If you knew / met someone who had just had a baby would you tell them you didn't like it's name ?

[lilyloo]

I am just wondering. Since dd was born 4 weeks ago we have had lot's of people comment on her name. Both close family and friends.
Fair enough if it isn't what you would choose but i could never say to someone i don't like your choice after they have called their child that.
We have had plain ooh i don't like that to omg that's a name of a 90 year old woman.
Poor dp who chose it and now i am thinking poor dd !
By the way it's Martha!

Never never never. Such a rude and hurtful thing to do. My best friend was considering calling her son Rex. I was quietly beside myself with horror but even though she is my best friend, who I have known for 25 years, I would never have said anything. Her choice.

BTW, I think you will find that Martha is becoming quite "common" (I don't mean that in a rude way, can't think of another way of saying quite a lot of people are choosing it). There are a few at my DD's school and this morning my DH got a text from a work colleague whose DW had a baby girl yesterday and they have called her Martha.

Martha is the new Ruby IME. (I think its a lovely name, fwiw).

Only read OP - but hell, no. Martha is a gorgeous name btw.

I agree Daphne my ds Harry is same there weren't many of them when i had him now it's more popular!

martha is lovely, ignore them

Pruners, I love "awkwardly-named"! I met a dear friend today who is pregnant with her second child. She told me her chosen names (I didn't ask, honestly) and although the girl's name is nice, the boy's name (and, worse, the nickname to go with it) are exactly what I would call "awkward". I did find myself dissembling somewhat.
OP, your family and friends are being very rude and out of order. Martha is a lovely name and even if it wasn't, they have no business saying anything negative at all. I wonder what they would have preferred?!

Pruners, I love "awkwardly-named"! I met a dear friend today who is pregnant with her second child. She told me her chosen names (I didn't ask, honestly) and although the girl's name is nice, the boy's name (and, worse, the nickname to go with it) are exactly what I would call "awkward". I did find myself dissembling somewhat.
OP, your family and friends are being very rude and out of order. Martha is a lovely name and even if it wasn't, they have no business saying anything negative at all. I wonder what they would have preferred?!

Eh? How did that happen?
As a final thought, OP, I only know two Marthas - one is in her early 40s and the other is early teens. Both are very attractive, intelligent and distinguished!

So neither of them 90 year old women then BS

No! I don't think 90 year old women are called Martha. Thinking about women I've known who would be around 90 now, more likely names are Ivy, Edith, Hilda, Ethel, Lilian, Margaret, Gladys.

I think people who are so blunt as to say they don't like a name that you have called your child are pretty obnoxious!!!!! It is totally rude and cannot possibly achieve anything other than pissing people off so WHY on earth would anyone say something so stupid and pointless.

I really like the name Martha anyway.

lovely name

dd is named after her two great grandmothers. Now both sadly deceased, but I guess they would have been past their 90's if they were still alive. I think that there are patterns of names, and using names that are popular a couple of generations ago is very common. I used to work in delayed discharges, so looked at lists of elderly ladies and gentlemen on a frequent basis - many of these names are now turning up at the children's school (and why not, they are very nice names)

wouldn't dream of being so rude op

mind you, when being introduced to a baby leonard....the words "that's interesting" were my were my first, probably overbright response....

i love martha btw

it wouldn't matter what you had called her I would keep my opinions to myself. for what it is worth I think Martha is a lovely name.

I agree with everyone else, it is rude to tell someone that you do not like the name that they have chosen for their baby.

We have a Martha in DD's kindergarten class, I love the name and it suits her so well. Her sister is called Freda and her brother Anton and I find their names great too. So unusual amongst all the Leonies and Sophies and Lukas over here at the moment.

i think its lovely name

id just reply i dont like yours either bugger off

Ooooh Pollywobble - one of my dearest friends is called Leonard. He is lovely! He is the only one I know, though, and in his mid-forties.

Can i just say you have all made me feel so much better. I really had begun to feel that we had saddled her with a terrible name , you are all right it is lovely and it is their problem not ours.

My 6 month old DD is Martha- 'tis a fab name. I think it is getting more common- it was no.99 in 2006 and no.89 (I think) in 2007. Good choice!!!

lilyloo- its beutiful and im shocked anyone would say otherwise.

martha is a lovely name, your dp has excellent taste!

an ex colleague of mine called her dd by a name i really don't like, but i never once said that to her, it would have been so rude to pass comment, her dd, her choice.

No of course not
I would comment on something of hers that I did like instead.

Just to add a girl I know has just called her baby Keith. I was thankfully to have heard the news by email as I found it really unusual in this day and age to call a baby Keith. However, her choice not mine.. none of my business.