Regret my daughter’s name Phoebe

[LondonAnnie]

Does anyone else regret the name you choose for your child?

My daughter’s Phoebe and I worry that other people might not like it ( didn’t realize it’s a marmite name ) that it’s too hard to spell ( we get Pheobe already didn’t think it would annoy me but it does ) or that she’ll get teased and be called Beefy ( didn’t think about that as a potential nickname when I choose her name ) or something else that’s mean .

Unfortunately it’s too late to change it now. She’s nearly 3. Other mums with a Phoebe, are you happy with that name?

Happy for any support !🙂 Thanks !

I went to school with a Phoebe and the only nickname she got was " pheebs/ feebs". It is a lovely name that is different but not crazy or OTT like some of the names nowadays

@LondonAnnie

Well Annie gets fanny and trannie, and Tatiana gets Titiana.

Find me a name you can't do something silly with.

I worry that other people might not like it
Only you and her dad need to like it. Sod other people.

that it’s too hard to spell
Nope.

that she’ll get teased and be called Beefy
I know plenty of people with strange nicknames. I think two choose them for themselves to stand out. So don't give her the idea that a nickname for her is "Beefy" as she may embrace it.

Beefy? That's random. I don't get that link at all.

Phoebe is my DD's middle name. Loved it when she was born, love it even more today.

@seatofmars What's the passage from RII?

It's an utterly beautiful name

I think Phoebe is a lovely name but I totally get how you feel. I regret my DD's name, I still like the name itself but don't think it suits her IYSWIM. She's also too old to change it now, and I'm just hoping she grows into it/I get used to it. I call her 'Baby' most of the time because it feels weird calling her by her name.

Beautiful name. I have a friend whose daughter has the same name, and hasn't had any of the issues you're worried about.

I also know a Pheobe....I guess if you're going to have a fairly unusual name you're going to get the odd person that can't spell it, but if you're naming your child surely you would check how it's spelled first?! I also know a Racheal!

Beefy would never occur to me and I can't imagine it would to many children. Also it's a lovely name.

@LondonAnnie I think if you look online you can find horrible opinions on any name OP 😊 Phoebe is a beautiful name!! It’s one of those names that I feel suits all stages of life too - lovely from baby to older lady 😊

@Ilovemaisie

Beefy? That's random. I don't get that link at all.

Switching the ph sound with the b I'm guessing.

I love the name - it was going to be DS' if he had been a girl

What has made you worry about “beefy” as a nickname? I have never heard that.

Lovely name. I don’t think you have to regret it. It’s a decent, classic name that many people will love. Doesn’t have to be everyone’s cup of tea, does it?
At least it’s not something like ‘Diamond Princess’ or ‘Chanel Chardonnay’.

It's not difficult to spell...

My sister's name is Phoebe. She hates it. I would gladly swap as it's absolutely my favourite name. BUT - I was in my 20s before I learned it wasn't spelt "Pheobe" .

(She's never been called Beefy)

I was at school with a girl known as 'Beef'. Her name was actually Frances! I don't know where the 'Beef' came from but she didn't mind and was very popular.

It's a gorgeous name, I'd rather have that than my name.

[quote TheRoaringGirl]@seatofmars What's the passage from RII?

It's an utterly beautiful name [/quote]
Actually, @TheRoaringGirl, I'm thinking of 'Down, down I come, like glistering Phaethon', 'to the base court', when he realises he is going to be deposed. For some reason I always confuse it with Phoebus - but of course, it's bloody Phaeton who scorched the Earth after making off with Dad's chariot! (And I'm meant to be a bloody Shakespeare expert! ). Lots of other references to Phoebus in Shaky, of course, but I do love that scene in Richard II!

It's a pretty name.
My DD has always gone by the short form of her name but uses the full version at school. (Was too shy to say she preferred the short version and now is used to it!) But she finds its rather mangled by kids with a strong accent (west Yorkshire) as it has a soft pronunciation in the middle which gets pronounced hard by lots of people.
Something like Rachel being pronounced Rack-el. (It's not Rachel)
I don't think Phoebe has any obvious trips, slightly tricky to spell with the Ph having a F sound. But I would never have thought beefy!

I like the name. Also does she respond to it? If you start calling her something else won't it be weird? Have you applied for a nursery place etc. Everything would need to be changed.

It’s a lovely name, op

@seatofmars Ha, the old Phaeton/Phoebus jumble!
There's always 'Sweet Phebe' of AYLI too. It's my favourite girls name.

@TheRoaringGirl - have just noticed the Middleton / Dekker link with your username, too. Double blushes!

It's a lovely name :)

[quote TheRoaringGirl]@seatofmars Ha, the old Phaeton/Phoebus jumble!
There's always 'Sweet Phebe' of AYLI too. It's my favourite girls name. [/quote]
Woman after my own heart!