What do you do when your partner's favourite name is Jayden...?

[JoJoS123]

I'm not knocking the name Jayden, I actually don't hate it. However, the name gets too much grief, so I'd never want to use it!

DH is insisting; in all fairness, I named DS1 (DH picked the middle name) - we said we would do it the other way around, this time I wish I hadn't!

Jayden and DS1's name, just does not go. I wouldn't want to use Jayden anyway. Also, as I'm picking the middle, he'd be Jayden Oliver... Honestly, I could cope with Oliver Jayden (even though it's not what I'd like) but DH is saying it isn't fair! help!!!

[ACandidBlueandWhiteRoom]

Through TandT, I think he's fine with it, though he's been teased at school based on his name - I can't really say, obvs - with a nickname that I can only say has forced him to toughen up!
I can say that it's a popular name, though, so it's not going to particularly raise eyebrows in most circles - which is a good thing. It's not a mismatch either - you know, like naming a terribly delicate child, I don't know, Brutus or something.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

You need to move quickly OP. Sounds like it might be too late.

[ClashCityRocker]

Ah I was thinking more immediate - but yeah, to be honest I don't know if it would put me off, but I know some people do try and avoid it.

Kai as a first name? I quite like Kai.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

ACandid, the mind boggles as to what it is. We made the mistake of using up all our favourite names - 5 of them including a James and an Oliver! - on ds1 and ds2 so when ds3 came along, had to use a non favourite name,. I still don't love it, but it's not awful.

[IsmellSwell]

Don't go for Jayden.
It sounds like the type of name that people who go on Jeremy Vile would use.

For that snobby reason. Do not use it.

[JoJoS123]

I did say to him "what about Kai? I thought you loved that" - I was willing to go for Kai Oliver (despite it doesn't go with DS1's name) his reply was that he had a new favourite!

[Wait4nothing]

I think either parent should be able to veto a name they don't like. He should have the chance at choosing the first name though.

[moopymoodle]

I have a son called Jayden and I have never, ever in real life encountered any dislike to it. The fact of the matter is whatever you name your child, eventually somebody will have something to say.

When I picked my son's name it was very rare and unique. Just like many names that later become popular and the in thing people suddenly dislike them. If you genuinely dislike a name, that's fine you call your child a name you love. But please don't let the Mumsnet clicks and opinions suddenly become some sort of gospel truth. Christ, according to previous threads on here wicker hearts mean your a swinger and wallpaper is a no no. Follow your heart, not the crowd.

[ClashCityRocker]

I knew one couple who used all their favourite names on pets before conceiving their first..

the name Jayden isn't a problem - the fact that you're unhappy about the name is.

[ClashCityRocker]

Oh yeah, if mumsnet was really life we would be overrun with Ptolemys and Euphemias.

Mind you, Ptolemy does have a ring to it...

[moopymoodle]

I'm also rather offended by the Jeremy Kyle comment. Very judgemental and uncalled for. If you knew myself or my family you would take that back. We are far from riff raff, we work hard and our children are well educated, good mannered and lovely. Get a grip!!

[JoJoS123]

Maybe Jayden isn't too bad... He can be Jay. I'll have an El & Jay - that is okay, maybe I could live with it. I think Jayden Oliver is quite nice, but just not for my child, but it'll probably grow on me.

[MissusWrex]

You shouldn't feel forced to name your child something you don't like (even if it is your dh's turn!)

I used to love Jayden as a name. Until the sudden surge where I live of every other child being called Jayden/Kaiden/Shaydon/Brayden etc.

And we are definitely on the Jeremy Kyle side of the tracks

[defineme]

My dd's name is fine, but 11 years later i still regret the compromise. ..i adore her brothers' names and wish I adored hers.

[IsmellSwell]

My apologies.

I'm sure lots of lovely people go on Jeremy Kyle
I haven't seen any, but what do I know.

[moopymoodle]

Jojo if you genuinely dislike the name don't call your son it. I called my son it as I loved it, I was a bit miffed that it became so popular but that does happen with most great names.

Trends are annoying tbh, I've never followed them and I wouldn't let others influence my taste. Find a name you love, forget what other people think or say. Just try not to call your child something weird, my parents did that to me and I've never met anybody else with my name and I doubt I ever will!!

[UnderTheGreenwoodTree]

DH and I each had the power of veto over all our DC's names. It's just not fair that a child is called a name that one parent hates.

You need to introduce this rule right now! Good luck

[DrAmandaBentley]

There are silly people out there who will judge no matter what you call your child. Myself and my children all have very white 'middle class' names, yet we are pretty far from being middle class and none of us are white. I was always teased for having an old lady's name, but it is very popular here on MN

There are all kinds of names out there these days, as long as it's nothing ridiculous like Pilot Inspektor, then go with whatever you and your OH like.

[IsmellSwell]

I'm also rather offended by the Jeremy Kyle comment. Very judgemental and uncalled for. If you knew myself or my family you would take that back.

Have you been on the show?
What was it like? Genuinely interested.

[moopymoodle]

Ismell. Tbh most people on Jeremy Kyle have normal names, like Rebecca or Sarah. I agree most people on Jeremy Kyle are offensive, I'm sure you would fit in perfectly with the traits you are displaying here.

[Lottie2611]

Jayden conjures up a bad image. If you don't want to use it, don't. There are millions of names you can agree on

[VoldysGoneMouldy]

Don't go with a name you don't like. You make have had this 'deal' but if you were working on it being a different name, that you didn't hugely like but had adjusted to, and if last time he actually liked the name you have chosen, then things aren't going to work.

It's a name you're going to be using for the next 60+ years, you need to like it. Tell him you need to work together to find names that you like.

[ilovevegcrisps]

I just couldn't have a son called Jayden; I'm sorry, so I sympathise OP.

[IsmellSwell]

You seem a bit over-invested in others opinions on a TV show.

I don't like that type of program and the characters it attracts..
I think it says more about you than me.