Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 2

[LittlePoot]

Dear all lovely ladies past, present and future. Welcome to support thread number two, to help us through the anxious TTC waiting, early scary weeks of pregnancy, nasty scans and tests, growing bumps and babies and everything in between. May this thread bring luck and (eventual) joy to us all and at least we'll all be here to hold eachothers' hands along the way. x

You lot are so funny, although I am mainly a lurker on here, it's like Im listening in on friends reading all your posts!
Sorry too that you didnt get the result you wanted Mimsy. Fingers crossed for next month xxx

We are officially TTC, no more bleeding since last post. But have stupidly booked a tatoo for next week without thinking that it probably wasn't the smartest move in case things happen quickly. Ah well, will just have to forfeit the deposit. So instead have bought myself some Take That tickets! Again, thinking head not on, because if it does happen quickly and all is well, I will be 8 months gone....

Just wanted to say hello to everyone and give a big hug to Coffee - hope you are feeling a bit better now you are past the milestone. Congrats ro Rachel! And what a tyrant your boss is! (angry)

Will post again soon xx

Erm, not quite got the hang of the face icons - even with instructions on how to do them! Lol xx

Square brackets!

Welcome to our TTC journey Natz. I'm halfway through my 2ww and twitchy as always. I keep going onto the conception thread to see what's going on. I don't even know why. I think I'm secretly hoping to see a thread entitled "Yes, Havingkittens, this will be your month!" It's not even as if I have any symptoms to compare with anyone else's. Well, apart from the giant spots last week (which aren't unusual) and being really tired the last two evenings (also, not that unusual).

Thank you Havingkittens! Sorry, may be being very stupid, but what is '2ww'? I am sure it is totally obvious but I honestly cant figure it out...!
Same as you, have horrible spots recently and had a few very early nights as so tired, but not reading too much into it as we have only just started trying. We concieved our DD's very quickly, first attempt with all three, but after losing our baby DD Ive convinced myself things wont happen as quickly this time. I dont know why. Maybe because it wasn't that long ago.
I bought a pregnancy test pack a few weeks ago and have already used one lot because I felt pregnant, even though I was obviously not as was time of the month! Am trying so hard not to use the second test, not even due on for another 2 weeks!!!

2ww means 2 week wait. ie. the rather excruciating 2 weeks between ovulation and your period.

Hello everyone (nervous wave)

I hope you don't mind me introducing myself here rather than in the other thread. All this talk of a meet-up has finally driven me to register!

I had a termination for T21 earlier this year. I have found this and the other thread such a comfort. Everything that's been said has resonated with me so much - the optimism before the scan, then the awful grief, the fear of never getting pregnant again, the fallout with friends (although the majority of my friends have been brilliant), the incomprehensibleness of it all...

I'm going to post this before I back out, but I hope to be back and participating a bit more. You have all given me so much and maybe I can contribute something too for all of us who have to walk this path.

Hello Ghislaine and welcome. I am sorry to hear about your baby but glad you are joining us. I'm a bit sporadic cos I've got my hands full but I pop in a lot.

Mimsy, sorry this isn't your month. Next month...? nice to have a summer baby.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR to meet ups, since I live nowhere near any of you. Almost flippantly wrote that it seems that these problems don't happen near me apart from me, but decided that was too flippant. V jealous of the meet ups though. Mind you, reading between the lines I gather that Kittens is uber glamorous and I would look like such a scruff in comparison!

Coffee, glad things are sinking in, albeit slowly.

Pregnant ladies - have you all tried the banana bread that we were all baking when I first joined the thread? It is very good for pregnant women and the recipe is from a woman whose little girl died when she was 18 months, so it has poignancy. And banana bread is sooo comforting....

Cantdo, are you psychic?! Believe it or not, this morning I was thinking I should ask you the banana bread recipe, I have no idea why it popped into my head! How are you and your DDs?

Ghislaine, welcome! I am so glad that reading our posts helped, I hope it's still helping other women who have gone or are going through this nightmare. Come back whenever you feel like it.

Natz, I am keeping my fingers crossed that it will be sod's law for both you and Kittens this month, or if not this month then very, very soon. So I hope you don't mind me saying that I hope you won't go to the concert and won't have a new tattoo, and Kittens already knows I hope she won't get to eat unpasteurised cheese and drink champagne in France.

Right, you lot, so how many of you are up for the meet-up? So far it's Kittens, Catlady, Mimsy and me, any other takers?

Poot, how are you, you've been quiet? And Gina, I hope you're feeling a bit brighter.

Big hello to everybody xxxx

Banana bread from Cooking with Daisy - which is a FAB book for anyone with small kids:

300g plain flour
100g sugar
3/4 tsp bicarb
1/2 ts salt
3 very ripe bananas, mashed with fork
100g yoghurt
2 large eggs
90g butter, melted then cooked
1 tsp vanilla essence

Grease and flour the bottom of a loaftin and preheat oven to 180C/fan 160/350F/gas 4.

Sift together flour, sugar, bicarb and salt into a bowl.

In another bowl, mix mashed bananas, yoghurt, eggs, butter and vanilla essence with a wooden spoon.

Once these ingredients have been combined, fold into the dry ingredients with a spatula - don't overmix.

When you have a thick, chunky batter, scrape into loaf tin and bake for about 55 mins until a cake skewer comes out clean.

Leave to cool for 5 mins in the tin then turn onto a wire rack.

It's particularly good sliced, warmed through in the toaster and spread with butter according to the cookery writer.

Oh and I tend to add choc chips, because I'm something of a chocoholic.

Ooh banana bread! Thanks for posting Cant! I can also highly recommend adding sultanas that have been steeped in a little Havana Club rum. Delicious.

Although I really, really do not need to be eating cake. I have been starving and eating like a horse the past month or so and am massive. It is not all bump I can assure you. How is it that my arse and legs seem to be as pregnant as my belly?

Ghislaine I'm so glad these threads have been a comfort for you. I found the same when I was in the depths of despair and then only really started posting when we were trying again.

hello i'm back from france which was a tonic. can i stay on this thread if i'm only considering ttc? we still haven't made our mind up but we also don't appear to be taking any steps to avoid it! we shall see...

In the meantime I'm finding it really nice to read about your pg, ttcing or your new babies. I was so decided about another baby but now i'm just really scared. When I lost dd3 i wanted a baby - any baby - and could understand how women could end up snatching one and was really jealous of other people, not that i resented their happiness just resented my loss. This time i'm not really like that, think I'm just a bit numb but wondering if that means I'm ready to give up on it.
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Manitz, I think you have got to give yourself time to decide one way or another. You may not want to try again; you might feel you have to despite the horror. Either way stay! I'm not pregnant or ttc either and I'm staying.

Cat, your baby is definitely a girl. Doesnt old wives wisdom say boy bumps are all bump and girl bumps go everywhere?!

I would be up for the London meet up - funnily i was just thinking the other day how lovely it would be to put some faces to the names - wkd 19th works for me too :)

Felix seems much better on the gavison which is great but the bad news is it has made him horribly constipated, he spend half an hour screaming trying to push a poo out yesterday - it broke my heart :( Poor little guy if it's not one end it's the other - seems things are moving a bit better today though!

Manitz of course stay! Ghislaine a warm welcome!

Kittens, big hugs to you - so hard being jealous of friends but par for the course i guess so don't feel bad. Crossing every finger and toe for you this month x

Oh Katie, what a bumpy ride for the two of you! I really hope Felix will feel better soon and you'll be able to stop the gaviscon, poor him!

Great about the meet-up, I was actually wondering if you could make it from Brighton. I live quite close to you, near Gatwick.

Cantdo, I baked the banana bread today, it smelled gorgeous while in the oven, but I had a huge late lunch and feel full, so I'll enjoy it a bit later. The only thing is, I think my tin is a bit too big, so the bread looks a bit flat. I did add chocolate chips though, good tip :)

Manitz, of course you can stick around, no matter what you decide. I hope being here is helpful.

Catlady, I'm eating all the time as well, I just can't help it. It's pickles for me all the way though, and I could eat my whole body weight in cheese!

Natz, it's very hard to resist not testing and not symptom spotting, but try to step away from the test for as long as possible. I'm keeping everything crossed for you and Kittens this month, and for Mimsy next month.

Thanks Coffee :) I can easily pop up to London from here maybe we can get the same train! x

hi, thanks it is helpful and I'm enjoying reading. Katie, all my kids have dropped two centiles in the first few months, which for the first two the midwives really paniced over. by no 3 they just said it was normal for my kids. i tried to read back if that's the problem you are having with felix but can't find the initial post. They also put at least one of them on gaviscon for a bit and it does block them up for a bit. Hope he adjusts soon and that he starts gaining weight soon. x

Thanks Manitz - it's more the amount he was eating that was concerning - he would really fuss at feeds, acting very hungry and then pull away, arch his back and cry like it was hurting. He is actually gaining weight fine, i have had him weighed quite alot as i was so worried! I guess all babies are differant though, some eat more and some eat less!

Thanks for the welcome, everyone. We are ttc again, but no luck so far which is frustrating, although I read somewhere today there's a boom in over 50s mums which made me think I probably have a few years left! Of course that doesn't help much when each month is a bust. Sod the rum-soaked raisins, I go straight to the gin.

I'd be up for the meet-up too.

Sorry brief post as wanted to give Katie a tip for windy Felix - from my baby yoga dvd, and apologies if you already know this but I'll try to describe...

On changing mat and with him wearing nappy (just in case!) bend his legs up against him so you are above, pushing gently on his shins/knees against his tummy; you can put some pressure on (BabyJ smiles loads when I do this and also farts loads...). Then you can also put his feet together, like they are clapping, hold them together and 'stir the porridge' ie holding the feet move them in a circle above his pelvic area, again pushing down a little. Finally you can do half lotus - a bit like crossing legs, put toe of one leg to knee of other, to hip of other, then to opposite waist. Basically just move those legs around!

A bit like (thought I'd google just in case my description doesn't make sense), although I feel very sorry for Mr Messy Pants - hope this has disappeared from the internet by the time he can be embarrassed by school mates...

And remember Felix's digestive system will improve with time whatever you do.

Must go get some sleep! xx

Would it be ok for me to meet up with you all too? Im in Kent, but only just, takes 25mins to get into London by train.

I stupidly did a pg test today after convincing myself that I am pg (even though period was only on the 13th), and told myself off afterwards for being to impatient. But now have no more tests in the house so will not buy any more till middle of November....!

Katie, it's so difficult when baby is having problems with feeding/pooing. Both my DD's got horrible tummys when they began teething. If it wasn't potent wet poo's it was horrible hard ones that wouldn't come out. I have lost track of the amount of times I had them up the doctors. It got so much easier when I had them on proper grown up food! Hope Felix feels better soon xx

hi natz our pound shop does tests for 3 for a pound. after val i tested about once a day so couldn't afford the 'proper' ones. I was wondering if I could come too? x

Hi ladies, of course you can come, great news there'll be quite a few of us! So we have so far:

Kittens
Katie
Catlady
Ghislaine
Natz
Manitz
Mimsy
Coffee

Sorry if I forgot anyone, just add yourselves to the list. Who knows of a nice place we could go to?

Natz, it's very very hard to resist not testing. I am telling you to step away from the tests, but to be honest I'm just the pot calling the kettle black.

Numpty, you made me giggle with your comment about Mr Messy Pants. I hope it will work for little Felix.

Katie, we can take the same train, I'll CAT you once we decide where and when we meet.

I'm away for work tomorrow and then off to Madrid for a short break until Sunday, so I might not be able to post before then. Very weirdly, the thought of going away from home for a few days makes me a bit anxious I very much prefer to be at home these days, in my comfort zone, which has shrunk considerably lately. Does this make me sound like a complete idiot?!

Thanks for the tips Numpty i will definitely give them a go - feel sorry for poor mr. messy pants too!

Thanks Natz for the reassurance also :)

Coffee have a lovely time in Madrid and don't worry you don't sound like an idiot for wanting to stay close to home, familiar things keep us calm but you will have a fab time! x

which bit are we thinking about? do brighton and kent come into victoria? could do southbank.

Manitz, you can get tests much cheaper than that at homehealth-uk.com or ebay/amazon!

Natz, you are not alone, I also POAS today - I woke up for a wee about 4 times in 2 hours before my alarm went off so I couldn't help myself wondering. No result. Too early, obviously rolls eyes at myself !

I was thinking either Victoria or South Bank too for the same reasons. People coming from out of town will either come into Victoria or somewhere on the Victoria line.

Las Iguanas is quite good on the South Bank. I don't know what's in Victoria I'm afraid as it's not an area I frequent. Something that does veggie food or fish pls!