DD hates her name and surname

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She is 15 now.

The pregnancy was so good, the only issue was finding a name!
I could not choose. It was agony.

One day, just before her birth, I woke up from a lovely afternoon nap, the TV was on and 1st thing I heard / saw was an ad of a product with a human and - the image of a lovely young girl (I didn't know the baby's sex). Right at that time I decided if she was a girl she would have that name.

It is an international (could be pretty much from a lot of different countries and cultures) short, simple, easy to spell, sounds good (to my ears) name. In hindsight I could have choses a middle name, but I jus't couldn't ;(

She hates it. Hates her surname too which is a traditional surname in the UK.

Any one dealing with the same at home?

But your heritage isn't British if I understand, right? So her surname comes from paternal side. How is her relationship with him? Does she wish she had more tying her to your heritage? Does she feel z disconnected between how she looks and what people assume when they hear Eve Smith?
Is there a hint in her chosen nicknames that indicate a theme?

Ah!

Okay
Quickly google and the product is named after the human who designed the product

BTW there is a very famous US singer who I adore who got the same name but the choice was unrelated - I didn't put 2+2 together until later so maybe an unconscious choice

I actually read this as DAVE 🤦‍♀️

In which case, she’d probably be justified in wanting to change it 🤣

She lives in Britain - was born and bred here and and looks like a British person too - the relationship with her father has nothing to do with her disliking her surname which is also her grandparents' surname whom she loves

My 16 year old DD went through a few years of not liking her name and wanting to change it. Because it's a little unusual and boys were not being very nice at school ( year 6 and 7 in particular) I told her if she still felt the same when she was older and wanted to change it she could. Last few years she's not mentioned it at all, and even said at Christmas she loves her name, wich I'm pleased about because obviously I love it, but if she'd been really unhappy with it Id have helped her change it.

@lovelilies , if only my parents had been like you. You did the right thing.

@Chocolateismyfavourite , you sound a lovely mum too.

Ah thank you 🙂

Thank you 🥹 it's a big deal!

Accept the things you cannot change- and change the things you can! 🫶🏼 it's not too late for you, I know a woman who did it in her forties

@BloodAndFire
Even Brooklyn Beckham and his wife double-barrelled both of their names.

That's fine for the first generation what does Mr Beckham Bloggs do when he marries Mrs Smith, tack Smith on to the end, offend one of his parents and ditch their name? And become Boggs Smith
There is a baby name thread with a Mum in that scenario, three surnames is too many

in my country, the baby gets the mum's surname and the father's surname

when I was researching here, if I did that, then DD would have my surname which is made of my mum's surname plus my dad's surname plus her own dad's surname

however the two surnames coming from me would be seen as middle names I guess (or that is how I understood at the time) and her only surname would be her father's - and my two surnames don't sound like middle names at all so it would sound really weird (and no one would pronuncia-te it properly unless they are for my country)

but she likes those two surnames and I think she will add them by deed pool later

I'm sure their children can make that decision for themselves when they grow up. My children have both of our names and they can choose for themselves whatever they want to do as adults. Perhaps they will just keep their own names. It would be a lot simpler if everyone did that.

@lovelilies , I had the offending first name removed at age 18. There was nothing wrong with it other than it was just an ordinary fairly unremarkable name.
It was something like Isla Christina Surname, where Isla Surname sounds slightly silly, as other schoolkids were quick to point out. Now I'm older the Christina has got shortened to Chris so much that I've got used to it, but I don't really like Chris Surname.

Isla and Christina used as examples, not the real name.

OK that was all I was asking, I'd she associated it with a parent she didn't like and wanted a more obvious one to the parent she did like - you.

If you're happy for her to change it, let her trial one before it's formal.

Re blaming you, she's a teenager, that's par to the course isn't it? She'll get over it and realise how hard it is if she ever had her own kids

Probably as he was being kind. It was obviously his surname… as he is adopted, but as the years have gone by- and he has been more hurt etc…he has thought about losing that part of his identity?

But what is 'kind' about, in your own words, 'lumbering' your children with a terrible name that you all hate? Just seems a really bizarre decision.

So it was out of appreciation for being adopted maybe?

my two surnames... She likes those two surnames and I think she will add them by deed pool later which is what I was trying to ask but I think you thought I was being rude

What a ridiculous thread if you won't reveal them name just cryptic clues about a product with the same name and a famous American singer with the same name!

No one knows your surname so we can't actually identify you by revealing what is, by your own admission, a perfectly normal name.

I think to the adoptive parents, not kind to his wife and children, to carry on their family name

I always hated my full first name but liked the short version, my parents never used the full version anyway! The shorter first name has a very different 'vibe' to the full one. My middle name was also awful and I cannot remember a time in my life when I liked either of them. I always said that I'd change them by deed poll when I was 18 but for some reason - probably too much pressure from my parents that it would be weird and strange - I never bothered. I also stupidly took my (now) exh surname.

Roll on many years and I was divorced, my passport and driving licence needed renewal and I'd just moved house so I decided in my mid-40's to finally do it. I officially changed my first name to the shorter one (that everyone apart from the doctors called me), dropped my middle name completely and went double barrelled with my surname. Still not sure if I shouldn't have just gone straight back to my family name but the kids were teens and I still wanted a link to their names somehow. Anyway, I'm really glad I made the change and wish I'd done it when I was younger.

Is it Vagisil?

You chose the name. Who else would she blame? It's not she came with a label and you had to call her that.

So she has the same name as a famous American singer, and a product named after its designer/inventor. Pretty acceptable and normal, but not super common (your words).

Are you certain she's not getting picked on?

Taylor
Rhianna
Arianna
Christina
Alicia
Gwen
Mariah
Katy
Kelly
Bodyform
Dove/Dave
Vagisil