Using a name family don't like

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Has anyone used a name family didn't like? I really like a name Beau. Its unusual so I was on the fence until I've met two children named the same. Baby would have a traditional middle name but I can't find anything else I like.

Family members have said they didn't like it straight away and OH doesn't hate it (he didn't name the last two 🤣). Help!

Someone I know called their kid ‘Bart’ (surname thankfully not Simpson)
I just smiled,congratulated them on the arrival of a healthy baby and raised a brow once they’d gone

my brother and sil called one of theirs jakson-spelt like that
i did the same as I did with poor Bart and mentioned to my partner that it was horrible but not my baby,not my choice

i named one of mine a unusual choice (not wacky,just a bit unusual) and the amount of comments I got about how horrid his name was unreal-they all got told to wind their necks in and not to be so rude (I may have said ‘fuck off,not your baby,not your choice)

one of my mothers friends told me I should have called him her favourite name instead-I told her I hated all her grandchildrens names but wasn’t as rude as to tell her (until now) and that if she loved it so much,why didn’t she call her own son that name?

hes grown up,loves his name and that’s all that matters

I know a male Beau and it suits him.

It's so obviously a male name!! Belle is the female equivalent.

how inappropriate! Their parents will be judged! It's so obviously a male name, the male version of Belle.

Ultimately it’s 100% your choice. But I’d certainly be asking why, in case there’s some unfortunate aspect of it I’d overlooked - dodgy nickname possibilities, loads of babies with the same name etc. But, if their objection is ‘I just don’t like it’ then I’d be ignoring them for sure!

It's a bit of a hostage to fortune. Like calling a girl Grace.

I'd probably ask what their reasons were. There's a difference in a name not being a name someone would personally choose and them having reasons they don't like it.

But I also think I wouldn't share a baby names unless I was open to people's opinions.

This is why you must never discuss names before the baby is here! I can't believe people have the gall to express negative opinions on names that people are considering. I think it's appallingly rude!

The only response to a parent telling you their baby's name is awww gorgeous!
If you ask what they think before it's born, expect to be given an opinion.

I know a 13yo female Beau.

😦🫣😒😂😂😂 < French reaction to calling a child Beau. It’s a name you’d maybe give a dog.

Isabeau is a proper name, although old-fashioned.

It's one of those names I secretly judge parents for because they either don't know or don't care that they have given their child a name that will make it impossible for them to travel to the nearest non English speaking foreign country without being ridiculed.

I love it and so does my husband! We both said but what’s it got to do with your family!

Beau = male
Belle = female

Apart from Bo Peep, I suppose, although perhaps her first name was Little.

Don't tell anyone your name choices ever until after your child is born. Otherwise every man and his dog will have an opinion on it and you will always get at least one person who doesn't like it. So please yourself with whatever name you like and don't be swayed.

I've only met one Beau and he was male. His sister was named Belle.

@scarletisjustred Does it make a difference 🤣? Would it be more justifiable for you?

Everyone who has said not to say unfortunately everyone and their dog has messaged me 'helpfully' suggesting baby names.. asking me every five minutes. Even girls names.

Thank you to everyone who likes the name, I wouldnt give baby stupid initials like 'BJ or BO'. It would like my other children have a very traditional name to use (like ive used James, Thomas, Alexander) so he could use that if he hated it.

I may even change my mind if I have a boy just really set on it right now.

Beau isn't a French name (as in, it isn't a name any French citizen would use). It originated mainly in the American South as a shortening of Beauregard (a surname of French origin). It was made known among the general English-speaking population by Gone with the Wind.

Beau for girls I believe mainly stems from the actress Bo Derek (Bo was her stage name). Ulrika Jonsson has a daughter Bo if I recall correctly.

I like the name.
I wouldn’t even consider extended family or friends opinions on a baby name.
I didn’t tell people what my babies were going to be called until they were born.
I can’t remember if anyone told me baby name ideas when I was pregnant as their opinions on what my baby should be called were of no interest to me. People only get a say in naming their own babies.

Fuck em, your child, name them what you like. Get ready for Grandma to have her own little petname for DC when they come though, or for her to call them by their middle name like my nan did me 🙄

FWIW I think Beau is a lovely name, especially for a boy.

Just don't discuss names with anyone apart from your partner until the baby is here. Shut down any comments or questions nicely with 'we have a few ideas but we won't decide until the baby is safely here.' Just don't engage. Their opinions are irrelevant - they've had their chance to name their children and now it is your turn.

Choose whatever name you like. I didn’t use a name as my MIl hated it and I still regret it.

Bo is a Nordic name, so people using it might not be as daft as other people think. Then again,

I've had family react a little shocked to our name choice (they didn't out right say they didn't like it though) never the less we used it anyway and they now love it lol

Emma Bunton from the spice girls has a son called Beau

Yes I did I named my son Rex my family hated it said it was a dogs name. I just never mentioned it again untill the day he was born and I said it was his name. They're well over it now. Although I did hate the name my sister was going to call my neice... she liked kai he liked Dre so they were seriously planning on calling the baby kai-Dre if it was a boy, luckily she wasnt.

but even if she did it's not my place to say she couldn't. It's not my baby.

I loved the name Amelie and my parents hated it. My mum went as far as saying she would refer to her as Amy. I made it clear that it would be Amelie or nothing, they came around and they adore her name now.