Family dont like name me and DP love does it matter?

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I'm not going to post the name yet as i just want opinions on the situation rather than the name first lol.

But it definatly different but without being "urgh" lol but they are basing thier opinions on people they know with similar sounding names.

but my point is lol, should i let it bother me what other people think? at the end of the days its our choice and our decision??

(i will post the name in due course lol)

since telling my partner that some of my family dont like it he has since said it makes him like it even more lol (he gets on fine with my family, just doesnt like to be 'influenced)

Long or short E? Curious rather than any comment on the OP. Is it from a particular country/area or literature or where? Knowing that might help your family like it (or, might make them think you are choosing it for bad reasons - so it might not help!)

Names can grow on you too. Our DS has a family name and we love it and so does the rest of the family but it seemed odd to call a baby the name when there were other family members with the same name. But it now seems very much his own name as well as still belonging to the family members (alive and dead) with that name.

I'm not usually keen on made up names, but Eleska is really pretty. Agree with others that it's your baby, your choice.

I'm just going to say that I have a very unusual first name and what then was an equally unusual middle name. Just bear in mind OP that it can get very tiresome to have a name that is constantly remarked on. "Where does that come from?", "Who are you named after", "what was your mother thinking?".

Whilst I think it sounds quite pretty I think you need to think about the impact it will have on your dd; especially if she is quite shy and doesn't like attention.

I like it.

I agree with your family

Ellie and isla go well together.

I'm afraid I think it'd be a bit cruel to give the child a made up name but clearly it's your choice.

Only thing I will say OP is that Elske or Elskov is Scandinavian for love making and Eleska could be a bit close to that..

However it is pretty and I can see why you like it

People get used to names My mother hated our sons name (Conrad) when he was given it now 12 years later she says she thinks its a good strong name and claims she always liked it.

Um, it's your call, totally
But for me, it mattered what my mum thought.

I think your own family will be more inclined to give you an honest (if blunt) appraisal of your name choice so their feelings should be taken into account. To be totally honest here, if a friend of mine indicated she was thinking of choosing Eleska I would say something noncommittal such as 'how unusual' but if a family member told me that I would have to admit to disliking it intensely!

It's just too similar to Alaska and sounds quite harsh. I'd would also consider how your daughter might feel about her name whilst growing up. It isn't a name I'd have liked to have been given.

Oh, the "sounds a bit like shag in another European language" issue might swing it to a "no" from me more than what family think...

I'm not overly keen on the name personally but it's your baby.

When I had DS, I was repeatedly told his was a dog's name. I wasn't bothered at all.

I agree with NearTheWindmill that I think you need to consider your child having to grow up with the name, not such much if you "like" it. While it's your child, it's THEIR name so you need to consider how THEY might feel in the future (and how other people like the name will affect their life).

I think telling friends and family the ideas you have (no necessarily the decision) is a good way to ensure you don't pick a name you didn't think about the ramifications of.

I wouldn't pick it for my child but it's your choice.

It's your baby, so you get to choose!

The mistake you've made is running it by others first.

I'm not keen on made up names, they just don't seem like 'real' names and when people ask 'where is it from' I'd feel a bit of a twit saying 'Nowhere, friends of my parents made it up'.

But it's your baby... do as you please :)

Don't worry what others think.

However, I'm with chipping in.

Eleska is a very pretty name!

And the family opinion doesn't actually matter. What you/your partner think should be how the name is decided.

I'm not normally a fan of odd or made.up names but that is a really nice name

I agree with your family. Sorry.

Sounds like a misspelling of Alexa.

I love it

I think it's a lovely name.

I can see their point. They're not saying "oh no it's a horrible chavvy name" about a perfectly usual, well used name are they.

On the other hand, it does sound nice.

Is it the name of you friend's DD? I think you are saying she has an 8 yo called Eleska? If so, how does she feel about you using it? Whilst I normally am fry in the no one owns a name camp, this may be an exception given she made it up!

ps. I like it but DH has pointed out it may sound like the Queen saying 'Alaska', try saying 'One is going to Alaska' in your best Queen voice. Not necessarily a problem but may be where your family are coming from.