could be shortened to Neva I guess.

I do agree though that you need to consider the gravity of naming another person. It’s hilarious to name a cat Toast or Taco or something, but that cat doesn’t need to get accepted at uni or to secure job interviews. There are enough studies and experiments showing how unusual/very unique names can influence the perception of employers and others, with predictable results. Don’t choose something that will hinder her.

And no, of course you cannot choose a name that rhymes with misandry. You’re a lesbian couple! She’d never live that down once her peers made the connection.

Lisandry isn’t great. Lisnandy, as a few posters have misspelled it, sounds like you have named your child after Lisa Nandy, and is absolutely hilarious.

They are all awful. Helen is fine if she’s going to be born aged 50 and working in a central library.

Honestly, none of them is ok except Helen.

If you like Neva, have you considered something like Nevaeh (pronounced Nevaya) or Nevada? Both better than Neva, because they don’t sound like “never”.

Or are you pronouncing it “Neeva”? If so, just go with Niamh. Well-established classic Irish name.

Lisandry sounds like a disease just awful. I'm not keen on either lists Helen is the best. What about Helena?

Googled misandry after reading your comment. I thought the comments were linking the name to the red witch in game if thrones. Didn't realise it means hatred of men
Every day is a school day

Until you got to Helen I thought it was a boys name list and the Bradleigh and Lisandry were bad spellings of Bradley and Lysander.

Helen is by far the best of her list. The rest are awful.

Please don't use different spellings. That child has to live with that name. These are names I only know one person of by that name.

Leonie
Ellen
Leanne

If you used Lisandry, could you call her Lisa. I think it's a name due a comeback

Sounds like you need to go with Helen. I would love to meet a baby Helen!

Or how about Leigh instead of Bradleigh

inevitably if she's named "Bradleigh" no matter the spelling she'll be "Brad" or "Bradders" or maybe that'd just be my family 😁I actually don't know (outside of school) when I get called by my actual name

Oh lord. Ok one more time. We are 2 women, lesbians, WLW, same-sex couples.

I wrote "I am pregnant" and talk about my wife. Oh, come on...

OP I am so curious what your own names are!

I think everyone gets that you are lesbians?

It doesn’t matter anyway, unless you choose Lisandry 😂😂😂😂

Buy a book of names, both of your choices are awful
Poor child being saddled with Lisandry, what concoction is that?

Well , the few people who commented about how my wife is pregnant didn't lol