Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 2

[LittlePoot]

Dear all lovely ladies past, present and future. Welcome to support thread number two, to help us through the anxious TTC waiting, early scary weeks of pregnancy, nasty scans and tests, growing bumps and babies and everything in between. May this thread bring luck and (eventual) joy to us all and at least we'll all be here to hold eachothers' hands along the way. x

i work in victoria and nowhere really springs to mind, a bit overpriced and small venues. big shopping centr'y' bit with wagamamas and tapas bars etc but waga is really noisy and difficult to talk to more than one person. is it friday 19th evening we are talking about? will have a search if victoria is better for you.

I think we were looking at a lunch, either on the Saturday or Sunday weren't we? I'm easy either way. Whatever is best for the majority. I was just thinking that daytime may be easier for those coming from out of town. Especially the pregnant ones or ones with little ones who may want to get back early.

I can come either at Victoria or London Bridge, so it's easy for me, I can just take the tube to whenever we decide to meet. I don't know many places in London though, so will let the Londoners decide I think.

Either Saturday or Sunday are ok for me, just wondering which day would be best for Mimsy? Not sure you have to go back to Scotland that same week-end Mimsy, in which case Saturday might be better?

Just had a look at Las Iguanas online and it looks good, lots of pregnancy-friendly food :)

Lunch on Saturday or Sunday suits me too. I'm really looking forward to it!

Las Iguanas in Southbank Centre sounds like a very good option. I can get my spice fix . There's a lot of choice in the Southbank Centre (Canteen and Ping Pong also good) so if people don't fance Iguanas we can choose something else, but either way we should definitely book since there's a good gang of us).

Manitz if you're coming in from Kent you'll probably come into London Bridge or you might find you can get a train that takes you to Waterloo East too which is really close to the Southbank Centre.

Coffee my world shrinks when I'm pregnant too. It must be something instinctual!

Coffee, where 'near Gatwick' do you live? My family are in Cowfold (Nr. Haywards Heath).

I hope some of the quiet regulars come on and see this.

Drama, Gina, Allstars, LittlePoot......?

Sorry you can't make it cantdo and Numpty. Would've been lovely to meet you both.

Apologies for any omissions, there are so many of us on here it's hard to keep up sometimes! But where is everyone this past week? There was a flurry and then it went quiet!

Sat or Sun both fine for me. We are staying not far from Southbank, so anywhere round there fine.

Can I suggest we PM or CAT (or whatever it's called now) the location, rather than posting it? Just in case of fruit loops. We can't assume that all our lurkers are friendly. Sad as that is.

I agree - sorry i rushed ahead a bit there. crazy cat i thought someone else was from kent, i'm from n london.

Good thinking Mimsy! Just remembered all the nastiness poor bee had to endure before the creation of the "mother thread". Whilst everyone on this thread is so lovely it's easy to forget that there are dome who don't respect or understand some of the choices we've had to make and like to make trouble.

Hello, been a bit busy with half term so only just seen the meet up suggestion. I would love to come and put some faces to some names.

I live just in Kent so can get to Victoria or London Bridge very easily. I can do the weekend of the 19th.
Lunch also works best for me as my DH is working that weekend so need to sort babysitter for the girls.
mantiz thanks for the tip about the PG tests. Discovered a couple of days ago that my local chemist does a cheap twin pack for £1.49...... Oh dear! They are soon about to find out how obsessed I am with these little sticks.
I too am not a 'Londoner', so if any of you girls can make a suggestion of where to meet, I will follow your lead.

Sat or Sun lunch is good for me - looking forward to it! :)

Hello "old" ladies & new ladies

I hope you are all well! fighting fit and those who are growing are growing well!

I am out of my dark blue funk and back to normal! I'm not sure what it was that set it off or where it even came from but I just felt an extreme sadness and couldn't communicate it. I think that some of it was that I was experiencing all of these things, movement, shopping for baby stuff, getting the house sorted out with builders etc.... but not with Olivia.

Anyway much better today and getting on with things!

Re the meet up I would love to come up for lunch but sadly the dates are not good for me and its a couple of hours on the train! Def next time as I'm dying to meet you all!!

Ladies in the know, is it normal not to feel any movement for 6-8 hours at a time? When he moves he is fairly active, kicking and occassionally rolling but then it will go quiet for what feels like a long time!

Will have a proper read of the thread and ost personals next time!

Love to all

Hey Gina, so glad to hear you are feeling better. I get into funks about stuff for no (ostensible) rason too. The couple of weeks before my 20 week (at 22 weeks) scan I was in a foul mood with everyone and couldn't explain anything properly to anyone.

I too have long periods of inactivity from this guy. But when he's around he thumps about like nobody's business. I think when I was expecting DS I didn't get such discernible kicking and punching so early. By the end, though, DS was on the go the whole time, I was the most uncomfortable. In the last 2 years I have come to realise this was just the way he is ... manic. I am hoping the periods of inactivity point to a more chilled individual this time.

Coffee, Catlady, hello and tell me how to stop eating too. I am eating way too much. because I am chronically hungry the whole time And thinking of my diet over the last month I realise it has been carbohydrate heavy too. And all I seem to want is biscuits, it's dreadful. A very kind lady at work bought me a packet of M&S sultana cookies earlier because she said I looked pale and I have had such a job to keep consumption to 3 and they are yelling at me from in the drawer in all their meltingly buttery yumminess. It is a good job I hate bananas or I would be on the banana bread too!

Drama I am definitely headed for Mr Man proportions, the sultana cookies aside. I put on my favourite most stylish black knitted dress this morning and it made me look totally utterly round. It looked ridiculous. And can only get worse from here. Without clothes, you can see it's a bump. In clothes, I just look like I've suddenly taken drugs to expand in all directions.

Crazy boss isn't here all week so I am relaxing (note she's gone on holiday without her children, the week after the holidays). Thanks to all for words of encouragement for dealing with CB. She is awful and after maternity leave will think about what alternate career plans I can make, but now is not a great time to try to switch jobs. Especially as I would have to turn up to an interview looking like a ball.

Would have loved to meet everyone but I will be in dublin weekend of 19th visiting the in laws. It is so long since I have seen them and promises to be so long until I will feel up to travelling after Christmas that I am not to uptight about going to see them.

Love to all, including the newest ladies (big wave to ghislaine).

hi gina. they do sleep in the womb and mine were more active at night but less in the day. I would still check with the mw when you see her next just to be reassured. It's all a worry isn't it. x

My gynecologist also told me that they have periods at this stage of being awake in the womb but doing nothing much. I think he called this inactive wakefulness, which is exactly the state in which ours was during the scan (with hand in front of face so no decent pictures, typical man).

I thought it was fairly normal but wanted to check everyoe else had the same experience! He kicks and punches hard when he's awake but I don't mind that its very reassuring! manitz it sure is, having not gotten this far I guess its just all new territory for me.... fear of the unknown and all that!!

rachel I'm the same. I feel like a whale, no neat bump here I am just HUGE ALL OVER. I am also just so hungry all of the time! If I don't eat enough I get all weak,wobbly and very nasty to DP if he doesn't feed me straight away!

Hello lovely ladies. Sorry for the silence - have to confess to taking a bit of a last minute holiday to the beach! So have been in the Canary Islands for the last week, soaking up some sun and generally waddling around the place. Sorry to 'sneak off', but the only time I had to log on last week, someone was having a really crap day and I didn't feel that 'sorry about your crap day, I'm off to the beach' was a particularly appropriate response.....

Anyway, I'm just about caught up on things - sounds like generally a pretty good week - although rubbish no new BFPs just yet. Sorry kittens, but I'm also hoping you have a crap, fully pasteurised diet in Le France. All in a good cause, obviously. And as for the Take That gig - happy to take the tickets off your hands Natz if you and your bump to be can't make the gig.....

So, London lunch then? Great plan - please count me in. I'm getting a bit suspicious that all this 'Mr Man' and 'whale' talk is just you lot covering for yourselves so you can be chorused in 'but you're so tiny and slim' when we meet up. I've just spent the week in a bikini - probably not my best look just now, especially with my week long balloon feet after the flight - so even though I'm a good stone heavier than I'd like to be (on top of the extra stone I put on in the two previous half pregnancies), I guess I've come to terms with it.

Off to cook banana bread - yum (thanks Can't) - so speak to you all again soon. xxx

Oh - and meant to add to Gina. Mine did that same 'go quiet for a few hours' while I was on holiday and I was just starting to get a bit concerned. Then there was the most almighty stretching and wriggling (turning over?) and the kicking resumed. He also managed to squash himself all over to one side for a day, giving my bump that very attractive triangular effect. As well as the sleeping, I think you only feel them when they're kicking your outsides - a lot of your internal organs aren't wired up with many nerves so if they kick inwards, it can all feel a bit quiet. And sorry you've been feeling low - hope it was just transient. xx

Hi everyone, just a 'quick' hello. We moved last weekend (how I hate moving!) and Internet is very unreliable where I am, even on my phone, hence my absence.

Gina, agree with the others re: movements. Also, perhaps you just don't notice them at times when you're busy yourself. I know I used to sometimes think the baby hadn't moved for ages, bit if I actually sat still for long enough, she would. I also hired a Doppler which I found very reassuring for those times. Good to hear you're feeling better though. One of the ladies here suffered antenatal depression, and while not jumping to conclusions, was just going to 'put it out there' as it does happen, and a history of a previous loss/termination is one of the risk factors. Hopefully yours was just a transient thing, very understandable in the circumstances too.

Numpty, I haven't thanked you for the link to the slow cooker website. I almost feel like getting it out of storage and using it, as that would solve the problem of Bella wanting me most just as I'm trying to cook of an evening. We should be in our new place in a couple of months - can't wait to unpack it now and try some of those recipes.

Can't, Bella loves broccoli - thank you for the suggestion. Sounds like BabyCant is going great with solids. We kind of stalled for a while cause Bella became constipated, so it was pretty much pears, pears, pears and diluted pear juice. We are getting back on track now, but her diet is still pretty bland

Like Cant, I am very envious of the meet-up (also like Cant, would be a bit afraid of Kittens glamness - i just knew she was glam). Would LOVE to be there, but just a wee bit too far. I like Coffee's suggestion of a meet-up in Oz (thanks for thinking of me Coffee ). Wow, there is quite a crowd of you going isn't there? I'm sure you'll all have a lovely time. Have a drink for me :)

Bella is going very well - 5 teeth, crawling, walking whilst holding on to furniture, loves to show off. Currently has two scabs on her nose from carpet burn after falling off the back of the couch (on big sisters watch), poor thing. And thanks, Allstars, she is well now, though I'm suspecting she'll have another cold shortly as big sis has - I keep saying to her 'Don't breathe on Bella' - it's like PFB all over again

Coffee and Rachel - if I haven't already done so, just saying well done on your scans :) Gees I've lost track so much

Must go as I'm actually parked waiting to pick kids up from school while I'm doing this (guarenteed reception). Lastly though a very warm welcome to all the new ladies - I'm very sorry for what had brought you all here, but happy you have found this thread and these ladies nonetheless.

Hello and love to all xxxx

Hey Poot, glad you had a good time in the sun ... I am suitably jealous.

In my case if I were coming to the lunch you would have nothing to apply the word "slim" to, it really isn't just talk. Not complaining, I am so happy everything is ok, and there is the benefit of a winter pregnancy as I have retreated into all black. My saving grace is my new black wrap with discrete sequins which I bought last week in Tesco and which I have been widely complimented on by the girls in the office. It does a great job of hanging and swishing and being generally distracting.

Good to hear from you LittlePoot, I'm glad you had a nice holiday. And, of course, that you can make that weekend for a meet up. I could do with some sunshine and warmth I must say. I'm off to France tomorrow where I think it's in the late teens temperature wise at least for the next couple of days.

Lovely to hear from you too Mishta, your absence hasn't gone unnoticed! When you say you've just moved, does this mean you've moved into your dream/project home? If so, how exciting! How is it all going?

I am currently driving myself up the wall! Bloody stupid compulsive POAS lady! So, I've been having these sharp, pokey pains in my womb area as well as some mid afternoon stealth sleepiness which made me decide to POAS the other day. There was a VERY feint line which came up just after the 10 minute "DO NOT LOOK AFTER THIS TIME PERIOD" window. I did it again (couldn't help myself) and the same thing happened. So, I... erm... did one the next day and nothing showed up at all. Two days later, first wee this morning (and slighly pinkish wipe... sorry!) and I decided that as my period is not due 'til tomorrow or Friday I wouldn't waste an HPT as I only have a 3 left of my internet cheapies I would see what happened if I dipped my last OPK in it. There was a feint but distinct line, in under 10 mins. I tried this as I'd heard OPKs also pick up pregnancy hormones, so then I thought "OK, may as well try with one of the few precious HPTs" but by this time, even though I hadn't drunk anything it was my 3rd wee and almost clear. No line this time . FFS! somebody slap me! I think I ov'd quite late, on day 16 or 17 so it's likely that I wouldn't get much of a line before the weekend anyway. I have two left, do I try again in the morning or wait (hahahaha, you're joking right?) until the weekend?

I'm a bit petrified though, if it does turn out to be +ve. Timing wise it would make me 11 weeks on Christmas eve and 12 weeks on New Years eve which, if I managed to even get that far, will make the early tests/scans/results pretty tricky and therefore make for a pretty tense Christmas and New Year. Especially as there are also an additional two days of bank holiday between Christmas and New Year due to Christmas falling over a weekend! Yikes! I guess I should wait 'til I know for sure before I start worrying about this though. It's just that all this shit is now going around in my head and you lot are the only ones who truly understand.

I know, one day at a time.......

I will let you know what transpires as I will be online at my Mum's in France. When I get back we shall do some PMing about the wheres and whens of lunch.

Off I go to see if I can restrain myself from opening the bathroom cabinet again today. (That is figurative, my OH hasn't actually put the doors on it yet as it's still being built - so, even harder!)

Step away from the sticks young lady!!!

Actually, the only way I've ever managed to stop peeing on the damned things is to pee on all the sticks in the house so there are none left to torture myself with. Obviously, the sensible advice is to wait at least until the end of the week so if there are any lovely pg hormones there, they'll be a bit more obvious. But clearly you know that already so I repeat - step away!!!

And don't think you can just pee on one and save the other to the end of the week - as if one is ever enough...

But when you do pee on them, let us know what you see! xxxxx

LittlePoot. I just tried to hold a wee for 4 hours to see if I could test again. After about 3 hours I decided not to be such a nutter and wait, even if it is only 'til the morning!

I can't pee on them all (both), then I won't have any to test with if AF is actually late!

I'm not known for my patience. Obviously