DH hates my favourite name, help!

[ThriftyMcThrifty]

I absolutely love the boys name Jude. However I’m now 35 weeks and my husband has steadfastly refused to even consider it, he’s been clear that he hates it ever since I first suggested it. So I really want to find a new name I can like as much, I don’t want our baby to have a name his dad hates. This is our third child and he went with my favourite both times, so it would not be on if I was to insist on Jude. Anyway - please help! He wrote me a list of ten names he likes and said I could pick any and he’d be happy. Of the list I like Tobias and Laurence, probably nicknamed either Toby or Laurie. But I don’t love either. I felt Jude was perfect as I loved the short but complete sound of it. And it feels classic but not overused - although I know it’s popular. Our daughter is Etta to give a sense of our taste, and we were thinking of Lina or Delia if this one had been a girl. Any suggestions???

Jared or Joel?

Jonah
Jonas
Seth
Otto

What names does he like?

Rafe
Nate
Joss
Miles
Rex
Keir

Laurie is great!

Laurence is awful.

My son is Jude and my daughter is Effie, I think we have great taste😉 other boys names I like are:
Judah (would he consider this you think?)
Seth
Tobias (which I saw is on your list!)
Milo
Miles
Jonah
Joss
Eli (too similar to Etta?)

Oh and Rafe

And Otis

I'm with your husband. I hate Jude. To me it sounds like a girl's name. Love Tobias snd Laurence.

Lina and Delia? Sorry but they’re dreadful.

Rory?

Ask him after he’s seen you give birth.

I agree with your husband - Jude is awful.

I think Tobias goes far better with Etta. Both lovely names.

Julian is nice

Laurence is a girls name in France and Laurie also seems very feminine.

Tobias is quite nice or how about
Dominic
Clement
Vincent
Quentin
Marcus

Rather than it being his choice or yours, could you go through nameberry or similar together and star afresh with the name hunt? I had loads of names DP didn't like, it's just about compromise.

As you've chosen the two previous names, I think it's only fair he has first pick. Just agree with one you like even if you don't love it. Surely you like at least one of his ten choices? Or suggest others you can agree on?

I chose both my boys names (as pp said after he watched me give birth I was allowed to choose), so I thought when I had our 3rd I’d be allowed my favourite after I’d given birth but he still said no. I let him choose, a name that I didn’t mind but definitely didn’t love - I love it now though, I had a wobbly couple of days but it suits her and I’m glad that he got to name one of our kids.

Not a fan of Jude.

Don’t like Jude at all.

I’d go Tobias/Toby.

Ask him after he’s seen you give birth.

I hate this nonsense.

I like Tobias.

What else was on the list?

Me too Soup.

Ask him after he's seen you give birth

Why would his opinion have changed? What a weird comment.

I like Tobias and Laurence.

I agree with asking him during or shortly after the birth!