Muslim boy names- help me please

[Sleeplessem]

I think I posted about this before, but I’m nearly 36 weeks and we still have no names, so MN to the rescue! So to set the scene, I’m white brit and dh is brit pakistani. V large extended family on dh side means all the names id choose from the big book of Muslim baby names are gone (Zachariah, Haris, shoaib, kamran, Adam, Ali, layth, zayan, Ismail, ayan etc)

People keep on crapping on the names we / I do like. None of DH know we’re having a boy but they’ve crapped on them in passing. They are also hypercritical because of my heritage (we’ll leave that one there and not touch it because it’s a whole other thread)

My family are also quite Britain first in their mentality (again whole other thread) Neither mental side’s feeling will be strictly paid attention too but tbh I can do without the grief we got for DDs name on both sides, it was f’ing relentless.

So so far we like kinda but not properly.::

Aiden or aydin

Deen but spelt Dean

Asher

Rayan- my family would def have a problem with this name but aside from that it’s v v popular- I know about 4/5 people with a son called rayan so it dulls it a little for me.

It’s this or succumb to the footballer names DH keeps on suggesting

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@Sleeplessem The trouble is that you don't know what name you want.

So people could be here suggesting names until the rapture.

I agree with PP that other people always have an opinion on your baby's name, no matter what it is, or seemingly neutral to suit extended families, etc.

It doesn't sound like you're going to please everyone by having a combination of an Islamic name for your husband's (family's) benefit and something more Anglicised for you (and your family).

That's quite the Venn diagram sweet spot!

So I would suggest only having this conversation between you and your husband and the rest of them can like it, or lump it.

Aiden or aydin (been crapped on by one person saying someone would say oh kids would tease an aiden by saying aidens got aids and another saying he’d be teased called gaydin

The thing is, if you chose a completely neutral and “unmakefunable” of first name, kids will find something in your surname to take the piss out of.
Or in clothes or shoes or something that even just happens once!!

Look at Greg Davies stand up about nicknames, one of his friends in his 40s is still called Baghdad because once at school his dad bought him W new bag.

Go with a name you like. Don’t worry about others opinions and teach your children not to bully others.

Aiden is lovely, you could change the spelling I know MN hates that, but hey Aden is fine.

[quote Ameanstreakamilewide]@Sleeplessem The trouble is that you don't know what name you want.

So people could be here suggesting names until the rapture.

I agree with PP that other people always have an opinion on your baby's name, no matter what it is, or seemingly neutral to suit extended families, etc.

It doesn't sound like you're going to please everyone by having a combination of an Islamic name for your husband's (family's) benefit and something more Anglicised for you (and your family).

That's quite the Venn diagram sweet spot!

So I would suggest only having this conversation between you and your husband and the rest of them can like it, or lump it. [/quote]
So true! We don’t know what names we like/ can’t agree on any ( DHs suggestions are all footballers 🤦‍♀️)

We always keep names to ourselves it’s just the ones we liked have been inadvertently crapped on in passing and now when we think of them we just think ‘oh Dean, it’s chavvy right?’ Or ‘Aydin, people will just call him gaydin’ etc.

Maybe we’ll just call him boy, birdbox style 😂

Some footballer names are cool like Xavi! I think you should come up with a list you both like and look at each other's lists and find a couple you like on each other's lists and then maybe talk to a close friend or the other children or just wait till he's born to pick getting the top 4 or 5 names.

Zane

@MerryMarigold

Some footballer names are cool like Xavi! I think you should come up with a list you both like and look at each other's lists and find a couple you like on each other's lists and then maybe talk to a close friend or the other children or just wait till he's born to pick getting the top 4 or 5 names.

Our Top 4/5 were the ones listed in my OP, we’d done exactly how you said, except we kept them to ourselves, they just got ruined along the way 😢

When I said the good names are gone, it is by immediate family I.e siblings, first cousins and their kids- all of whom reside close by and are seen on a semi regular basis. Sucks 😢

How did they get ruined so quickly? Do it again and stick to your guns this time!

@MerryMarigold

How did they get ruined so quickly? Do it again and stick to your guns this time!

Oh it’s just in our minds they’ve been ruined. When I was pregnant with DD before we knew she was a girl we made a list of the names we liked and narrowed it down to top 5, and just along the way between now and then they’ve been inadvertently dumped on.

Someone in passing says they hate the name Dean it sounds chavvy,
Rayan is overdone
Aydin would be called gaydin etc
DH isn’t a fan of Asher anyway that’s just me.

Yahya sounds like yo yo etc

You get the picture. In general I don’t love boys names, there were many many more faves on the girls list lol 😂

Wow, you must talk about names a lot to cover so many that people coincidentally talk about the ones you've chosen! Anyway, best of luck. You've had lots of good advice.

JAD.

Trust me. It’s very unusual. An old name. And in the country where we live there’s only 7 Jads registered.

It’s just beautiful and it means generous.

I think you just need to be less sensitive.

One person mentions Dean is shavvy so that's it ruined forever.
What would you have done if the comment had inadvertently been made after you'd had him?

Seif
Ifan

@SleepingStandingUp

I think you just need to be less sensitive.

One person mentions Dean is shavvy so that's it ruined forever.
What would you have done if the comment had inadvertently been made after you'd had him?

Probably felt a bit crap, same as I do when people scoff at DDs name

Then you really do need to toughen up. Any name you pick, someone isn't going to like it or there will be a character on TV you don't like with it etc.

My partner is Muslim. We are due a boy in 4 weeks and we are naming him Eren Thomas. I found it incredibly difficult choosing a suitable name

I like Faris and Khalil (nickname) Khal

@SleepingStandingUp

Then you really do need to toughen up. Any name you pick, someone isn't going to like it or there will be a character on TV you don't like with it etc.

Come off it, if someone tells you your kid has a stupid name it’s upsetting. I don’t mean you go home and cry for hours, but is it perturbing, yes.

I don’t need to ‘toughen up’ but thanks 👍🏻

@ScotsMumOf4

My partner is Muslim. We are due a boy in 4 weeks and we are naming him Eren Thomas. I found it incredibly difficult choosing a suitable name

That’s a lovely name! Sounds quite Celtic! We must be due around the same time ❤️

A muslim lad near us was named Saklaine, (unsure if correct spelling). To my mind its a beautiful name and not one I had heard before.

Raazi
Zaam
Kian
Jawad
Sarim
Yosef
Muaaz
Idrees
Zahir
Adem
Mustafa

I've taught quite a few of thd names mentioned but do like,
Nasim
Ishaq (Eeshaq)
Haaris
Ridwan
Musa
Ibrahim
Adam
Laith
Riyan
Asher (is Hebrew name too)

Come off it, if someone tells you your kid has a stupid name it’s upsetting. I don’t mean you go home and cry for hours, but is it perturbing, yes. trust me I've had lots of comments about my kids names, in rl and on here. If I was put off a name by a single remark they'd still be wandering around as twin 1 and twin 2.

So yes, if you're going to let every single opinion impact you enough to stop you using a name you love, you do. Worry about yours and your husbands opinions. And don't spend time with people who will openly mock your daughters name

@Sleeplessem I had thought it was an Irish name when I first heard it. I liked baykal, Khalil and Ash too. Boys names are so difficult and I didn't help myself overthinking all the ways kids could make fun of his name 🙈 I'm ignoring the connection with Erin as I love his name so much