If you knew / met someone who had just had a baby would you tell them you didn't like it's name ?

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I am just wondering. Since dd was born 4 weeks ago we have had lot's of people comment on her name. Both close family and friends.
Fair enough if it isn't what you would choose but i could never say to someone i don't like your choice after they have called their child that.
We have had plain ooh i don't like that to omg that's a name of a 90 year old woman.
Poor dp who chose it and now i am thinking poor dd !
By the way it's Martha!

Martha is a beautiful name. Your DH has wonderful taste and your DD is very lucky! People can be so bloody rude and insensitive. Ignore, ignore, ignore!

I think it's rude to openly say you don't like the name of someone's newborn baby. It's not your baby not your choice keep your mouth shut, thats my honest opinion. Names are personal some names I have come across I'm like yuck but I wouldn't say it to the parents.

BTW I think Martha is lovely.

Lovely name! Do you know what it means? (just curious)

I wouldn't comment at all, too rude and none of other peoples' business, but had big foot in mouth incident with SIL when she was pg - DH and I both talking about names we would NEVER have and why (was also pg at time) and her first choice boys name popped up... .

Her and her DH were not happy...whoops and have named their ds using their first choice name!

I met ex colleague of mine who announced baby was called Zeff and I have to admit was speechless - I didn't mean to be rude but am afraid I may have come accross as that
in answer to op no certainly not intentionally and I think Martha is a fab name, on our list for this one!

I like martha, we get just the same thing with our son Isaac. My SIL point blank said we could not call him Isaac and my dad said Isaac was king of the jews, what ever that means (could swear it was jesus) however my dad is a little touch, bless him.

my mother was rudest re our dd2's name, and actually now I think of it dd1's name too

when we came home with dd2, she sat round table saying, how about Chloe or sophie they're much nicer?!?

just made me dig my heels in more

How INCREDIBLY rude. The sanest mother I ever knew refused to tell people the names they were considering until after the birth when she presented a fait accompli, because she said, "before, they are disliking the name, and they feel they can argue. After, criticising would be like criticising the child, so they'll smile and be polite." She's right, and people with such appalling manners they don't know it should back off. Like it's any of their business! And besides, Martha is a gorgeous name. You didn't call her Sparklyesmeralda, for crying out loud.

of course not!

do kids actually comment on each others names?

does this really happen?

I mean, I went to school with a thorin and a hickory-we never though to say anything, tbh.

No I wouldn't becasue I know how rude and irritating it is. If it is anyone from the older generation - just ignore them - thier opinion shouldn't concern you - you wouldn't want a name that an old person likes surely as they were bought up in a competely different time. Anyone younger, tell them you hate their name but have never told them as it is rude and pointless.

we had someone write DS' full name in a congrats card, followed with "Poor little bugger, what a name!"
It got ripped up and put in the bin. Luckily the silly cahhhh what did write it (DP's aunt) lives abroad for some of the year, and i've never met her.
staggering rudeness, really....in person or in a card.

it's beyond rude, it's close to social imbecility.

Incredibly rude or incredibly thick. These things can't just pop out, we are all capable of controlling our tongues, we choose to let things out.

Martha is a gorgeous name.

You could have said well I've never said anything up to now but I've always thought your name was quite ugly, but I suppose it suits you really.

But you wouldn't, because you are civilised and have manners.

I love the name Martha! And I think it's a bit rude to slate someone's choice of baby name once the child is born!

Had a lot of pig comments after ds2 was named (Wilbur).
People kept saying 'well he'll be called 'Will' anyway, won't he?' as if in condolence that he was so unfortunate.

I felt so trampled, but now I've learned to say 'We call him Bill!' and smile cheerfully.

People usually shut up at that point.

btw Martha is beautiful and elegant. My first friend at school had that name.

hijack. Flight where have you been? Have you still got my email address?

Mot even if they called it Tarquina-Chutney.

There is never a time to tell someone you don't like their choice of baby name. Unless you are the sort of person who likes making children and hormonal women cry.

FWIW I think Martha is quite an old fashioned name - but I like old fashioned names, and Martha is a gorgeous name, honestly cannot see what not to like about it! It means Lady, Mistress of the House btw - bet your dd will be showing you who's boss before long

Hi MM
How are you? I haven't seen you lately. I think you are still in my address book. Hope things are going alright, any progress on the moving front?

No. If it's just not to my taste, then it's just not to my taste. Jessica or Rebecca. Not something I'd pick myself, but that in itself doesn't make it a bad choice for somebody else!

If I come across a new born Isabel/Amelia and Mum tells me proudly, "I wanted something a bit different", like they're the first people to come up with those names, then if the ink is still wet on the BC, I do feel the urge to let them know the truth. But hey, their problem. Marha is an absolutely gorgeous name. Pretty and classic but underused. Good choice imo.

Laughing at the Kingof the Jews comment! Jesus was the King of the Jews??

Anyway, I think it's nice to have little tie-ins. My friend Hannah has a son Samuel. It's nicer than having a cheesey link to Disney or something. (Aurora, Genevieve)

Martha is a fab name. I work with someone who makes faces at any names I choose. I think she thinks all children should be called james, john, Emily and Elizabeth.

Did you name her after Martha Wainwright?

I am plannign on calling any daughter I have Stevie Martha and any boy Joseph Roscoe

when I was still in hospital with DD the physio came round, asked what her name was. I told her, and she repeated it but with an M in front which turned it into a completely different name.

When I corrected her (DD's name is French and unusual over here) she frowned and said "Well i suppose there's time to change it" !

PS, this is my last post I promise, but in response to the comment that the name is a 90 year old woman's, well, yes, names come in and out in 90 year cycles. That's always been the case.

I thought my dd's name was a general crowd-pleaser without WOWing anybody really, but I still got a few weird comments. One girl who didn't like it loved the names Ismene and Phaedra. Well good luck to her finding a man who'll agree to those names!

When I was in hospital with my 2nd child, the Bounty women made it quite clear she thought my son's name was too unusual (it's about #270 actually so it's not that odd) I nearly said, lady I aint taking no advice from somebody whose breath stinks of instant coffee.

I jsut revealed my inner bitch. I'm pushing her back in now.