Husband or mine names part 2

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Hey, it's me again lol. Baby is born, and it's girl. She still doesn't have a name.

Husband and I are still "arguing" about the name because he is picking , what I find, a ridiculous name! He dropped the "Harper-Rose" when I showed him the comments. But now he's determined to have her named "Levi-Lily" Please tell me it ridiculous because his mother thinks it's a good name.

We both like the name Alba, but he keeps saying she looks like a Levi-Lily. No. She does not. Anyone like his choice?

Levi-Lily is one of the least serious names I have ever heard, on here or in real life.

It most certainly does not pass the judge test.

Also, you carried her for nine months and gave birth to her. If you say no to hyphenated names and no to Levi for a girl, it's a no and he needs to accept that.

But he sounds massively unreasonable so tbh I think you should just get her registered before he goes behind your back and lumbers her with one of his God-awful choices.

OH I love Rosalba.

I think he will want to try until he gets a son. But that's a no no from me. Apparently because he's older, that's his chance to get a boy. I am 23 and he is 49.

Alba is okay. Unique.
Levi-Lily is absolutely awful. I mean beyond dreadful. Sounds like a pornstar name or a drag queen. DO NOT ALLOW IT!
Harper-Rose is awful too. Harper OR Rose are fine. Or one as a middle name.
But then I can’t stand hyphenated names (same as pretty much everyone on mumsnet it seems!).
congrats on your baby girl.

Oh blimey OP, your husband is deranged. What about Naphtali? Zebulun? I hear Gad's coming back.

Congrats on your daughter.

No to hyphens, no to a boy's name. Alba is lovely. Get a pet and call it Levi.

Absolutely stand your ground and do not let him bully you into it. Are you married? As if you are, he can register her name without you present (DH registered both of ours).

If he really thinks boy's names are more serious than girls names - and then comes up with Levi-LiIy, what? - I don't think I'd take his opinion on anything at all seriously OP. Just call your beautiful daughter whatever you want because your dh is clearly not of sound mind.

Alba is lovely. Lily is nice.
Tell him no way are you using Levi for a girl.
Use it if you have a son (I don’t like it much but it’s a name. It’s fine on it’s own as a boy’s name).
Or just get a goldfish/stick insect and name it Levi.

As a PP pointed out it literally has EVIL in the middle of it. For that alone it should be vetoed regardless of the fact it is an AWFUL name.

Stand your ground, don't be bullied.

Imo having 2 first names is awful. Just have a first name, middle name and surname. Call her Lily or Rose or Harper but only choose one. Levi is a boy’s name.

Also, there’s 26 years between you and your DP? There’s 25 years between me and my DAD. My dad is 2 years older than your DP.

Levi? For a girl? Might as well call her Isaac. What a stupid idea.

Alba Lily is perfectly nice. Lily can be a middle name. Do NOT hyphenate.
DH can call her by both if he wants to (he'll be the only one though)

This. Be very careful, OP.

If you're married either one of you can register the birth without the other's input, so if there's a risk of that happening, make damn sure it's you that does it and not him.

Also, he sounds like a sexist prick. Sorry.

Who does he think he is, Henry VIII?

God no.

Alba is nice.

Lily on its own is nice.

Levi is a boys name.

ANYTHING hyphenated is absolutely terrible. I'd instantly judge.

OP, if you took your husband's name when you got married, have you considered adding your maiden name in as a second middle name?

I don't want to piss on your bonfire, but your husband doesn't sound very nice, and if your marriage doesn't last and you want to change your name back one day, you might be glad of having your surname in there too.

Why does he like hyphenated names? Would he say the whole name every time or just Levi? Does he like names from initials a AJ, MJ etc?

has he considered changing his name by deed poll to Levi?

Yes, I have known him since I was like 6. He was a friend of my dad's.

Yes. He like 2 words nicknames. All he proposed was hyphenated names. Billie-Jo, Levi-Rose, Levi-Lily, Levi-May , James(his name)-Rose , Harper-Rose

OP, is everything alright in your relationship? What does your dad think about his mate being with his daughter? Your husband doesn't seem to treat you well.

You're a lot younger than him but clearly much more sensible than he is!

My first thoughts on seeing Levi-Lily was Levi and Milly - you know, like Levi Bellfield who murdered several women and girls, including Milly Dowler. Then I saw the word 'evil' in the middle of the name.

I bet your 'D'H wouldn't name a son Jessamine-Robert, or Sophie-John or Isabella-David.

Margot, Alba, Lily and Rose are all better than Levi-Lily.

If he likes L names there are loads of nice girls names to choose from - Lyra, Leila, Layla, Lucy, Lara, Lena, Laura, Lauren, Laurel, Lorna, Louisa/e, Libby, Lucinda, Lowri, Lucille, Lucia etc.

The only Levi's I know are boys. Levi-Lily sounds pretty naf - she'll shorten it to Lily as soon as she can

Margot is lovely. I much prefer it to Lily.
Your husband sounds like a sexist prick, and creepy to boot. Please make sure you get your surname in there.

It’s awful! Really awful and I like unusual names. I really dislike hyphenated names though. Alba is much nicer.

congratulations on your baby!

OP you could be a victim of grooming. Has he been your only boyfriend? When did you start dating? What does your dad think of his “friend” preying on his Dd? Actually, I noticed the words “WAS a friend of my dad’s.” I think you have more issues than coming up with a name for your Dd. Would you be happy for your friend to date your Dd?

Definitely a power imbalance in this relationship.

Please don't saddle your daughter with Levi-Lily. I love the name Margot. Or Alba or Lily are lovely too. I also like Lyra?

Me and DH went for a compromise name. My first choice was Sylvie, his Laura, and we settled on Ava. I accepted he really didn't like Sylvie, and he accepted I didn't like Laura. Tell him no and to give up on Levi-Lily.

I agree, much bigger issues here than the baby's name.

Although her baby still deserves not to be saddled with a terrible name.