What do you do when your partner's favourite name is Jayden...?

[JoJoS123]

I'm not knocking the name Jayden, I actually don't hate it. However, the name gets too much grief, so I'd never want to use it!

DH is insisting; in all fairness, I named DS1 (DH picked the middle name) - we said we would do it the other way around, this time I wish I hadn't!

Jayden and DS1's name, just does not go. I wouldn't want to use Jayden anyway. Also, as I'm picking the middle, he'd be Jayden Oliver... Honestly, I could cope with Oliver Jayden (even though it's not what I'd like) but DH is saying it isn't fair! help!!!

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Time is of the essence op, you haven't got long.

[YakTriangle]

Thing is, you didn't insist upon using a name he hated, or even didn't like very much. He liked your ds1's name. So why this time, even if it is his turn to choose, would he insist on something you know you don't want? That's not taking turns, it's putting your foot down in an unreasonable, unfair and lifelong unchangeable way.

[WhoaCadburys]

I'd LTB

It shows a lack of respect to you in a major decision

[Shesinfashion]

I agreed to DP naming our first child. It's a perfectly nice "middle class" name but I would never have chosen it myself. Whilst I don't dislike it, and can't imagine her being called anything else now, obviously as she's 10 now, there is no way I'd have agreed if I'd really hated it.
Jayden sounds like a made up name to me. Am sure it features in the pupil names teachers dread list.

[AmysTiara]

How about Aidan? Pretty similar but nicer. I couldn't call my kid Jaiden but it might have a lot to do with OW having a Jaiden tbh

[BombadierFritz]

No, i mean both kai and jayden are names that are sometimes looked down on for the same reasons. So if thats your main problem with jayden, its not really worth fighting over it, as the same people who would judge jayden would equally judge kai.

[amibeston123]

Its your baby and you shouldn't listen to or care about anybody else's opinion! X

[JoJoS123]

That's not the only reason, I clearly said Kai gets the same stick

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

On a positive note if he sticks to it and your don't want a divorce, Jay really isn't too bad. Any name beginning with a J can get this.

I know a Jay (jeremy) and a Jay (Justin).

[JoJoS123]

I love Aidan, I'll discuss with him later

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FWIW there are at least two boys named Jayden at DS's private prep school.

This made me laugh out loud.

[JoJoS123]

Why's that funny?

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The inference that being at a prep school means it's a posh name. Katie Price's kids go to private school, fgs.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Yes I have to say my dses have been to 3 prep schools between them. No Jayden's in sight.

[JoJoS123]

I don't think they were implying it's 'posh', but that different backgrounds use the name

[JoJoS123]

My DS goes to a private school, there hasn't been a Jayden, but there hasn't been many names!

[Vixxfacee]

Why was my comment deleted?

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My point was that private schools don't always mean posh. If there was a Jayden at a private school, it might just mean that his parents happened to have had money, which is a different thing (hence my Katie Price reference).

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Vixxfacee, do you really have to ask?

[Vixxfacee]

Yes I do!

What I was basically saying that the demographic of mumsnet likes certain names.

Jayden is a name that started in the black community and trickled down.

Hence why certain names get stick on this website.

[MyBreadIsEggy]

I would stick to your guns on this one Op. If you really hate it, then it cannot be your son's name. It's not fair. As you said, your DH liked your choice for your elder son,so you weren't in this pickle last time!
When naming my DD, I tried to imagine a name that wouldn't be ridiculous when she's a pensioner....IMO, a 70 year old man introducing himself as "Jayden insert surname" would fall into that category. But again that's purely because those names, and similar ones have those horrible "chav" ties because of stupid shows like Jeremy Kyle unfortunately - and even then, only because Jayden/Kayden/Brayden, have been over used in recent years!

[Chinesealan]

A Jayden in DD's private prep. They're everywhere.
Each to their own but I couldn't imagine what it would be like to live with a partner who thinks it's a nice name.
Those sorts of names beginning with J generally belong to better behaved children than those beginning with K in my experience e.g. Kane, Kade, Kaden. The J has a gentler sound.

[Xmasbaby11]

Don't agree to a name you don't like. You must find one you agree on. There will be one.

[PennyHasNoSurname]

I would say to dh "I would never force you to use a name you actively disliked. I dislike Jayden and so I will not ever agree to it being a first name. You had your chance to veto Elliott and you didnt. You need to go back to the drawing board"

People I know who have dses named Kai/Jayden/Kaden type names also have siblings called Ross (which I love!), Owen and Joseph.