What do you do when your partner's favourite name is Jayden...?

[JoJoS123]

I'm not knocking the name Jayden, I actually don't hate it. However, the name gets too much grief, so I'd never want to use it!

DH is insisting; in all fairness, I named DS1 (DH picked the middle name) - we said we would do it the other way around, this time I wish I hadn't!

Jayden and DS1's name, just does not go. I wouldn't want to use Jayden anyway. Also, as I'm picking the middle, he'd be Jayden Oliver... Honestly, I could cope with Oliver Jayden (even though it's not what I'd like) but DH is saying it isn't fair! help!!!

[SwedishEdith]

Actually, just go for Jay.

[ACandidBlueandWhiteRoom]

Crikey, if a man went and registered a baby with a name he liked without telling his DW... I can imagine that thread on Mumsnet...
Do fight it out with your DH, though. Back to the drawing board, work to find SOMETHING he likes.

[Costacoffeeplease]

Why don't you apply and let us all know, the usual criteria is 'Inbred lowlife'. I'm sure you would qualify

Nice

[Lottie2611]

No moopy, it's the name. I work with the public, and whenever I see an uncouth kid with a questionable mum, his name is 9/10 times jaydaaaaaan (usually Jayden lee)..... ThAts why it has a bad image for me

[dadwithadaughter]

I think Jermaine Jackson's son is called Jermajesty. That's a really classy name! See if your partner likes that.

[ACandidBlueandWhiteRoom]

And incidentally I believe it's the case that you can change the name within the first year. Worth checking, in case I'm wrong, but I think you can.

[Lottie2611]

Of course.... There are probably lovely Jayden's..... But the mass lowlifes over using the name has spoilt it ....

[villainousbroodmare]

Don't do it.
Unfortunately, and unfairly, it will disadvantage your child.

[JoJoS123]

Oh... I hope that's a joke!

Yes, I'm married! I don't think I could register him anyway! That's mean I'd put my foot down more, if we hadn't agreed!

[TwoTwentyGowerRoad]

If your DS ends up with Jayden for a name (don't if you hate it) give him another J name so he can be JJ

[bringbacksideburns]

See if he'll compromise on Jay?

Jamie Oliver's kids have interesting names. I wonder what they will come up with next? 😬

[Costacoffeeplease]

I don't know why couples allow this kind of agreement, what if he said he only wanted the name 'spangled moontrumpet

[Mumknowsbest6]

Don't settle for a name you don't like, ask him to choose a few names that you can discuss together so you have a small input but it is still his choice - good luck!

[JoJoS123]

I agreed because I was desperate to use the name Elliot!

[ACandidBlueandWhiteRoom]

OP Well, and presumably, to be fair, because you didn't think he'd be such a stickler about his "turn" and insist on a name you didn't like. I wouldn't have seen that coming. (Unless he doesn't like Elliot.)

[JoJoS123]

Exactly, I never thought he'd be that fussed...

[CheeseAndOnionWalkers]

My son's a Jack who goes by the name Jay. (He's not here so I can't ask him if it's J or Jay) I know a Jake who is also known as Jay.

How long do you have until the birth? Any chance that he may change his mind or go with a variant like Hayden which is much better?

[BombadierFritz]

If you want Kai and he wants Jayden, i dont see any issue around your problem with jayden as getting too much grief. Kai has similar connotations.

[Dee03]

I have a Jayden....he's 14...I love the name, didn't even realise there was a problem with it tbh....he mostly gets called Jay

[BombadierFritz]

You may as well not worry about what other people think of it. If you dont hate it, why not?

[SanityClause]

El and Jay, that's so cute! If you have a girl, call her Beatrix, and you'll have a Bea!

[MNetter15]

it's a fab name. Go 4 it hun u wont regret it 💙

[HainaultViaNewburyPark]

I think everyone is being a bit judgemental about the name Jayden. FWIW there are at least two boys named Jayden at DS's private prep school. I'm sure they will do well in life.

On the other hand, I'd struggle to use a name I didn't love. So if your feelings towards Jayden are tepid, then now is the time for negotiation. Perhaps compromise on a first name and go with Jayden as a middle name.

[Ludwsys]

Do you have the option to veto s name you really don't like. I wouldn't name my child something I didn't like, there are too many names out there to settle.

[JoJoS123]

I don't want Kai? you've read it wrong, but okay...

I'm 35 + 2 x