support thread for women who have chosen to terminate III

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This thread is for any woman who has chosen to terminate a pregnancy for whatever reason. It follows on from

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_tests_choices/770313-support-thread-for-women-who-have-chosen-to-term inate-II

everyone is welcome, old friends and new.

Hi to everyone from the old thread and hope you find me!

morning all

sorry to hear about the wobble Lucky. Isn't it just awful how everything catches up with us at the most inopportune times. It does get easier though. I'm beginning to feel happy now for other people and the various happy baby news.

I had an awful dream last night. Was a novelty to wake up though, and to realise it wasn't true.

Tiredness is beginning to set in, and it doesn't help that I toss and turn in bed at night.

Have a great day everyone

BK xx

Morning Bezzy, hmm, the tiredness, it's like no other tiredness isn't it! Mine is beginning to lift a little during the day but evenings I want to go to bed about 8pm! If I stay up late, or ...go out (gosh what a rebel) I feel more crap for a few days after. Pregnancy really takes it out on your body!!

Lucky, it is so hard when you have to pretend. I remember thinking that I must have 'pain' written across my face and how could others not see how I felt? It can make you feel like a bit of an outsider to an event when you feel so out of step with life. Hugs to you. xxx

Roll on the weekend! xxx

Hello babypanda? may I ask how old you are. I am also pregnant after having a miscarriage due to down syndrome in december.
Glad with your good news.

Hello everyone.

Am really sorry haven't been about much - the dc's have really had awful temps etc. Currrently deep int he 'to tamiflu or not to tamiflu' over dd2 [6.5 months]

Hmmm.

Sorry about the wobbles. It's hard work isn't it. So tiring pretending to be upbeat and really wanting to curl up or shake someone.

What Lins says is so powerful, about having pain written on your forehead. Sigh. That really gets over to me how it must feel. To the extent it can.

Have a very good holiday Lucky. x

ANd welcome to babypanda, I hope you find the thread useful and a good calm and kind place to be.

Tiredness in eaarly preg is my main thing. When I am pregnant I am basically jet lagged to 18 weeks or so. Urgh.

oh no NPD, sorry to hear your kids are so ill, we're sending healing vibes from the South West.

Haven't stopped yawning ALL day....zzzzz.....even had a little nap on the sofa while mini bez napped. Haven't done that since the last time I was pregnant.

Capt C been at the cricket today, so suspect he'll be late in, and making a lot of noise of a day of complimentary booze. On the plus side I have a M&S curry box. Just counting down until mini bez goes to bed so I can bung in the microwave.

And one last thing, thought I'd share that I ate an ENTIRE bag of Percy Pigs for my lunch. Oink oink...feel a bit sick now...

BK xx

Hmmm...curry and percy pigs. Yum.

Oh I'm hungry. I have no energy for the bedtime hour though.

Dear NPD, I'm so sorry to hear the kids are still not well. Is it a case of suspected swines? I'm so glad our variant (if that IS what we have) is mild, so I've not had to consider the Tamiflu, must be quite a dilemma . Hope they all get better soon, and you get the chance to catch up on sleep/life.

Everyone seems to be tired! We had lazy tea tonight, pizza for me and DS. I do like lazy tea, and the fact that it exists and can be used when required. Better get my act together tomorrow, that's two lazy teas in a row for us. And I've a massive cabbage lurking in the back of the fridge (get veg box delivered, so it wasn't like I chose it). Better do some Minestrone soup to use some up...

Bedtime for DS now - he's the only one who hasn't been tired, been wanting to get out of his bed the last few evenings...

Numpty - Kohlrabi was where I personally knew I had to get off the veg box scheme.

Thanks for the kind words. Baby H hot again this eve, bugger.

But Kohlrabi is OK! You don't have to cook it (in fact, probably better if you don't) - it's great in salads, or stir frys. Now Beetroot is a different matter. I banned it from our veg box after one too many disastrous meal combinations. At the moment the greatest challenge is how to use cabbage or lettuce (given DS isn't really going to tackle either).

Sorry to hear H not good still. Really hope you managed to get her temp down and that she's sleeping OK now.

Thinking of Lins, your due date is approaching isn't it? Hope you are feeling OK.

xx to all (that's a non-infections, viral free virtual kiss/hug).

Hi all.

Numpty - I didn't like it. I found it bitter. Maybe I wasn't very good with it. I was also over run with lettuce.

How is everyone?

Been having a sort of 'ho hum' day today. Had a nice morning with DS, cooked lots, but feel a bit... blah. Been posting on here loads, just to cheer myself up and connect with other people. Should probably go to bed now as I'm feeling tired. There have been a few times today where I've been thinking about/aware of not being pregnant - not that it's made me upset, just a bit sad. On the other hand, I've also been thinking about the advantages of just having one child.

BTW, think I was getting Kohlrabi mixed up with celariac, I used to do a nice salad with chicken and celariac...

Night night all, xx

Hello all, very long time. Just wanted to check in quickly to say I've not forgotten about you. I really need to catch up properly with everyone. I was thinking about Lins and that it must be your due date quite soon - 25th? Must be strange with another one growing inside you. Hope you are well. As indeed is everyone else.

Been really busy this past week, kids went back to school on Tuesday. Currently my sister is helping out and we're having a bit of a clear out in the house. She cleaned my kitchen and cleared the window-sill. It looks heaps better. I organised it today to go swimming with my eldest, just the two of us. Youngest starts nursery on Monday, he's in every morning but of course doesn't have to go. He is so sweet, I'd forgotten what age 4 is like, out of the tantrum stage but still so innocent.

Will read up tomorrow, need to get to bed now. Night all. xxx

Hi Eulalia - my eldest is 4 it is an amazing age. Right on the brink of so much but still babies really.

Ho Hum to the Ho Hum day Numpty. A reflective day. Sleep well.

Hi all, just letting you know I am still about and all is good. Have been working all week on a medical floor and come home so exhausted, I do little else besides get dinner ready, a quick tidy and sleep. Dh works away and is only home on weekends, so he's not much use to me!

Welcome to babypanda, glad to hear your nice news.

Tree, hope your family is on the mend. Certainly seems to be taking it's time.

Lins, sounds promising with the house. Good luck. Ours isn't even on the market yet - have to pull my finger out and get on with it. If we sell, it will mean we will be between homes for six months while new house gets built. We were going to stay at mil's, but can't imagine bringing baby home to the 'spare room' we would be sharing! Could you imagine!! Might just have to rent.

Hope everyone else is going well. Will pop in thru the week. Take care xx

Oh justabout. I am sorry your father is ill. Hold in there. x

Oh justabout/GO, I'm so sorry to hear the news about your father. It must be very tiring for all of you, these constant emotional ups and downs, the 'will he be OK, won't he'... I do hope that the hospital he's at are treating him well and that he is getting the best care he can. And I do hope that you can manage with it all, with your family and bump (and work?). I'm pretty useless at praying, but will have a quiet word with God for you all.

Hello all
Busier Chinese Bee here.
Firstly a gentle hug to our GO - what a delicate time it is for you and your family. I am so sad to hear of your father's health problems. What a terrible state of affairs - I hope he is being treated well.
Panda lady - congratulations on your wonderful news- wow - if it was the acupuncture; well fantastic. Yes you are right - my tx was the same day as yours - how awful really for us. But hey, here you are with good news. Do you have other children too?

I am back and have jet lag and my house is unbearably unbearable - truly it is. Dust and wires and dust and chaos.
Newspaperdelivery - blimey woman - what a name! You sound as if things have been somewhat action packed at your end too.
Bezzy - the tiredness.
It is all consuming is it not? Like being knocked over.
Got to go - small boy needs me.
kisses

Welcome back our Far Eastern Bee! We've missed you.

sorry to hear about your dad justa, how so very hard for you and your family. I hope he is being treated well, and with the respect he deserves.

Quiet weekend here, you ok numpty?

BK x

Beee!! Welcome home

The thread cottage has a beautiful hand made oak kitchen with an old old aga. And no wires and zero dust.

Yours too will be lovely. tell us about your new kitchen sometime! I bought a new one this time last year so am still in the kitchen zen.

Bet the jet lag is mega. x

Waves to all!!

Hi Bezzy - thanks for asking. I've been feeling very flat all weekend. There's lots of lovely things coming up this week - DS's birthday, a trip to the zoo, and next weekend we go to visit my folks for a week. But I've been feeling very lacklustre about it all. I think partly because it IS DS's birthday, so reminds me of childbirth/pregnancy and how it is now 2 years and he's still alone. And of course because I would originally have been pregnant with Iola, celebrating with family, and now I'm not. I'm not crying, but I am feeling sad.

Numpty - I think it is inevitable isn't it? The heavy heart. I have a suspicion it might always be like this too, on many important days. A moment where this past reality visits us. You feel sad if you have to, it will pass and I think it is part of loss. It will pass. Gentle hugs and peacefull space for your feelings here. x

Hi all. I want to write lots of nice things to you all, but it should be Daisy's due date tomorrow, and I have such a lump in my throat.
Can't write. Feeling really sad.
xxxxx

Oh Lins, I was thinking of you - I remember your due date because it's just before DS's birthday.

You loved her, and love her. Just remember that thought you had, imagining all your girls playing together and perhaps the other two are just out of sight...

xxxx