Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 2

[LittlePoot]

Dear all lovely ladies past, present and future. Welcome to support thread number two, to help us through the anxious TTC waiting, early scary weeks of pregnancy, nasty scans and tests, growing bumps and babies and everything in between. May this thread bring luck and (eventual) joy to us all and at least we'll all be here to hold eachothers' hands along the way. x

Just checking in quickly to say...

Kittens, oh my goodness, a positive test. I know this is but the first step on the journey and fraught with emotion/anxiety but lovely, lovely news.

It really must be your go now for some good luck and happy baby news. Surely it must. Really hoping so.

I need to do some proper catching up on the thread, will post again later, lots of love to everyone xx

Just a quick post to ask if we ever got anywhere organising a meet-up? I may need to express if we do and a bit of notice would be great. :)

Hi Allstars, yes we are looking at a lunchtime meet up on either Sat 20th Nov or Sunday. Manitz can't make Sat, is there anyone who can't make Sunday?

We are going to PM about the exact location, but will be near Waterloo or Victoria for those coming on trains. I think Kittens has some ideas re where would be good.

Minstrel, it's good to hear from you and No, you are not alone in your madness. I think I have managed to convince myself I will never be pregnant again, so why am I bothering? I managed to miss my fertile days this month (we have had a lot on, but so stupid, stupid) so there is another month gone. This is the first time in 18 months I have missed it, and I wonder if it is my subconscious giving up? At any rate, I have decided I need a fertility app to issue me with shag reminders.

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay Kittens. Congratulations for the thick blue line. So happy for you.

Congratulations and welcome Lisbeth!
Good luck with the the TTC brave lady flower
Glad you are feeling happier Natz :)
Good luck for wednesday Mooms keeping everything crossed for you x

Looking forward to the meet - will be bizarre though, i am very intreagued to see if the images i have in my head of you all match up!

All a-ok here - I am off to a baby massage course today, inspired by Numpty! Hoping Felix enjoys it x

Massive hooray for the lovely kittens. Hope it goes as smooth as smooth can be for you.

Don't venture on here very much any more but please know I'm thinking of you. And Little Poot too . You both held my hand and kept me going this time last year and I'm following your news at a distance. And all the other brave women here too, of course.

Busy here. DS is 9 months old, and one contented big baby. Love him to bits!

Again, lovely news. Keep strong! x

Hello there. I'm back! Thank you for all your lovely wishes. As you can imagine, I am absolutely shitting it and back to the origins of my user name! Not many symptoms to report so far apart from incessant weeing and sleepiness in the afternoons. I'm trying not to obsess too much about that. I did have a fleeting vomit moment yesterday morning. Also, because the line was very feint I have been testing every couple of days and it is getting darker each time. My midwife is organising a 7 week scan for me so I will just have to wait until then to see what's what.

I did my best with the sensible eating but it's so bloody tricky out there, especially when you don't eat meat - although I suspect I probably did anyway as their idea of veggie friendly is "It's ok, it's only got a small amount of ham in it". So, I did eat shellfish but it was very well cooked and hot and I ate pasteurised brie which, after reading more on the subject may not have been advisable but hey, I will be more cautious now I am at home and have more control over what's available as well as my powers of communication (my french is pretty shameful considering my folks have lived there for about 8 years).

Haven't had much time to properly catch up with the thread. We have a few new people I need to get to know but in the meantime, welcome to this amazing lifeline. I am looking forward to meeting some of you ladies who have been such a massive support over the past year as well as the new members who are coming along, whom I hope in the coming weeks or months will become my bump buddies and the next wave of thread babies. We are expecting a baby boom early next year so we need a summer one to follow!

So, it looks like Sunday 21st is a good bet for our meet up right?

I've lost track of who's coming so I've cut and pasted the first list below. Can anyone who's not on that list add their names and then I will send out a group PM (it that's possible) once I know who to send it to.

ps. Lovely to hear from you Shangrila, glad to hear you and your lovely boy are doing well. x

I am hoping that I don't clam up at the meet up, I've had meet ups with people I've met online before and despite my verbose posts I can also revert to sudden shyness face to face!

The line is getting darker! Hooray!!! Good luck with the 7 week scan, I can imagine it is going to seem like an eternity for that date to arrive. Ive been POAS for the past couple of days (stupidly bought more!) but nothing to report. Im not entirely sure when I am due on so I have decided to POAS every other day now . I do love the fact that my chemist sells them so cheap!

Mooms - hope everything went well today?

Flower, I was so confused about the post you hijacked, had to scroll back as couldn't figure out what you meant! Lol, no worries, just glad I wasn't the only one with these questions!

Thanks for the advice. Am heading into Friday with a lot of questions and the support of DH in case I do have another period of uncontrollable emotion. But I feel prepared, so should be ok...

I can do the 21st for the meet up. Keep feeling very nervous about meeting everyone. Like you Kittens, I have no problem talking to a computer screen, but get quite shy in real life & worry that I sound like a complete idiot!

I hope everyone else is keeping well xx

Hello lovely ladies, I still feel like I have lots of catching up to do, I?ve read all your posts but I?ve been feeling so tired these past few days, and so unable to think properly.

First of all I wanted to say congratulations to Lisbeth, I know how terrified you are but it?s good news nevertheless. I agree with Cantdo that the head in sand approach is the best. Although my anxiety levels have been very high in the first trimester I was also in denial about being pregnant. To my surprise, those first weeks seemed to go quickly, but the 5 weeks between my nuchal and 17 week scan were agony.

Mooms, I hope you had a good scan yesterday. And Natz, I?ll keep my fingers crossed that tomorrow will go as well as it can. It will be a very emotional day without any doubt but I hope it will also bring some reassurance.

Kittens, how are you feeling? There was no list in your post so here it is again, with my mushy brain I?m sure I forgot someone so please add yourselves to it.

Kittens
Katie
Mimsy
Natz
Allstars
Coffee
Catlady
LittlePoot
Manitz

I also have to confess to a bit of social anxiety. And no, I?m not glam :) Anyway, really looking forward to meeting you all xxxx

Just a quick hello to say a HUGE congratulations to Lisbeth and Kittens! Thinking of you both!

I have no useful advice to give at all I'm not really sure how I managed to get through the first trimester through to our 18 week scan, lots of DVDs and keeping busy I think!!

Just over 28 weeks now and counting the days! Been to have GD blood tests this morning.... no one warns you how gross the "drink" is!!

Mooms how did the scan go?

Natz, a dark line is good! Also keeping everythign crosesd!

What a busy thread and so positive! x

Hello Everyone,

I'm not sure if any of you even remember me but I posted on this thread a couple of months back. I had a termination at 15wks, Anencephaly was what they described our baby as having.

5 Months of trying and I finally got my BFP yesterday at 19DPO - I didn;t test at all until yesterday cos I was so afraid that it was a no again.

Do you mind if I join in again?

I'm about 5 weeks gone (CB digi said 2-3wks) and although we're very happy we are also very frightened of whats ahead.

What should my next steps be? I know I need to go to the docs and tell them but should I be asking for early scan etc....

I'm on 5mg of Folic Acid - is there anything else I should be doing?

I don't really know what to do and no-one I know in RL has ever been in my position.

TIA xx

Hi StormBird, I spotted you last night on another thread with your BFP and remembered you'd been here before. Congratulations! We are at the same stage by the sound of it.

I'm not sure if they do very early scans unless you've miscarried but it's worth asking. They would probably do your nuchal scan for you at around 11 weeks so it would be a good idea to get to your doctor ASAP to give yourself the best chance of an appointment as Christmas falls at rather crucial time for us.

Good move taking the 5mg folic acid. I don't think there's anything else you can do but keep yourself occupied and take one day at a time (says the hysterical paranoid hypocrite!).

First of all, congratulations StormBird, I remember you, and welcome! I don?t think there is anything else to do except for going to see your doctor, they might be able to offer you an early reassurance scan but this seems to depend on where in the country you are.

Can I have a massive me, me, me post? I?m having such a crap day, I?ve actually been in tears until now. I have a tooth infection and the dentist prescribed amoxicillin for a week. I?m worried sick, I managed not to take anything so far except for my vitamins, and the thought of taking antibiotics fills me with anxiety. They do say it?s one of the safest to take in pregnancy, but I still worry.

I?ve also had an ECG done today and it turns out I have an irregular heart beat, I have to make another appointment with my doctor and discuss the results. Also, I had a cold sore, which is caused by the hepatitis virus, and the GP said that ?it?s unlikely to affect the baby, but there can be no certainty?.

I just can?t stop crying, I am so worried. I know I?ve been paranoid in this pregnancy, but it looks like the anomaly scan is out of the way only for other crap to come up. Has any of you had to take antibiotics and was everything ok? I think I?ll post on the Pregnancy boards as well, I know I?m probably over reacting but I just can?t help it.

Oh, Coffee, that is awful. Tooth pain is one of the worst. Have you been taking painkillers?

I know how you feel about having to take medication, but the doctors really wouldn't give it to you if
a) they didn't think it was safe, and
b) you didn't really need it.

Above all they must want to keep the infection out of your bloodstream, so I would take them, on that basis.

The ECG I have no experience of, I hope someone can help. And the cold sore I hope it is not from hepatitis?

I hope you are OK. Got to go DS is screaming, sorry this post hasnt really made much sense.

I haven't been in pain luckily, so no painkillers. I know he gave me one of the safest antibiotics, and I wouldn't risk not taking them as the infection can spread, but I'm so anxious.

The cold sore is caused by the activation of the hepatitis virus and again I know it's very common in pregnancy, it shouldn't cause any problem really if it's in this area, but the fact that the GP wasn't very sure threw me into the panic mode. I was in such a state earlier that I called my local hospital, and the midwife I spoke with was so kind, she said she would get in touch with their microbiologist to see if I can have a blood test to reassure me. I have turned into a giant basket case, I don't think I'm coping very well to be honest.

Sorry for the self-indulgent posts today.

Hi Coffee & Kittens

Thanks for the advice. I think I'm going to take the weekend to let us both get used to the idea again. I've booked at docs appointment for next Thursday so I'll see what she suggests.

Sorry to hear your having a bad day Coffee I hope you feel better about things soon and your health improves a bit. Tooth ache is a nightmare and I can understand your worries about the meds. As for the cold sore....isn't it the Herpes Simplex Virus that causes them not Hepatitis??

Hope everyone is well xx

Hi ladies,

Well, I had my scan and all is well!! the lovely consultant who did the scans last time did it and reassured us straightaway that brain, spine and skull were absolutely perfect!! I have never gone from abject fear to absolute elation so quickly in my life!!!

Absolutely thrilled to bits, but of course, don't think i'll relax until i have a healthy bubs in my arms. 20 wks next milestone! Finally feel I can start to relax a bit and bond with tiny bump... just so pleased.

Enough about me now, Coffee you are more than entitled to a mememe post! As far as I'm aware cold sores not seen as a problem unless never had them before and it's late, late on in pregnancy, e.g around giving birth time, so i think you'll be fine hon.

I'm sure doc would never prescribe anything unless totally sure it causes no harm.

Rant away on here, get the stress out!

Welcome Stormbird!

Rest of you, i can only post quickly, but, as ever, lots of kind and positive thoughts!
x

Brilliant news Mooms!

Great news Mooms, enjoy the feeling of relief, I am so happy for you! Yes 20 weeks is the next milestone but this is such an important scan as well and it means a lot that all is as well as it can at this stage.

StormBird, I can't believe I wrote hepatitis, I meant herpes and thought of herpes... where is my brain?!!!

Feeling a bit embarrassed now as I know I am over reacting and when I get into panic mode I can't think straight any more...

Coffee I wouldn't worry about it, I'm sure the way you are feeling is very justified. I bet you I have a good few (ahem) episodes over the next few months......

Hi Mooms thats brilliant news about your scan hun

xx

Quickly as it's late and I need my beauty sleep with DD waking up for the day at 5.30am...

Mooms, I'm so pleased to read your news . Hope you really can relax and enjoy your pregnancy now. Coffee - I panicked badly after having the swine flu jab, one of those 'damned-if-you-do/damned-if-you-don't' type decisions. But as Mooms says there is great caution about prescribing medication to pregnant women and so long as you weigh up the risks/options you just have to go with the best choice.

Sorry to dash but I'm really tired! Congrats and welcome to Stormbird though; hopefully you, Lisbeth and Kittens can keep each other company through the times ahead.

Huge congrats to Mooms and Stormbird on their great news.

As a newcomer to this thread, and posting on MN in general, its a really lovely surprise just how nice it is to share such good news with people you only know virtually.

Must drag DH off to bed as he is snoring his head off on the sofa!!

Mooms great news about your scan!

Coffee hope you feel better soon x

Stormbird I lost my baby to anencephaly in august which was found at 12 week scan which was actually at 13 weeks, my consultant said for future pregnancy that 12 weeks is the earliest abnormalities can be detected cause before that the baby is too small to see properly. The only other advice i was given is to take the folic acid. I feel for you its so scary when things have gone wrong and to be worried about the next time we have just started trying again and im scared.

Hi everyone

Lovely to log in and see more positive test news! I have everything crossed for kittens, natz, stormbird (have I missed anyone?) that these early weeks go smoothly.

Coffee I'm sorry you have been feeling so rotten and it's so hard not to worry I know...

As far as I know, even in a worst case scenario with the cold sore thing (i.e. the virus is active late in pregnancy), all that has to be done is a dose of antibiotics at some point during your labour. And that's worst case. I'm glad the midwife was helpful at least.

And I took a course of antibiotics for an ear infection when I was pregnant with DD with no adverse effect on either of us. It was the same one you've been prescribed.

Gina lovely to hear from you, have you had your GD results back yet?

Mooms - wonderful news about your scan! So pleased to hear it was good.

Is it Sunday 21st we're getting together? Really looking forward to it! xx

Hello,

Really quick one (for a change) 'cos we're moving offices today and I'm not supposed to be fannying about taking a break from packing. Just to say I'm here, I'm reading, I'm massively happy for all the good news (and still keeping everything crossed kittens) and all is well with me. And am really looking forward to putting some faces to names next weekend! Lots of love to all. xxxx