Does everyone think the spelling of my chosen name is odd??

[MrsMonkeyBear]

Hubby and I just found out we are expecting a little girl.

We have chosen the name Sofee but everyone thinks we should spell it a more traditional way.

Am I just being weird??

Sofie if you absolutely must. But Sofee? No.

I'd spell it the more traditional way. Your DD will have a life ahead of her spelling her name out every single time she has to give it to someone. As someone with a name that can be spelled with or without an 'e', it drives me bonkers. And that's without the possibility of a comment every time - "oh, what an unusual spelling..."

My niece is Lillie. However, they don't live in the UK and that is the more common spelling where they are (according to my sister who is neither thick or aspiring to unique and different)

In general I think making up a different way of spelling is pointless. If you like sophie then spell it like that, or sofie if you must. Sofee, as others have said, is ridiculous. Many many people will judge you.

Your choice if you are happy with that for you and your dd!

I would assume it was said like toffee but with an s on the front - is that how you want the name pronounced? Or do you want the name to be pronounce Sophie?

Just curious as I work with someone who has her very normal name, spelt correctly pronounced very oddly?

Just makes me think of living room furniture.

(Sofa

*(sofa/settee combination)

I personally don't mind spelling names slightly differently, but I would read that as Soff-ee rather than Soaf-ee.

It looks like a cross between settee and sofa.

It's cruel to give a child a name that makes it look like their parents are illiterate.

It's worse than with or without an 'e'. If the name has usual variants people on the phone listen out for it. If your name is just spelt bizarrely people don't listen for it the same way and get it wrong ALL THE TIME. It's because they hear a difference and then they write down the rest of the word as they expect it spelt. Then you have to spell it again and they go 'oh! With a F?!' Then 'oh! With TWO Es?!' 'Right, OK, do you mind if I just read this out again....' (Subtext: because I cannot believe this is right. This is a name I know. How is it so wrong?)

I know this is better now for people who are younger because alternative spellings are becoming more popular. Still, don't do it to a kid. To a person. I wouldn't do it to someone I disliked let alone my own kid who I'm supposed to love! I do hope this is a joke, btw.

If I met a child with the name spelt like that, I'd assume the parents couldn't spell. It's awful.

don't do it - she will be spelling her name out to people her whole life....

I have an unusual spelling of a conventional name and really there's no point - life would have been easier (and my name pronounced exactly the same....) if my Mum had gone for the conventional spelling.

Yes I do think it's odd.
My dd has a name that can can be spelt in different ways and I chose the usual way. When people ask me the spelling, the number of compliments I receive for spelling it the "proper" way is astonishing.

Your child, your choice. But I don't like that spelling at all.

I imagine it reads as 'soff - eee'.

That spelling is utterly ghastly. Don't do it to her.

Sophie or Sofie both fine.

don't do it

I agree- I'd mispronounce that to rhyme with toffee and then would assume that the parents were a bit stupid.
Why not chose a more unusual name if you want to be a bit different? I'm sure people on here would happily come up with a list of similar sounding but slightly more unusual names if you asked

Personally, I don't like it. Most people obviously spell it Sophie- but Sofie is a real name, with a more unusual spelling (although still a traditional one).

Congratulations on your news. Everyone hated my DS's name choice but now he is born and has had it 8 years, no-one hates it in fact people often say they love it. I think people react completely differently when it's just on the ideas list. Personally I wouldn't think it was that odd when I saw it, maybe I've seen more unusual names than everyone else.

Sophie or Sofie, not Sofee, as others said, it makes you look silly.

I have to spell my full name constantly (common variation of a standard name and a foreign surname) and you get used to it, but misspelling a name is a bit silly. Done a lot these days unfortunately. I have a second cousin named Zackery

I hope you're okay OP. Quite a flaming of your name choice....

It is a bit naff.

Sofee as in rhymes with toffee or Sophie? If Sophie, I too would wonder if you were taking synthetic phonics a tad too far. If rhymes with toffee I just don't like it.

Odd, sorry, I'm all for simplified spellings with non-English language names, but this quite common English name already has a very standard spelling that everyone will expect.

My first thought was that you'd mistyped sofa.

Use the proper spelling please!

DH and his x called their daughter 'Paris' except they spelt it differently, and the different spelling is a whole other name. I sent her a card in the early days, Dear Paris, and DH says, that's not how you spell 'Paris', erm........

Sofee is a really terrible spelling. Sofie is ok.