Husband or mine names part 2

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Hey, it's me again lol. Baby is born, and it's girl. She still doesn't have a name.

Husband and I are still "arguing" about the name because he is picking , what I find, a ridiculous name! He dropped the "Harper-Rose" when I showed him the comments. But now he's determined to have her named "Levi-Lily" Please tell me it ridiculous because his mother thinks it's a good name.

We both like the name Alba, but he keeps saying she looks like a Levi-Lily. No. She does not. Anyone like his choice?

Awful. Harper- Rose is better than that. X

Go on your own and register the baby if when you're married he does have to be there, call her what you like. Lol. X

i thought he was a nob the first thread of yours. This thread is so sad. He groomed you and is abusing you. It has been going on aince you were ao young you have no idea what a normal relationship is.

make an appointment with a counsellor.

and register your baby asap with the name you want. Including surname. When you realise what he is and leave him, youll hate she has his surname he wont allow you to change.

Why is he so adamant to give her a boys name. Levi or James? She would be picked on.

Levi-Lily is awful

So you’re being financially abused as well as coercively controlled?
you aren’t stupid, you’re disempowered and belittled because it suits your husband to keep you vulnerable and dependent on him

If all of this is real OP then please get out. Please see how awful it is. Please protect your daughter. His behaviour is not normal. It is not loving. It is not caring. It is controlling, abusive and completely and utterly creepy. Abuse doesn’t have to mean he is physically abusive. What he is doing is abusive in so many ways.
I would be seriously concerned about your daughter, your “DH” is obviously deeply creepy in so many ways.

Levi is not only a boy's name, it's the name of the hereditary priests of the House of Israel, the Levites.

A girl named Levi-Lily will be called Heavy-Lily by all the comedians she ever encounters. Yes I know that's not how Levi is pronounced. But the temptation will be impossible to resist.

And nothing screams, "Daddy wanted a boy" like shoehorning a boy's name in.

What the fuck is wrong with your stupid husband? Why does he want to do this to his baby girl?

Can he hyphenate his name with a girl's name and see how he likes it for a week? "Pleased to meet you, I'm James-Matilda McBonkers".

@WaltzingWaters yes, you are right.

OP, I am sorry if I'm repeating what others have said but I literally had to stop reading your posts because they were so disturbing. I couldn't continue past the point where you said that the first time he saw you, he knew he was going to marry you. YOU HAVE KNOWN THIS MAN SINCE YOU WERE 6. The first time he saw you, you were 6. Your husband, the father of your daughter, looked at a 6 year old child and thought "One day I'm going to marry you."

This is sickening in itself, even without all the other stuff. But the other stuff is so, so disturbing too. He knew you since 6, helped you with your homework, and got with you when you were 17 years old? He basically groomed you.

Now he has total control over you, you can't go out without him, you can't even go to work without being harrassed, he is physically and financially controlling?

This is one of the most disturbing things I've ever read on Mumsnet and I beg you, please listen to women who are expressing their concern for you. You said yourself that this is all you have known as this man groomed you since childhood and now has gained control of you. So you might not get how wrong this is, and that's not your fault. You're right where he wants you. But to women outside, looking in on your situation, you are a victim of someone seriously, seriously creepy, and I hate to say this but I wouldn't count on your child being safe either. How do you know he's not going to look at her at 6 years old and think about trading you in for a younger model? Best case scenario you stay with him and continue to be controlled and your child has to grow up learning that it's normal to be so controlled by a partner, and she will end up in the same situation one day. Worst case scenario he's a risk to her and to you.

Please at least think about what is being said.