Regret my daughter’s name Phoebe

[LondonAnnie]

Does anyone else regret the name you choose for your child?

My daughter’s Phoebe and I worry that other people might not like it ( didn’t realize it’s a marmite name ) that it’s too hard to spell ( we get Pheobe already didn’t think it would annoy me but it does ) or that she’ll get teased and be called Beefy ( didn’t think about that as a potential nickname when I choose her name ) or something else that’s mean .

Unfortunately it’s too late to change it now. She’s nearly 3. Other mums with a Phoebe, are you happy with that name?

Happy for any support !🙂 Thanks !

All names are marmite! No such thing as a universally liked name.

It's a lovely name.

I wanted a Hebe but husband didn't like it

Is it beefy because phoebe in friends is phoebe buffay?

I would have loved to call my daughter Phoebe but our surname began with a C and her dad was a policeman ................................🙄

@LondonAnnie

Ah thanks ladies feel a lot better now ❤️ I have no plans of changing her name ,like you say she’s 3 and even if I wanted to my hubby wouldn’t allow it he he.

I made the mistake and googled her name once and someone said don’t choose that name she’ll get called beefy ( if you change the letters around you’ll get beefy ). And someone said PeeBee. As I was already a bit uncertain about her name that didn’t help.

Thanks again for the support 😊

Those two people sound spectacularly stupid...

I really wouldn’t worry.

I have a Phoebe. I still love the name as much as I did when I first named her. She's a teen and seems to love it too.

I love it, & wanted to call my DD Phoebe. (didn't in the end as it doesn't' work well in H's husband's language)
Have no regrets

I have a Phoebe!

She was never given a bad nickname from it - she's Bee to everyone.
(Well, she's often Catastrophebe from her family, because we're rotten gits )

I used to call her Feebs, but she trained me out of it.

I know I'm biased here, but it's a lovely name, certainly not one to regret, you have lovely taste in names.

We have a Phoebe. It's simply beautiful. (she does get called Feebs sometimes though!)

What’s a marmite name?

I know a few little & bigger girls called Phoebe all lovely little girls, never seen or heard any problems with the name. Ignore other people, you can turn almost any name into a horrible nickname if you really put your mind to it x

Lovely name. Dd was very neatly Phoebe. The only reason I'm glad she wasn't is that there are loads around her age (24). Ironically, the name I did choose is now very very very popular in under tens.

I don't think Phoebe is a particularly marmite name. Certainly not with me anyway - it's nice enough, but I neither love it nor hate it 🤷🏻‍♀️

@youremyperson

Get her to spell it out to people like this

P as in Phoebe
H as in hoebe
O as in oebe
E as in ebe
B as in b-be
and E as in… ‘ello there, mate!

I have a teenage Phoebe. This is exactly how I taught her to spell her own name when she was small

Oh and I call her "Fee"

Her friends have nickname for her unrelated to her name. She has a classic middle name too so her name with carry well when shes an adult.

Why are you bothered if people don’t like it?

I love the name Phoebe!! It was a front runner for us but when she was born she suited our other favourite name more.

I love the name Phoebe!!! Beautiful name imo!

I think it is a lovely name. I have an awful unusual name to spell and it is just one of those things of being used to spell it out. But I think Phoebe is common enough it shouldn't be too bad, or quickly learnt. One Christmas as a child from all the cards I got there was 10 versions of my name hahaha. With the nicknames I wouldn't worry too much she will get the obvious ones. My son has a fairly easy name (on purpose because of me), has an obvious nickname and then his friends picked a random one (a product brand name) because it rhymes. He doesn't care so its all fine. I taught mine you are likely get nicknames so best to be ok with them else someone who isn't nice will pick up on it and use it against you

I'm saddened you feel this way. It's a name many people will now be familiar with because of the work of Phoebe Waller-Bridge, so I think this will reduce chances of misspelling or not being pronounced correctly. You'll be a proud parent if your DD turns out to be as successful in a chosen career.

Its a beautiful name, my daughter was almost a Phoebe and sometimes I wish I'd gone for it!

Its such a beautiful name. I have one! She's 11. Never heard of the nickname 'beefy' in her whole 11 years. She gets called Pheebs or Phubs but she's quite happy with that. We called her because it has a combination of my DGMs' names in (Ph)yllis and (Be)atrice. You're right though that people can't spell it but as far as I'm concerned, that's their problem

Phoebe is a lovely name.

I've a very common, easy to spell name and people write and call me a wide range of spellings and pronunciations!

I honestly love the name Phoebe and it was on my shortlist. Love it.

I suppose it's Fee Bee = Bee Fee. Nope never would have thought of that as a nickname.
Phoebe is a lovely name. I wouldn't regret it at all!

A very close friend's daughter (who regards me as an aunt - she's not almost 40) is called Phoebe and it SO suits her!

She went for a while to a French-speaking child minder who pronounced it (at first) 'Pherb' and this was her nickname with family for decades. She didn't mind at all.