Muslim boy names- help me please

[Sleeplessem]

I think I posted about this before, but I’m nearly 36 weeks and we still have no names, so MN to the rescue! So to set the scene, I’m white brit and dh is brit pakistani. V large extended family on dh side means all the names id choose from the big book of Muslim baby names are gone (Zachariah, Haris, shoaib, kamran, Adam, Ali, layth, zayan, Ismail, ayan etc)

People keep on crapping on the names we / I do like. None of DH know we’re having a boy but they’ve crapped on them in passing. They are also hypercritical because of my heritage (we’ll leave that one there and not touch it because it’s a whole other thread)

My family are also quite Britain first in their mentality (again whole other thread) Neither mental side’s feeling will be strictly paid attention too but tbh I can do without the grief we got for DDs name on both sides, it was f’ing relentless.

So so far we like kinda but not properly.::

Aiden or aydin

Deen but spelt Dean

Asher

Rayan- my family would def have a problem with this name but aside from that it’s v v popular- I know about 4/5 people with a son called rayan so it dulls it a little for me.

It’s this or succumb to the footballer names DH keeps on suggesting

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One of the names Thats come up loads is DHs name lol, id mention it but it’s super outing lol.

Someone suggested ramzi/ ramsi I love that, it means sign i looked it up, it’s got the same sort of meaning as Dds name… DH hates it though said his middle name should be ‘kitchen nightmares’ - man thinks he’s funny

Same with rafi and raif which I also quite liked.

I like Sami too it’s cute- do we think it could come off as a bit chavvy though? Same with Dean.

Someone mentioned spelling Asher Ashar which is the more traditional Muslim way, not sure if I like that spelling.

The reason I want something fairly on the English tongue is because the amount of strange looks, scoffs, constant mispronounciation and even rude comments about DDs name - even though it’s quite an easy name to say in all honestly, only 3/4 letters depending on how you spell it. Whilst people should learn not to be so rude/ ignorant yes, it’s still quite hurtful to be told. So keen to avoid that again. (Her name is the arabic name for sign/ miracle for anyone curious, again super outing lol)

Baby boy will have an English middle name after my late DF.

We’ve added Zayd to the list too xx

Salman
Yahya
Reza

I don’t think Sami is chavvy (but I would say that)! I don’t know anyone called Sami or Sammy either Muslim or English or otherwise so whilst it’s recognisable there aren’t actually loads of them.

Karim?

I actually REALLY like Sami

Great suggestion

I really like Sulaiman. Have Faris and Faisal been mentioned?

@itssquidstella

I really like Sulaiman. Have Faris and Faisal been mentioned?

Ones DHs name lol xx

Jad
Faris
Iyad
Ammar

So his family don't like you because your white and your family don't like him because he isn't? I wouldn't be worried about their opinions frankly.

Sami is also lovely.

Sami is wonderful

And def not chavvy at all!

Does it have to be a specifically Muslim name? I mean, if the extended family is veto-img the names you like and you’re struggling to find something suitably Muslim. then just widen the scope. There’s plenty of perfectly good boys Mars out there!

Names not Mars! Ultimately, it’s your child so you get to choose his name.

My advice would be to NOT discuss the name with relatives or inlaws at all. Someone will always have something to say. Shortlist the names you like and when baby arrives name him and you and DH let everyone know together.

Does it really matter if someone in the extended family has the same name?

For me the most ambiguous or western suited names for a boy would be

Adam
Atif
Asher (is a known pakistani name.)
Ali
Ayan
Aris
Burak
Elias (Ilyas)
Emir (Amir)
Esa
Emin (Amin/Ameen)
Emre
Sami
Shaan
Hani
Haris
Hassan
Maaz
Lutfi
Rami
Talal

Zachariah (zakariya)

Zaki which is a name in its own right. Could be shortened to Zak by your side if the family.

Zayn
Zayd
Ziyad
Yunes
Murad

I agree with your husband about Ramzi and kitchen nightmares, sorry!

@SleepingStandingUp

So his family don't like you because your white and your family don't like him because he isn't? I wouldn't be worried about their opinions frankly.

Bingo!

I’m not arsed about their actual opinion, they can go suck an egg for all I’m concerned. His family would have a negative thing to say even if I called the baby Abdullah or Abdurrahman.

My reason behind wanting a more neutral sounding Muslim name is a) discrimination (sucks but it’s happens) b) guess I generally prefer the sound of most of them, is that bad I don’t know c) the constant correcting people on how to pronounce DDs name and then the sneers and funny comments isn’t great- so would like to avoid again. (Dd actually has a v simple name too, 3/4 letters depending on how you spell it)

@MsDidoTwite

Does it have to be a specifically Muslim name? I mean, if the extended family is veto-img the names you like and you’re struggling to find something suitably Muslim. then just widen the scope. There’s plenty of perfectly good boys Mars out there!

So Islamically you can call your child any name with a ‘good meaning’ that isn’t sacrilegious (ie lucifer) so lots of people now don’t and that’s totally cool, but personally I do want a Muslim name, just a more neutral one which is seemingly harder with boys names, at least for me lol. So many are taken, and DH’s immediate family is so large xx

Sami is a really lovely name.

Sami isn't chavvy at all, and works well.

You say all the good ones are taken by extended family but how close - siblings and niblings or aunts and second cousins?

I like Sami too, also Idris and Rafi or what about Zehn?

Aban?

Oooh, someone mentioned Kamran. I knew a lovely kid called Kamran!

Noones going to say Aidan has aids. Aidan is a lovely name.

I dont think its a big deal if a name is used more than once in extended family. We have repeated names on both my dads and my mums extended family and its not an issue

Aariz
Amaan
Adam
Isa/Eesa
Yaqub

Musa. Even if there’s another in the family he can be your Musa.