Using a name family don't like

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Has anyone used a name family didn't like? I really like a name Beau. Its unusual so I was on the fence until I've met two children named the same. Baby would have a traditional middle name but I can't find anything else I like.

Family members have said they didn't like it straight away and OH doesn't hate it (he didn't name the last two 🤣). Help!

Beaudy?
Not Bodhi?

OP, your mistake was to tip your hand to your family ahead of the arrival of the baby.

When you announce names you are mulling over before the baby arrives, a lot of people interpret it as you submitting your names to them for approval.

Beau is lovely imo, for a boy.

Lovely name!
My mum hated my daughters name (Tabitha) and tried to rally round the family getting support for me to change it. She even called my husband at home when I was in hospital and he said no, it's our choice and we love it.

For the reasons others have pointed out, it makes you look a bit stupid. Fine, if you don’t mind that. But its unfair on the child.

I didn’t use Finley because all my family hated it. I still don’t get why TBH, it seems like a nice, unassuming name to me but they were all united in hating it 🤷‍♀️.

This is the reason I won’t discuss names with anyone other than my husband. People, especially families, have some weird entitlement to be as rude as they want about names. Don’t let anyone put you off a name you love.

It's up to you and your dp what you call your child. I didn't tell my family my ds' name until he was registered and it was too late to argue.

But I'd think carefully about the meaning of a name, and about the initials. No need to line your child up for teasing. My ds has one traditional name and one less so. If he really doesn't like his first name he can always switch to his second one.

My sister's inlaws absolutely HATED their chosen name. It's a perfectly "normal" name. They went ahead with it and the inlaws shut up about it once they met the baby.

Don't tell anyone the baby's name until it's born

That's ridiculous behaviour

Different members of family made comments about all of our suggested names, we were young with the first two so just changed the names to something more suitable. I don't actually like either of their names but they are 10 and 9 now so suit them.

6 year gap between youngest and eldest so when it came to naming him, DH suggested a name and I fell in love. Multiple people suggested different but I was set on that. Our only regret is his middle name was going to be something more unusual but we weren't brave enough.

I don't know any boy Beau but I know a girl. We thought it was weird they chose it for a girl because we thought it was a boys name.

Ugh, I made the mistake of telling family our thoughts on names for DS1. My sister told me he'd get bullied if I named him Zachary 😂

Go with a name you love. And don't tell people beforehand! It's much harder for someone to say they hate a name when there's a cute baby right there called that name!

Beau is a nice boy's name. It is well known enough not to be odd at all. If you both like it go with it.

My mother-in-law didn't like one name we were thinking about SO she named her new kitten that! ha ha
Never discussed the names again until we had actually named the children.

As long as the reason they don’t like
isn’t there isn’t any kind of trauma associated with it then naming your baby is your choice. If this is their reaction, I’d stop discussing names with them at all.

The only Beaus I know are girls.

It’s not that unusual

it’s not there business

If it’s making you anxious give him a conventional middle name - but don’t give in, you will always regret it

I think it’s still more common for boys - it comes from Beau Brummell and Beau whatsit in the foreign legion. It was a nn not a full name originally, but it is the masculine form.

Also - OP - stop telling people your name choices! Just announce it when the baby is here -

If you want to test the water do it on here

Once the baby is here and named on the birth certificate, they will probably drop the subject. Because the name isn't official yet, they feel they can change your mind.

I don't talk about names with my family because I know they're going to hate them and try to put me off the name.

I wasn’t going to discuss name choices before the baby arrived, but DH brought the topic up a week or so before when we were having dinner with his parents. When he mentioned the name we did end up using, MIL really wasn’t keen at all.

She’s never said a word about it since we had DD and said that was her name, but I do wish we’d just never discussed it as I do always have that slight wonder if she still hates it.

I really disliked two of my niece’s names when they were announced, would never have said so, and obviously now they couldn’t be anything else and really suit them. I think just go with your choice.

We didn’t tell MIL what we were going to call our son. She found out when we introduced them. She looked a bit surprised, and then started calling him a different name 🥴 She called a meeting when he was a couple of weeks old, and asked if that was really the name we were going to give him. She was not happy.

for a while she introduced him as the similar but different name; and now she’s given up and doesn’t mention it… it’s okay. I love his name, and she’s always been a pain in the arse.

I just wouldn’t give her a heads up over names we were considering. Block out what she thinks; she had her turn and it’s you (and your child) that have to live with the name.

My brother and SIL named their son the shortened version of a name, like Danny rather than Daniel and our dad refused to call him it, calling him DJ instead because his middle name was John. After a couple of months he came around. Silly old fart.

Love the name I wanted it as it has meaning for me but dh wasn't keen as we have a surname that starts with B so he felt it was overkill. Saying that our son has quite a cute name think olly, teddy etc . When we were throwing names around we mention to mil and fil his name and they said it was too babyish. We went with it anyway and i laughed so hard when bil and dil had a dd a few years later and called her a very cute babyish name that made our sons name seem positively manly in comparison.

We never discussed names with anyone, just announced the name.
One of ours had a negative reaction from family but we ignored them. It's never been a problem and thankfully they quickly got over it so the child has never known they didn't like the name. :)

We had a male relative called Beau. He was a proper man's man. It suited him perfectly

My DM told me the names we chose for our twins were too regal and who did we think we are 😂 We used them anyway. They just become their names, within a few weeks everyone is used to the name and no one really bothers. Choose the name you want.

It's not their choice but tbh I agree with them.