Family dont like name me and DP love does it matter?

[mojo1981]

I'm not going to post the name yet as i just want opinions on the situation rather than the name first lol.

But it definatly different but without being "urgh" lol but they are basing thier opinions on people they know with similar sounding names.

but my point is lol, should i let it bother me what other people think? at the end of the days its our choice and our decision??

(i will post the name in due course lol)

since telling my partner that some of my family dont like it he has since said it makes him like it even more lol (he gets on fine with my family, just doesnt like to be 'influenced)

It only matters if it matters to you iyswim. Family not liking it would bother some people. If it doesn't bother you, all well and good. Go for it.

This is why many people advise against telling anyone the name before your baby arrives though!

Your baby - your choice. End of.

It is entirely up to you if you listen to what anyone says about the name, sometimes they have a valid point and sometimes they don't.

Don't tell anyone the name you decide until baby arrives, presented as a fait accompli seems to make people slightly more guarded in their response! What matters is that you as parents love the name you choose.

Nobody likes my dds name

Especially my mother!

Dd still got given the name.

Dm still hasnt got used to it (dd is 14 month) and hates people asking her what dd is called!

Stop talking with them about the name. 'We've decided to wait until baby arrives and then make the decision. We have a shortlist but we are not telling anyone yet'.

Repeat until blue in the face, and don't get drawn into arguments or discussions.

Then use the name you want to unless you post it later, and we all think it is awful too

:)

ok then.....they were the kind of responses i was expecting...

The name we like is Eleska

Name your baby what you want ... They'll just have to get used to it.

disclaimer, I would raise an eyebrow at banana hammock or similar as a name

How is that pronounced op?

I firmly believe that your parents had their chance to name their own children, and now it's your turn and not theirs.

It is best not to discuss names, IMO, until the baby is here and you introduce him/her to them!

ooh, that is unusual.

Still not totally out there - I mean, it isn't Rose Marie, but it isn't like you are naming your child Rainbow or Leaf.

Is it Polish?

its pronounced how your say it El e ska (or as someone has already said it Alaska but with E's lol)

I already have a daughter and her name (which was decided before she was conceived is Isla, and my family loved that name lol)

*how you spell it not say it lol sorry

Its a made up name, made up by a friend of mine whos daughter is now about 8, its not in any naming books/websites and no one i have mentioned it too has heard it before and most (unless being polite) have said they like it we are thinking of the middle name of "Lily" to so she would be Eleska Lily (surname).

She who drops the sprog gets the last word. End of. Tell them to bugger off.

My mum didn't really like my Boys name before baby arrived she hoped I would have a girl so it wouldn't get used...I had a boy I called him the name anyway and now she absolutely loves it and loves him! Go with it if you love it you might regret not using it I know I would have!

I like it, not too different from alexia etc, so doesn't scream off the wall to me.

We kept our name a secret from everyone, as I didn't want put off!

I like it to be honest , i just dont think lily goes with it.

But i would pick eleska

I can understand why some people might be set against it- it has no real history, no meaning as far as they are concerned.

Eleska is a very pretty name.

A quick google brings up connection to anime (Karneval), and German writer Lene Schneider-Kainer, also World of Warcraft.

karneval.wikia.com/wiki/Erishuka

lily is a family name, we like to have family names for middle names, although there isnt many that i like to choose from

thanks guys, i kinda knew what you would say but just needed some reassurance.......ive stil got 18 weeks to go but my DP really likes the name so changing his mind would be harder than my families lol

and tbh i dont give a shit really.....my brother named his daughter the same name of a little girl that went missing when her parents left her alone on holiday and thats the face i get in my head when i hear the name and not my nieces and i never said anything lol!

Well, Isla is a real name, so will always get more positive comments than one you made up, however you baby, your choice. Don't tell anyone, "we have a few names we both like, not decided yet."

With that name, you better accept she'll be called Ellie by most people, and while you've picked a name you won't get anyone else with, the NN "Ellie" is very popular so she might end up being one of 4 in her class after all!

oh and forgot to say, I think it's pretty sounding!

I like it, OP. It's unusual without being barmy. Go for it.

I think both names are lovely and go together.

Agree not to discuss with anyone- we had lots and lots of hassle about what we should call our dc and we just listed 3 names we had no intention of calling a child, and let them argue about it.

When ds/ dd was born, we said its x. Changed our minds when they arrived.

Mil wanted a girl named after her and was most insistent, plus asked us to name our house after her.

Pil was disappointed our ds didn't have his name and said he was offended.

My parents said it was up to us and whatever we chose would be lovely.