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Family dont like name me and DP love does it matter?

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mojo1981 · 28/12/2013 14:16

I'm not going to post the name yet as i just want opinions on the situation rather than the name first lol.

But it definatly different but without being "urgh" lol but they are basing thier opinions on people they know with similar sounding names.

but my point is lol, should i let it bother me what other people think? at the end of the days its our choice and our decision??

(i will post the name in due course lol)

since telling my partner that some of my family dont like it he has since said it makes him like it even more lol (he gets on fine with my family, just doesnt like to be 'influenced)

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1nsertnamehere · 29/12/2013 09:08

I like it a lot. Pretty, and doesn't sound made up.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 29/12/2013 09:12

Dd will have a life time of spelling her name, explaining shes not polish, or South American, or whatever, her mums friend made it up.

If you're sure that's what you want, go for it.

staciface · 29/12/2013 11:23

My OH's family hated our second's sons name from the moment he was born (named him on sight) and still openly told us so and even asked if we would consider changing it! No way! They still don't like his name, and he's now 16 months old, they try and avoid saying it unless they have to, skirting around it by using nicknames etc. I just find it laughable now, its for the parents to choose the name, everyone else to accept it. Smile

His name is Gordon btw, our first son is called Rupert, everyone loved that.

Oddsocksrus · 29/12/2013 11:41

We have a similar problem with our daughters name.
We are white southern British both from families with traditional names like Peter. Sarah and Robert.....
Dd is Aurelia, a vast majority on both sides have a big problem with it because it just isn't a 'normal' name, instead they call her Amelie, oralie, Ariel, Amelia or in the case of my aunt nothing at all as she has ignored her existence (citing that when we have a child with a proper name she will know what to do) dd is 4 and watched all of the other cousins get presents from this woman grrr

Anyway, we named our daughter the name that we loved, the name that was chosen on our first date years before her conception.
You will have to spell it ad nauseum, explain its origin and why you chose it, just keep this in mind and don't let them get to you

Alisvolatpropiis · 29/12/2013 11:43

odd

But it's such a beautiful name?!

It's my favourite girls name, hope to have a daughter before the name sky rockets in popularity!

ChristmasStrumpet · 29/12/2013 11:48

I would not mention the name you like again to family. One thing I have learnt from mumsnet that it is a fatal mistake to release favoutite names before baby arrives.

You could pretend you have chosen another name - something you know they (the people being rude about your current name choice) will find distasteful and too way out there for them to deal with. Then when you revert back to this name choice they will be relived.

Although tbh I just think bollocks to them. Its your baby and your choice.

Also with the passage of time and as baby grows into a lovely little person they will forget other connotations and their dislike for the name and just think of your DC.

Oddsocksrus · 29/12/2013 13:41

Alis thank you! I had a midwife with the same name when I delivered her! the only other one I've ever met Xmas Grin in the uk anyway.

I too am surprised that it isn't more popular

I stand with strumpet your child! the name you choose that best suits them when you meet them for the first time

MissWimpyDimple · 29/12/2013 13:50

I do know a little girl called Eliska. It's a real bonefide Slovak name. Her mum is from those parts.

Honestly, I don't see the point of changing one letter to be different, but that's something a lot of people seem to do these days.

As for mum, well I don't suppose she'll change her mind and will probably belittle it to everyone in her embarrassment. Such as "oh yes her name is Eleska. Haha. It's a made up name you know- the youth of today et etc".

FullOfDreadAboutThis · 29/12/2013 13:55

I don't particularly like it, and I think you will spend your life correcting people who say Alaska, but more to the point, if I were your friend and I'd made up a unique name for my daughter only to have it copied/pinched by you, I'd be really, really pissed off. Grin

LightsPlease · 29/12/2013 14:03

Omg Gordon and Rupert.

Aurelia is such a beautiful name. Im adding to my list sorry.

staciface · 29/12/2013 14:11

Yes LightsPlease, they are the names of my children. They are traditional names, they are unusual these days, and suit them perfectly. Nothing to exclaim to God about.

Alisvolatpropiis · 29/12/2013 14:56

Rupert and Gordon are great names. Not my style but they sound great together Smile

Shellywelly1973 · 29/12/2013 15:05

I like your name op.

i also think Rupert & Gordon are great!

I wouldn't worry op. No one ever likes the names I've picked for my dc. I'm almost 36 weeks & again- no name.

Some if my baby's have been 7 weeks old before they were registered. Only dc3 had a name before being born.

helzapoppin2 · 29/12/2013 15:20

My Ds2's name is unusual, dismay was expressed in the family!
He is now grown up.
But, we've met some others with the same name, so not unique.
Also, I've given him plenty of opportunity to change it, he just suggests something even more unusual.
He actually suits it quite a lot and has the chutzpah to carry it off.
Stick to your guns!

staciface · 29/12/2013 15:22

Thanks ladies.

I too am pregnant, again, with a girl this time, we liked a name and my OH let it slip to family, (grr!) and they hated it and gave all their opinions etc, so we've said we're not considering it anymore, however we secretly are and if she looks like that name when born, then everyone else can just deal with it! Smile We have several other options which no doubt they will hate, but I've wired my OH's mouth shut sworn OH to secrecy, and will pick one when she's born in a couple of weeks.

TidyDancer · 29/12/2013 15:56

Ultimately the parents choice, but sometimes comments from family can be good. If you choose a truly terrible name but don't realise the connotations, or the initials spell something and you hadn't noticed, etc, it's a good thing for someone to point it out IMO.

Alisvolatpropiis · 29/12/2013 17:21

staci

Tell us! Please?! Grin

Misfitless · 29/12/2013 17:31

My dad told me that he didn't like two of my DCs' names when I was pregnant with each of them. He actually said "Oooh, I really don't like that, it's awful!" with DC3's name, and much the same with DC4's name.

It can be a generational thing though, I've had nothing but nice things said about DCs' 3 & 4s names from everyone else, although I could tell at the time that my mum wasn't keen either...come to think of it, neither was my sister...!

So many people have said how much they do like them, though. Don't let it get you down. They'll grow into what ever name you decide to give them, I never see children or adults and think 'that name really doesn't suit that child/person.'

staciface · 29/12/2013 18:23

Alisvolatpropiis

Genevieve was our girl's name, perhaps still might be, and MIL can deal with it Grin

Alisvolatpropiis · 29/12/2013 18:39

staci

Love that name! How could MIL not like it?!

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mojo1981 · 29/12/2013 19:05

lol wow some different views there ......well for starters (and im not defending myself cos i dont need to lol) ALL names are made up at some point even my name which is a very common name used in the 80's so the fact that its made up doesnt matter cos names done just "exist" lol.

Of course i have spoken to my friend (who lives a couple of hundred miles away from me) and she is quite happy for me to use it, and her daughter loves her name.

As for "shag in a foreign language" i think its only a problem if you make it to be....im sure there are many names that mean things they may be rude in a different translation....this does not bother me, plus its not spelt the way those words are spelt so it doesnt mean that. lol

Looks like a miss spelling of Alexa? well it would be if i was trying to spell Alexa ...... lol

Basically yes i know not everyone is going to like it and a lot of people dont like new things/names. But if we all liked the same it would be boring lol.

Why does a name have to mean something???? ie some biblical reference....especially to me who is not in anyway religious.lol

I appreciate the feedback positive and negative otherwise it would have been wrong for me to post...

thank you to the people that like it and thank you for your reasons to the people that dont :)

it has all been enlightening

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PixelAteMyFace · 29/12/2013 19:10

Have you thought of Lola as a middle name - lol

Mishmashofstyles · 29/12/2013 19:12

I wouldn't choose it myself because I fear at school she'd become yet another Ellie.

NearTheWindmill · 29/12/2013 19:22

Rupert, Gordon and Genevieve are totally normal to my ear. In fact dd cd have been a genevieve if we hadn't had a two syllable surname with a three syllable spelling for those not in the know :)

nooka · 29/12/2013 19:48

Personally I hate made up names and if I was talking to a friend/family member about potential names I would say so, as it would seem to me that they were canvassing opinions. Then again I didn't talk to anyone about names except my dh, and that would be my general recommendation. The only real issue to be considered is whether your potential child will like their name.

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