Auberon

[BiscuitLover3678]

Honest thoughts. Is it ridiculous? I really like the sound and look of it.

Look - I like the name but I do think parents have to consider the experience of the child who has to live with the name. It's not just about what sounds nice to YOU. Can't you imagine a teenage lad at high school being bullied mercilessly for that name? Unless he goes to Eton or something. Kids just want to blend in. I'd give him a more "normal" name.

Bourbon

It’s very clear which posters haven’t set foot in a secondary school for twenty-plus years.

@SallyWD

Look - I like the name but I do think parents have to consider the experience of the child who has to live with the name. It's not just about what sounds nice to YOU. Can't you imagine a teenage lad at high school being bullied mercilessly for that name? Unless he goes to Eton or something. Kids just want to blend in. I'd give him a more "normal" name.

Like what? Aodh? Ezekiel? Tiarnán? Luzuko? Sylwia? All names in my DS’s school class or the one above..

I've been a teacher for nearly twenty years so I really don't need an explanation of how cruel children can be. I used to work in London where names could not have been less of an issue - I taught a Vietnamese kid called Phuc and nobody gave a toss - but more recently I've been in a very middle-England state comp in a pretty monocultural area and I've been pleasantly surprised to see that names aren't really an issue here, either.

Off the top of my head I've recently taught boys named Tristan, Oak, Jeremiah, Caspar, and a very quiet, studious boy named Rocky. I suspect all of these would raise bullying concerns on MN. They have just as many friendship and teasing issues as the Daniels and Joshuas but a kid is far more likely to be ribbed for his dismal performance on FIFA, or the time he wet himself in Year 2, or how attractive his mum is, than his name.

It would be nice if adults could give kids a bit more credit. You may be a crashing inverted snob but that doesn't mean that your child will be, unless you are directly indoctrinating them by openly mocking names in front of them.

@SallyWD

Look - I like the name but I do think parents have to consider the experience of the child who has to live with the name. It's not just about what sounds nice to YOU. Can't you imagine a teenage lad at high school being bullied mercilessly for that name? Unless he goes to Eton or something. Kids just want to blend in. I'd give him a more "normal" name.

But the very reason more uncommon names are being used, and parents are actively seeking out lesser used names is because new parents didn't like their experience of being 1 of 3 Hannahs at school, or similar. Some children want to blend in. Some children don't want to be the 11th Thomas (actually what happened in my school). You can't predict what your child will be, so you choose based on your own experience and hope it's right, like any other parenting choice.

I love it. Prefer the Auberon spelling. MN is obsessed with kids getting teased because of their name but in my experience of four boys going through high school this really doesn’t happen. There’s much greater diversity of names than when we were kids and kids just accept it.

@SallyWD

Look - I like the name but I do think parents have to consider the experience of the child who has to live with the name. It's not just about what sounds nice to YOU. Can't you imagine a teenage lad at high school being bullied mercilessly for that name? Unless he goes to Eton or something. Kids just want to blend in. I'd give him a more "normal" name.

In the nicest way possible, I’ve worked in schools and kids of all classes and backgrounds have the weirdest names. It’s the adult who are having to stop their mouths twitching.

Also Shakespearean names are pretty common these days.

Come on everyone… they are normal names and there are names more out there of course… but there is also a whole another level- who in their right state of mind would name a child Auberon? It’s pretty much aubergine, poor child will get bullied. I think some parents sometimes forget that they are naming a real person, person that will one day go to school, will be trying to make friends, go to work etc. mr auberon haha come on

@Bluemamma

Come on everyone… they are normal names and there are names more out there of course… but there is also a whole another level- who in their right state of mind would name a child Auberon? It’s pretty much aubergine, poor child will get bullied. I think some parents sometimes forget that they are naming a real person, person that will one day go to school, will be trying to make friends, go to work etc. mr auberon haha come on

So, what’s a ‘normal name’ according to you? Do you inhabit the land of Jack and Olivia only?

@Bluemamma

Come on everyone… they are normal names and there are names more out there of course… but there is also a whole another level- who in their right state of mind would name a child Auberon? It’s pretty much aubergine, poor child will get bullied. I think some parents sometimes forget that they are naming a real person, person that will one day go to school, will be trying to make friends, go to work etc. mr auberon haha come on

But is jt any worse than Quentin, Princess and Blue (I have worked with all!)

OK, I note the comments made in response to my comment. Maybe kids aren't as cruel as I suspected. I have a very unusual name (so unusual I've never met anyone else with my name) and I did hate my name in high school simply because it made me feel weird and different. Kids did tease me about my name but admittedly it wasn't awful teasing, just a bit of fun in their eyes. However, having such a unusual name did make me feel self conscious. As an already self conscious child this was yet another thing that made me feel I was weird. I would like to add that as an adult I've grown to love my name and the fact it's unusual.

@Bluemamma

Come on everyone… they are normal names and there are names more out there of course… but there is also a whole another level- who in their right state of mind would name a child Auberon? It’s pretty much aubergine, poor child will get bullied. I think some parents sometimes forget that they are naming a real person, person that will one day go to school, will be trying to make friends, go to work etc. mr auberon haha come on

Grace is pretty much grape… And just because you would bully an Auberon doesn’t mean most would.

Lol I wouldn’t bully an aubergine 🍆, but I’d have a nice giggle with all other mums in creche/playground.
Cucumber is also a nice masculine name, and can be shorten to Cumber, let’s make it a name too :)
P.S nothing against aubergines- I love them

@Bluemamma

Lol I wouldn’t bully an aubergine 🍆, but I’d have a nice giggle with all other mums in creche/playground. Cucumber is also a nice masculine name, and can be shorten to Cumber, let’s make it a name too :) P.S nothing against aubergines- I love them

The thing is, @Bluemamma, no matter how discreet or subtle you and your little crew think you are being, your child is going to learn from you that it’s acceptable to mock people’s names. Prejudices are learned behaviours. Don’t be surprised if you have to take a few awkward calls from your children’s schools in the years to come.

Well let’s hope the OP mixes with more mature and intelligent playground mums eh? Who won’t snigger at a perfectly nice name just because it’s unfamiliar to them. I mean Peter is almost Penis. Would you have a giggle at that too?

@Bluemamma

Lol I wouldn’t bully an aubergine 🍆, but I’d have a nice giggle with all other mums in creche/playground. Cucumber is also a nice masculine name, and can be shorten to Cumber, let’s make it a name too :) P.S nothing against aubergines- I love them

Wait...what?! You'd mock a child for their name? Nice

Actually my or your feelings towards this made up name don’t matter.. what matters is how other kids will treat poor aubergine. As previous posts said he will be bullied! We can teach them all the respect we want, but we can’t control what happens in school. And the kids wil laugh at poor aubergine either out loud or quietly in the corner- both bad.

@Bluemamma

Lol I wouldn’t bully an aubergine 🍆, but I’d have a nice giggle with all other mums in creche/playground. Cucumber is also a nice masculine name, and can be shorten to Cumber, let’s make it a name too :) P.S nothing against aubergines- I love them

Well yo u say all the other Mom's but maybe not everyone is happy to stand around taking the piss out of a little kid. Maybe the issue is you, not the name. Especially when little Jack overhears you calling the baby Aubergine and copies you

Presumably you also refer to Karens are Carrots or Corins as Coffins or Corriander, Lennons as lemons, Grace as grapes, Aubrey as strawberry, Melanie as melon etc?

Melanie, Grace… these actual names. May be liked or not by some, but they are names.

@Bluemamma

Actually my or your feelings towards this made up name don’t matter.. what matters is how other kids will treat poor aubergine. As previous posts said he will be bullied! We can teach them all the respect we want, but we can’t control what happens in school. And the kids wil laugh at poor aubergine either out loud or quietly in the corner- both bad.

From what you've written it seems pretty clear that teaching "all the respect you want" isn't very much at all!

@Bluemamma

Melanie, Grace… these actual names. May be liked or not by some, but they are names.

So is Auberon an 'actual name'. What's your point?

Melanie, Grace… these actual names

Auberon is an “actual” name. You should stop now, you are making yourself sound bigoted, unpleasant and not very smart.

No I don't like it. Reminds me of Aubergine mixed with a tangerine.

Never .

There are better names there really are.