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Venus, Story, Ember or Apricot?

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Spaghetti0h · 11/03/2022 10:54

Venus, Story, Ember or Apricot?
I've narrowed my name list down to these.
I want something a little different to the top 20 names if possible.
Middle name would be Jean.
Which is your favourite in order please or what do you think?
Tysm for the help x

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ronjobbins · 11/03/2022 15:15

I’m sorry but all the names on that list are awful.

CyranoCyrano · 11/03/2022 15:16

This is so true. There is a poem by Kahlil Gibran in which he declares ‘Your children are not your children… though they are with you yet they belong not to you’. You are not naming a pet. You are not naming a dolly. You are naming a person who, if lucky, will live in this world for 80 plus years. The naming of a child is for them not for you. I wanted a less usual spelling of my daughter’s name, but chose the common spelling in the end to save her a lifetime of hassle. She will have the name all her life, long after I am gone. You are young, OP, but please think carefully about the name you give your child.

This is a lovely post @lizziesiddal79 and I love that poem - must look it up again. It seems to be a thing now that parents forget what it is they’re doing when they bring a child into the world.

kungfupannda · 11/03/2022 15:19

I think you need to remember that you're not actually naming a baby - you're naming a person who will spend a tiny fraction of her life as a baby, a fairly small part of it as a child, and then possibly 80 years plus as a grown woman.

Apricot - I think it's awful, but I can just about see how you might think it would suit a cuddly, round, dimply little baby. But imagine it on a 6 foot tall soldier who runs ultramarathons in her spare time - it doesn't work so well, does it? I've known three people with fruit names, and all hated them, with two changing them as soon as they were allowed.

Venus - probably the least awful of the batch, but it's a lot to live up to. I think people will think of the goddess of beauty first, and Venus Williams second.

Story - I don't like it, but if you really have to go with something that's not usually a name, it's not offensive.

Ember - awful. A burnt-out piece of wood. Dying embers. Ashes. Really miserable connotations.

There are a lot of lovely, unusual names out there. Like someone else said, it's not a binary decision between top 10 name and not-actually-a-name.

DumplinsInTheStewDarlin · 11/03/2022 15:20

Oh come on now I can think of plenty of people in more esteemed positions than secretary who are absolutes cretinous butt heads lol.

Anyway. Congratulations OP! 🌼❤

I think your list of names is sweet and creative but in all honesty perhaps better suited to characters in a fantasy book than real life. I wouldn't like to be called Apricot.

How about:
Celeste
Summer
Cicely
Lucia
Quinn
Nina
Edie
Eliza
Hazel
Sylvia

Good luck I'm sure you'll do fab and if you do decide on a less unusual first name you could always use one from your current list as her middle name?

DumplinsInTheStewDarlin · 11/03/2022 15:22

Nina Apricot Surname 😉

JuteWeaver · 11/03/2022 15:23

Ember is the only one of the four that isn't too 'much.' Sorry, OP. You're way more adventurous than me.

Ember Jean is the name of one of the grandkids on a reality show called Little People, Big World. They beat you to it!

TatianaBis · 11/03/2022 15:23

Ember - awful. A burnt-out piece of wood. Dying embers. Ashes. Really miserable connotations

Rather unimaginative. The glowing embers of a fire have good connotations to me. I wouldn't use it as a name, but not for that reason.

NotYourOscarSpeech · 11/03/2022 15:24

These are genuinely four of the worst suggested names I’ve ever seen on Mumsnet, and I’ve seen some howlers over the years.

TatianaBis · 11/03/2022 15:32

@NotYourOscarSpeech

These are genuinely four of the worst suggested names I’ve ever seen on Mumsnet, and I’ve seen some howlers over the years.
Really? You need to get out more. Balonz & Garryanne to but two are streets ahead.
thecatwhogotthecream · 11/03/2022 15:38

I don't particularly like any of those as they all seem a bit out there but at a push then Venus. I get that you don't want to go for too names etc and I'm the same. I have boys but I'll share a few girls names we considered if it was a girl

Heidi was number one choice. You rarely hear it I find

Rosie we loved - not Rosa or rose which seem to be popular but just Rosie

Niamh
Kimberley
Zoe

loislovesstewie · 11/03/2022 15:40

@KirstenBlest

Bronte was a made up surname, I think it was originally Brunty
It was really an Irish surname that was sometimes spelt Prunty or Brunty. The father decided to posh it up a bit!
PoleFairy · 11/03/2022 15:45

Venus, Story, Ember or Apricot?

Venus is ok
Story I LOVE. It's on my name list as I'm an avid reader and i just love the feel of it. It feels mystical and whimsical as a child but I think of novels and libraries with it on an adult.

Ember I'm not keen on but I know a family who are quite...erm...chavy with a little girl called Ember.

I dont like Apricot. I think it's quite harsh sounding (the p, c and t are all quite harsh to me) and it's quite a long name but difficult to shorten. I can imagine they would end up as April

CaffiSaliMali · 11/03/2022 15:47

OP - Ember is the nicest out of your suggestions, IMO. I know an Ember, MTF trans who wanted a relatively unisex name. I haven't encountered anyone called Venus, Apricot or Story.

I would look at Korean names, nice to reflect her heritage and likely to be relatively unusual in the UK.

If you like nature names look at names based on herbs, plants, flowers, stars, constellations, gemstones, water etc.

Laurel
Cassia
Seren (SERR-en, en as in hen, Welsh word for star used as a name)
Iris
Eden
Luna
Faye
Lyra
Larissa
Melody
Cadence
Fern
Brooke
Holly
Rosa
Juniper
Clementine
Opal
Samphire
Sabrina (water nymph of the River Severn)
Eira (EY-ra, ey as in hey and ra as in rabbit, means snow)

CyranoCyrano · 11/03/2022 15:49

@PoleFairy

Venus, Story, Ember or Apricot?

Venus is ok
Story I LOVE. It's on my name list as I'm an avid reader and i just love the feel of it. It feels mystical and whimsical as a child but I think of novels and libraries with it on an adult.

Ember I'm not keen on but I know a family who are quite...erm...chavy with a little girl called Ember.

I dont like Apricot. I think it's quite harsh sounding (the p, c and t are all quite harsh to me) and it's quite a long name but difficult to shorten. I can imagine they would end up as April

Novels and libraries make you think of story?? I wonder why 😂😂😂😂
notprincehamlet · 11/03/2022 15:50

Tory/Tori/Rory are diminutives of Victoria. Might work better with Jean than Story?

PoleFairy · 11/03/2022 15:50

And for what it's worth I work at a large National law firm and we have a lawyer called Coco and have had a Princess before so no, names dont hold you back!

PoleFairy · 11/03/2022 15:53

@CyranoCyrano erm...no. I didn't say when I see novels I think of stories. I said I like the name Story on an adult because I picture novels and libraries. It feels mature and grown up, exciting, other worldly. I like the feel of names and am quite visual. I like a name to make me picture something or feel something.

Spaghetti0h · 11/03/2022 15:55

As someone kindly suggested I've made a new thread x
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/baby_names/4502458-Sailor-Cherry-Moon-or-Sook-etc-help-me-pick

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Spaghetti0h · 11/03/2022 15:56

@NotYourOscarSpeech

These are genuinely four of the worst suggested names I’ve ever seen on Mumsnet, and I’ve seen some howlers over the years.
Really? So nice of you to say I guess ... You have a good day too
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CyranoCyrano · 11/03/2022 15:58

[quote PoleFairy]@CyranoCyrano erm...no. I didn't say when I see novels I think of stories. I said I like the name Story on an adult because I picture novels and libraries. It feels mature and grown up, exciting, other worldly. I like the feel of names and am quite visual. I like a name to make me picture something or feel something.[/quote]
Well obviously with the name story you would think novels (aka stories) and libraries (places where they keep stories). I would say it’s not visual it’s stating the obvious…and it’s factual not exciting or other worldly.

If it was a question on family fortunes - where would you find a story - in a library, on a bookshelf - yes all 100 people thought exactly the same.

September29th · 11/03/2022 16:11

@GeneParmesanPrivateEye

Coco Jean Cora Jean Eden Jean Clover Jean Cherry Jean Juniper Jean
Billie Jean... Wink
Kite22 · 11/03/2022 16:12

Really? So nice of you to say I guess ...
You have a good day too

The point is, you started a thread to ask for opinions.
Presumably you would only ask an anonymous forum, so that you get honest answers and find out what people are actually thinking.

You've found that your friends have smiled and politely told you they like them/ Then you chose to go to a huge international forum where people don't want you, to garner actual opinion, not friends "being nice".

The fact you have started another thread suggests you still want opinions. So will will get them.

Spaghetti0h · 11/03/2022 16:20

@Kite22

Really? So nice of you to say I guess ... You have a good day too

The point is, you started a thread to ask for opinions.
Presumably you would only ask an anonymous forum, so that you get honest answers and find out what people are actually thinking.

You've found that your friends have smiled and politely told you they like them/ Then you chose to go to a huge international forum where people don't want you, to garner actual opinion, not friends "being nice".

The fact you have started another thread suggests you still want opinions. So will will get them.

Hmm ok I was replying to the person who made that comment not directly to you, I didn't mean to offend I seem to keep offending people on here. Apologies.
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Spaghetti0h · 11/03/2022 16:22

It was too @NotYourOscarSpeech

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Spaghetti0h · 11/03/2022 16:24

@Kite22 yes I did make another post on someone's suggestion. With different names as discussed on this post.
Yes I am interested in opinions?
I don't understand your point.
I was replying to someone directly before that wasn't you.

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