Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 2

[LittlePoot]

Dear all lovely ladies past, present and future. Welcome to support thread number two, to help us through the anxious TTC waiting, early scary weeks of pregnancy, nasty scans and tests, growing bumps and babies and everything in between. May this thread bring luck and (eventual) joy to us all and at least we'll all be here to hold eachothers' hands along the way. x

Hello ladies, I hope you all had a good week-end. Sarah, good luck today, let us know how it all went. And Gina, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for tomorrow, I hope you are very busy today so the day goes quickly.

Rachel, so annoying about your mum. She must be very happy for you, and also for her at the thought of becoming a grandmother, but I can completely understand why you are annoyed now. People don't really understand how nerve-wracking a pregnancy after loss is and why we can't just get excited and talk about the baby.

LittlePoot, I am happy you feel more settled, it's a very good place to be in under the circumstances, I think. Although the run-up to the scan is horrible... the good thing though is that at 18 and a half week they should be able to see everything, I mean it's within the usual timeframe for an anomaly scan, isn't it? Will you also be scanned later? Hopefully those will be "just" reassurance scan.

I'll be scanned at 17 and a half weeks and am starting to worry that it's a bit too early, although it can't come soon enough. But I do trust my doctor, and I randomly came across an article in which they were saying the earliest brain anomalies can be detected is 17 weeks. Today I have a mw appointment, she should be able to find the heartbeat, I'm 14 weeks.

Hello to everyone else xxxx

Hello ladies,

Sarah, good luck today, I really hope it goes ok. I see my MW at Lymington and everything else is at Princess Anne in Southampton, they are excellent in Soton IMO and they looked after me so well last time.

Rachel my MIL is the same, we said don't tell anyone until after 20 weeks and she has told all of the family that side and all of her friends..... its another thing to add to my list of why my PIL are annoying...

Hello to everyone else, I'm sorry its just a short hello from me today & not very personal. My head is in a funny place, half confident that everything will be ok tomorrow and half of me is in a sheer panic.... My appt is not until 12.30, I think I will have driven myself crazy by then.

Luckily a busy day at work becuase I just want to sit here and cry....

Love to all xxxx

Just popping in as DS not well and off nursery, so house more chaotic than usual!

Hope the booking appointment goes well for Sarah; and Gina, is it another scan tomorrow? Lost track... think it's also Drama's scan today, so if it is GOOD LUCK DRAMA!
xx

And congrats Viv! - forgot to read back over recent messages. Great to see you on this thread, you'll get lots of understanding support here... xx

Hey Gina ... just a quick one to wish you all the best for tomorrow - I have an all day meeting tomorrow so won't be able to come on and send positive vibes. Hoping that the scan will provide you with an injection of reassurance so you can have another few weeks of post ok scan tranquility before the inevitable worry wobbles begin again for 20 weeks. Will have my fingers crossed absolutely for you.

Thanks Ladies!

This scan should hopfully take the place of the 20 week scan as its with the FMU at Soton instead of the "normal" scanning dept so if we get through this one then it will be a big relief.... 18 weeks today just so desperate that everything is ok.... not too worried about spina bifida this time but everything else that could go wrong is floating around in my head...

Grrrrr - sent a big long message and mnet ate it!! Haven't got time to write it again - essentially was lots of things crossed for Sarah and Gina, wondering how kittens got on with the stunt dogs and checking how Katie and Felix are getting on. All good here - will write again when work gets a bit quieter. xxxxx

Sorry, not been around much. Good luck to Sarah and Gina.

Been pretty full on this last week or so. Collapsed into a crumpled heap on Saturday afternoon. Stunt dog was lovely, an Akido/American Bulldog mix. Mostly just sitting on a sofa, reacting to various goings on rather than any feats of daring!

Hope everyone's doing OK here. Still not getting much chance to catch up. X

Hello All,

I am feeling much better thankfully! Antibiotics worked a treat. Have also managed to get Felix back on the boob without too much difficulty ? the problem I now have though is that I think my milk supply is shot to shit so I am still having to top him up with formula. Going to a breast feeding workshop tomorrow though so hopefully they will be able to help.

Other than that all is good, Felix is becoming more wakey each day and I love seeing more of his lovely eyes, he is still being pretty easy too (touch wood!) OH went back to work today which I have been feeling very anxious about ? however I think the two of us are doing ok on our own - so far!

Hope all is well with everyone else ? Hope today went ok Sarah and best of luck for tomorrow Gina ? will be keeping everything crossed for you! Same for you next week Littlepoot, you are nearly there hun.

Katie xxx

Hey all,
Came on a few days ago and wrote huge great speil only to have mnet eat it (grrrrrr)so i just swore at my laptop and gave up tbh so apologies for not chatting for a while.
Anywho had my 12wk scan today...which actually turned out to be my 12+6 scan so now due the 9th of march everything seems ok nuchal measurement of 1.6 so pretty average i thought, very wriggly baby who didn't want to co-operate at all bless him/her, calling up for my bloods tomorrow so fingers crossed.
Standing by for news on Gina and Sarah good luck!
XxXxX

Hi Katiecubs, still following your progress :). Glad to see you're feeling better and enjoying your time with little Felix. I went to see a friend (a much younger friend - about your age I think!) today whose baby is a month old. Oh she's so beautiful. It did make me broody but I'm too old to have another one now.

I had problems feeding my dd, having had no problems to speak of with my two ds's. She was unable to suck when first born and so my milk supply started to dry up. She did take a bottle after a couple of days but I was determined she should at least have breast milk so I got a pump from a medical rental place (you should have seen it - looked like something you'd find in a dairy!) and just got pumping. I drank a lot too. It took a while to get my milk supply back up to what it needed to be but then I ended up with loads of the stuff and filled the freezer up ready for the time when I'd had enough of pumping. As it was she started bfing with nipple shields at 4 weeks and without at 6 weeks. Never needed the freezer full of milk! Hope you get some good advice tomorrow.

((((hug)))) xxxx

Katie - more quick tips re supply: 1) feed as much as you can, 2) baby will always get more milk from you than you get when expressing, so don't worry if you're not expressing much 3) fenugreek helped me, in fact caused problems as I then had over supply...

Drama - hope full results good for tomorrow...

Better go, someone here wants milk now! xx

Drama, great news! I hope your full results today are reassuring, but with a good nuchal measurement and your age, eveything should be fine.

Gina, lots and lots and lots of luck for today! "Only" a few hours to go, you're getting there! You have my admiration for your positive attitude, I think you are so brave.

Sarah, I hope yesterday went well. Katie, you sound so happy, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed bf sorts itself out.

Hello as well to Numpty, Mishta and Cantdo, if you're reading, I hope you're well. LittlePoot, hopefully your week is busy as well and you can find some distraction. xxxx

Morning all,
didn't get a wink of sleep! was up all night worrying, we have decided if we get a low risk result today to not have any invasive testing but tbh i can't see it i know i'm only 25 and had a good nuchal but the consultant told me yesterday that Liams nuchal was 1, you see why i'm worrying? it was my bloods that flagged up something wasn't right last time and i just keep thinking if that happens again and this time i've got the added factor of already having a downs pregnancy.....i think i need to throw-up have a cup of tea and put my head between my legs....in that order.
I'm officially 13wks today! we think this little cub is a girl purely because it was so much more active then Liam or George was it would not stop moving! and kept putting it's face right up to the screen which was a bit scary lol, the fact she moved us on a bit was good cause with Liam we were moved back a few days and even DP said this baby looked bigger...i guess i just have to wait till this afternoon, sorry for the self indulgent post it helps to get it all off my chest to someone and i don't want to worry DP! hopefully my head will be a bit clearer later! XxXxXxXxX

Hi drama, no matter what we can't escape the worry, can we? We're just so much more aware of how many things can go wrong. Telling you not to worry would be the pot calling the kettle black, but it is a little bit easier if you can let it all out in here. I will tell you what I am telling myself in my darkest moment, that having something wrong happen once does not mean it will happen again.

I hope you have had your results by now and that they are good, let us know.

Thinking about Gina as well, I'll be logging on later to see how it all went. xxxx

Hi Ladies, what a day we've had, totally exhausted now! I am pleased to say that we have a healthy looking baby. No Spina Bifida, no abnormalities that they can see so we have been given the all clear! I cried and cried, partially at the relief and partially at the unfairness that Olivia didn't get the same clean bill of health.

We also found out we are having a boy!

I will post more tomorrow!

Love to all xxxx

Oh Gina congrats!! what a relief for you i'm so pleased a beautiful baby boy...we seem to be having a run of boys don't we?
My results came back i'm low risk at 1 in 249, with Liam i was 1 in 135 so quite a signifigant jump despite me having a previous downs pg which i was quite pleased with now it's just a case of deciding whether we want any invasive testing seeing as were still quite high in the low risk catogory....never ends does it? XxXxX

Thanks Dramamum! We are so relieved! He is a wriggler and there was certainly no doubt of gender!!

It's a hard choice re the CVS or Amnio.... What did your consultant recommend?

Great news Gina. Now you can relax and enjoy.

And Dramamama, your nuchal result is excellent, I am sure all will be fine from here. I hope they got your blood results to you today.

Hope things are OK with you Sarahmia?

Not much news from me other than AF has just been and gone, so we can think about TTC again. I have an appointment with the recurrent MC clinic tomorrow, just for a debrief following my latest MC. Apparently there are some new clinical trials coming up. I may not be eligible, but it will be interesting to find out what they are anyway.

Haven't had a chance to read back through the thread to catch up, but a BIG HELLO to everyone else and I will try to post more soon.

Ahh great news Gina - you must be over the moon. In fact, your post has made me quite teary-eyed, which I'm (happily) putting down to the raging hormones... :)

Hi to everyone else x Hope you're all good.

Gina, great news, I have to say I also read your post with a big lump in my throat. I am so pleased for you, gosh I can imagine the huge wave of relief sweeping through you when you heard the good news. Thinking now of LittlePoot, and keeping everything crossed.

Drama, tough choice indeed. What did your consultant say? It really is a good result, but I can completely understand why you are considering having CVS maybe. What is your gut feeling?

Viv, how are you feeling? Has sickess kicked in yet? Mimsy, good luck with TTC! And Numpty, wishing you lots of energy and patience for the party this week-end, I think you've been already advised in here to stock up on vodka :). Kittens, big appointment on Monday, I hope the week-end passes peacefully.

As for me, I saw the mw and she found a strong heartbeat, and I got quite emotional. I feel so bad for my little one, I still can't give him/her a chance in my mind and I feel awful. 3 weeks until my first anomaly scan.

Anyway, nothing to do but wait... I wonder how our old-timers are, Mishta and Cantdo, if you're reading, can you give us a Bella/Little Miss Cantdo update?

Lots of love xxxx

Hello everyone.

Well the reality of the situation has kicked in and for want of a better expression I am now pooping myself..... it seems that we are having a baby...... I guess I never expected to get this far and now that we have its all a bit of a shock.

Drama how are you feeling? Have you decided what you want to do re the invasive testing?

Poot it can't be long for your scan, how are you getting on? Hope work is calmer!

Hope everyone else is ok, Coffee, Katie, Mimsy, Sarah, Rachel, Kittens, Numpty and anyone I have missed off the list!

I'm feeling good, thanks Coffee. Have had a bit of a cold over these last couple of days, which has added to the overwhelming sense of tiredness which kicks in like clockwork between 2 and 3pm every day. But no sickness as yet, which can only be a good thing.

(Although that said, I didn't have sickness with my previous two pregnancies and as they didn't work out, I strangely think I would rather be vomming everywhere!)

Hi ladies sorry I have been missing for 3 weeks (two weeks of that has been spent in Turkey, lucky us).

Quick update since my last post, I saw the specialist at Tooting FMU two weeks agao (12w)nuchal measurement was 1.2mm so chuffed, previous baby with T18 was 7mm so HUGE relief. They also got excited that they could see a nasal bone, apparently Downs babies don't tend to have them so another good sign.

I had combined screening and results were 1:57 and 1:150 before bloods - and after bloods and NT measurement results are now 1:1186 and 1:2290 am so haoppy with that!

Saw the specialist again last Tuesday (14w) and she said ALL is totally normal, had a total indepth scan with two specialists and a sonographer, brain looked into and measured, face profiles, every limb and body part measured, heart monitored was very very indepth took just under an hour. NT still very low at 1.4mm.

All this has finally reassured that I have a helathy baby growing and finally I feel pregnant and happy to be!

I hope all you ladies are also having good news :)

Oops forgot to mention in my last post as I've seen a few ladies having the dilemma of invasive tests etc, I went with the belief of a CVS last Tuesday, BUT having had my combined results back 1:1186 and 1:2290 the thought of a 1:100 chance of miscarriage through CVS just didnt make sense.

I also felth that my specialist was subtely trying to disuade the CVS trying to give the reassurance we are in the clear with a healthy baby so dont risk it!

Hope this helps some of you :)