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Baby names

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Family dont like name me and DP love does it matter?

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mojo1981 · 28/12/2013 14:16

I'm not going to post the name yet as i just want opinions on the situation rather than the name first lol.

But it definatly different but without being "urgh" lol but they are basing thier opinions on people they know with similar sounding names.

but my point is lol, should i let it bother me what other people think? at the end of the days its our choice and our decision??

(i will post the name in due course lol)

since telling my partner that some of my family dont like it he has since said it makes him like it even more lol (he gets on fine with my family, just doesnt like to be 'influenced)

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ImperialBlether · 29/12/2013 20:01

I hate made up names, too. I'm a teacher and when a new student comes in with a made up name, everyone mutters, "That's not even a name!"

One girl I teach has a name which is a misspelled version of a real name. When I asked her about it she said, "I really hate it - it just tells the world that my mother is illiterate." Sorry for any offence, but that's exactly what it did.

LastOneDancing · 29/12/2013 20:20

I like it. Definitely not a name I'd screw my face up about!!

We've stopped telling anyone our thoughts as my Mum gets a cats bum face at anything but her suggestions which are all appalling 80's names. She'll be told when it's a done deal

BlackholesAndRevelations · 29/12/2013 22:34

Poor girl, imperial!

Writerwannabe83 · 30/12/2013 00:57

When me and DH found out we were having a boy (which we really didn't think would be the case) we told my MIL what name we had picked for a girl, had we have had one. It was a name that me and DH had really liked but MIL pulled the most horrific face, it really upset me actually. All I could think was, "What if we'd actually had a girl?" And how awful it would be yo have such close relatives hate her name.

We have got a few boys names in the pipeline (baby due in 11 weeks) but we are keeping them to ourselves. We do occasionally get asked by family members if we have chosen a name and I just tell them that even if we had they won't be told until he's born

MadIsTheNewNormal · 30/12/2013 05:17

I agree Imperial. I remember a poster on here with an appalling misspelling of an already unusual and difficult to pronounce (but real) name, so that it makes no phonetic sense whatsoever. Her parents were clearly not the greatest spellers. I could not go through life with everyone sniggering and going WTF? every time I had to spell out my name. I don't understand why people put up with the humiliation - I'd have changed my name like a shot if it were me.

GoodnessKnows · 30/12/2013 06:37

Isn't this why people announce The Name,e after it's been given. Your baby, your name, does it pass the "XXX, time for dinner!" Scream-test?

lapetitesiren · 30/12/2013 07:14

Its a very pretty name. As its been made up why don' t you give it a meaning. Might be easier for the awkwards to cope with- people will always say nice baby, whats her name- it means xyz is a nicer conversation than its made up. Also lovely for your little girl when they get to the stages where they like discussing these things. My daughter has a special name and loves the individuality. She shortens it but if you dont want this to happen correct it early and use her name as much as possible so people get used to hearing it.

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mojo1981 · 30/12/2013 10:19

Can I just clarify something..... It is not misspelt ..... Because I am not trying to spell anything else.... I am quite capable of spelling correctly and I don't get this "real" name thing... This is beginning to annoy me as is it only a "real" name if it's common and over used??

I wasn't going to get annoyed on this post but I do kind of feel that you are insulting my intelligence by saying I cannot spell as you feel it is being misspelt when it is clearly not!

My DD is called Isla and the amount of times I have to correct people on the spelling an pronounciation of her name is unbelievable so I just put it down to the ignorance and lack of education by those people......Isla .... Island without the n and d so why do people feel the need to say it as Icela?? Or Is la? Eleska is pretty easy to say as I see it as it's said how it's spelt!

Annoyance over.....

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atthestrokeoftwelve · 30/12/2013 10:27

Easiest if you don't disscuss it with anyone.
Once baby is born announce the name- end of story, not open for debate.
Whatever name you choose you will get a mixed response.
Hopefully once baby is born and named if people don't like your choice they will be polite enough not to voice their opinion.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 30/12/2013 10:36

You're annoyed? Think how annoying it will be for your dd!

No it's spelt correctly, yes it's made up, no it doesn't mean anything.

MrsDeVere · 30/12/2013 10:45

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ilovesmurfs · 30/12/2013 10:48

i like it and i went to school with am Eleska, she will be about 34 now. i hadnt realised it was so unusual i may google her to see if i can find her, she was really nice and her name wasnt an issue when at school.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 30/12/2013 10:51

Despite how it comes across, I recognise all names were made up once!, and I do love an unusual name especially one with a story or meaning behind it.

However it is important to note that while the parents have a few questions or sniggers from the in laws, it's the kid who gets all the ...issues.

My niece has a misspelt normal name and she finds it very tiresome correcting people - 'my mum liked it, yeah, I dunno why...etc'

Oblomov · 30/12/2013 11:15

I hate it when parents give children names that are silly, made up or spelt differently. Makes a lifetime if pain for the child.

CeQueLEnfer · 30/12/2013 11:17

I have a client called Eliska (ell-ISH-ka). It is not made up, it is Polish.

Theresomethingaboutdairy · 30/12/2013 11:42

My DD has an Eleska in her class as well as an Electra. I didn't think it was made up either. Having said that she is mostly called Ellie.

shellandkai · 30/12/2013 11:45

Some of my family hated my dds name due to knowing people they didn't like with the name, I just told them this is my baby I don't care if you like I do and this is what I'm calling her like it or lump it I don't care.

PicardyThird · 30/12/2013 11:50

I really wouldn't give my child a made-up name. Sorry.

How about something in a similar vein but real, like Eliska as suggested above (pronounced properly, though!), or Saskia, or Eloise?

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 30/12/2013 11:52

Family do usually come round to the name in the end, don't they?

When I told them, DS name, they all groaned and went, 'what? really?'

But that was that. Now they like it. Or him.

MrsDeVere · 30/12/2013 12:05

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nooka · 30/12/2013 16:53

The questions aren't just asked when you are a child though MrsDeVere. I have a very unusual name and every single time I meet someone new I am asked about it. I don't consider the questions/comments to be rude (apart from the person who insisted that my parents made it up) but it can get a bit wearing. Luckily I love my name, it has a good story behind it and plenty of pedigree too, and on the whole the comments are positive so I don't mind that much. However it certainly is something to consider.

nooka · 30/12/2013 17:00

I note that if you google 'eleska' you get 42,300 hits, so it probably is used as a name (lots of anime references for example). If I came across an Eleska I would assume they were probably Eastern European, pronounced Ele-sh-ka (Eliska is a form of Elizabeth apparently).

That might annoy the OP too.

MrsDeVere · 30/12/2013 18:08

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Vonnie7 · 30/12/2013 18:20

Hi, just wanted some advice as my husband and i can't decide which name is best!
Megan, Emma, Melissa or Sienna? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

nooka · 30/12/2013 18:20

Baby names is there for judging/opining though isn't it? My children were born before I joined but even so I'm not sure I would have asked for advice/opinions because I see it as a decision between dh and me. We looked at hundreds of names, both mainstream and unusual (and these are so many names that it's really not 'safe' vs 'unique' there is a wide spectrum in between those two extremes) and opted against a name as unusual as mine because it might be rude to comment on someone else's names (and I'm not sure it is rude really) but the fact is that it happens.

I see choosing names as really important, deserving of lots of thought and consideration because it's going to be very important to your child. Often the first thing that anyone knows about them, and yes people do make judgements. On the either hand I think that there is a wide range of opinion, and most names will not cause the amount of comment that some people think they will, especially as naming trends evolve and diversity continues to increase.

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