Would you use the name everyone hates?

[NavyBerry]

So me and DH chose a name for our DD. It is English, classic, old, probably posh. I don't know anyone with the name and neither does my husband. We like the meaning, the sound of it and the diminutives. It goes well with the surname and our names. I don't want to say it but it is smth like Verity or Lavinia. Quite rare.
His family was very rough critisizing it, mine is being even worse. Anyone who we mention it to says how awful it is. I'm not getting it. There is no valid reason for such rude reaction apart from people not having heard of it much. I don't know what to do. We have already got used to it but are we ruining our baby's life? Have you been in a similar situation? I'm under the impression that you can meet a child with any name nowadays and our choice will hardly be a shock

What a rude family you have. Use the name. And don't in future share names with your family before the baby is born. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

If everyone you have etold has had a really strong reaction and hated it, I'm going to say yes, ots probably awful. Hard to say when you are so determined not to say what it is though. Infact the thread is pointless really.

Ethel

Sorry posted too soon
My mum actively hated the name I gave my DD tried to get all my family to tell me so, and tried calling my DH to get him to change it - spent a lot of my pregnancy calling me with names she liked - it put a big rift in our relationship
Ignore them, I did snd my daughter lives her name (she's teen now£

Really would love to know the name or a hint.

But they do sound awful for being like this. I don't under why people aren't just polite.

I loved the name Maud. Never met anyone else who liked it including dh so we didn’t use it.
I still love the name.

Well it seems to be us all everyone ever wants on MN is a unique name no one else has. So if you pick one most people hate it's win win. Doesn't matter provided you like it.

Aside from the fact we cannot comment on the name as you are being obscure about it, this is the exact reason my DH and I NEVER tell anyone the name before baby is born. Before a baby is born everyone thinks they have a duty to give their input into your choice. After baby is born people are much more inclined to keep their opinions to themselves. Now that you have told everyone the name you intend to use, you have to either stick with it and tell everyone to take a long walk off a short cliff, or change it. That's it.

And for what it's worth, I think your families sound atrocious. Absolutely pathetic to ridicule a name choice, especially if it is in fact a Real name with Real Spelling -yes I am one of those twats who hates made up names/spellings.

I have 3DC, expecting 4 in a few months, and each time my mother has done a "oh that's an interesting name...um where did you find that one?" And I can assure you each of my
Children have real/regular names.

Post the name with an asterisk instead of one letter then it won't come up of Google's

How can we know if you don't tell us the name?
Prudence
Patience
Peculiar
Virtue
Charity
Mavis
Agnes
Agatha

If you are too embarrassed to tell us the name anonymously, how will you cope when baby is born?

Beryl
Dorothy
Edith
Martha
Mary
Elizabeth
Florence
Gertrude
Ethyl

Lesson I learned 25 years ago - told Dh's family the first name I thought would be nice for unborn DH (Guy) I thought it was nice and classic. They immediately said - Guy the gorilla you can't do that. After that I did not tell them a single name we were thinking of until he was born. Because once DS was born it was just his name and no one could make fun of it.

Pretty sure OP unless you have chosen wild and loopy you will not have chosen a name which would out you,.

Unless a boy - and Endeavour in which case people will just get a list of links to Morse

Muriel
Phyllis
Gladys
Winifred/ Winnie
Vera
Edna
Eunice
Bernadette
Enid
Sheila
Mildred
Maude
Marjorie
Frances
Harriet
Gwendolyn/gwyn
Lorraine

Is it Dorkas?
Or something super posh like Araminta?

If it's so unusual that even mentioning it on this post would be outing then I assume it's too weird to give to your kid.
But if you want a genuine opinion you need to say the name. It will give you an answer one way or another. Either 'you're family is crazy it's fine' or 'no they are right don't use it'

We didn't tell anyone our DC's names before they were born, but when DC2 arrived, and we announced his name, a lot of people, including family gave us a 'wtf' face. I reallllllllly don't care. It's a great name. It suits him. It has a lovely meaning.

Ursula
Dora
Wanda
Eileen
Myra
Irene
Myrtle
Jean/ Jane
Constance/ Connie
Nelly/ Nellie
Rosemary
Joan
Anne

Millicent
June
Betty
Matilda/ Tilda/ Tilly
Olive
Pearl
Elsa/ Elsie
Debbie/ Deborah

I'm also guessing Ve22roni5ca.

OP guaranteed that whatever name you choose someone will gave something to say even if not to your face. I chose a very very traditional and common name like Bob for my DS, with the only way it's ever been written and only one way to say it and there were people asking me how to pronounce it!!!!

Ignore your families. They got a chance to choose names, now it's yours. It's you who will be saying it multiple times a day for the rest of your lives. It's a name. It's known because they apparently know it and it's on name lists, just not common, so you're not being unfair to your child. I mean you're not calling her Pink Lego!

And the chances that anybody at school will have a problem with it are slim: the kids won't have any connotations.

Unless it's Minnie because to be fair, all kids know Minnie Mouse and then that it means tiny, which can cause problems due to height.

Being blunt though,if you like it go ahead and use it.

Veronica
Gillian

Oh god, is it Mildred?

Victoria?

The only name of that style that I can think of which would merit a strong reaction would be Lettice (sp?)

We can’t help you much without knowing the actual name but genuine classical names never really go out of fashion and are fine in most circumstances

You saying that the name is 'probably posh' makes me wonder if the responses are rooted in inverted snobbery. But again, it's impossible really to say without knowing the name. Winifred is a very different kettle of fish from Ethel.

Oh, is it Felicity? I've seen people on here call it 'posh' and 'horsey'. Though I don't think that's as uncommon as you're suggesting, not any more.

Nancy
Norma