@Mrsbitz sorry you’re going through such a lot of worry, but whatever the NIPT results, things will be ok, and Down’s syndrome is a slightly different journey from what you may have expected, but ultimately your child will be wonderful, regardless of the number of chromosomes.
My nearly 5 year old, currently playing on her iPad and watching Baby Club (getting very excited about Baby Bear loving porridge, just like she does), had a postnatal diagnosis of DS at a few hours old. It felt like our world had collapsed, as the consultant delivered the diagnosis and reeled out all the related medical complications. But we needn’t have worried - our daughter is wonderful. She was lucky enough not to have heart, bowel or feeding problems (beyond initial difficulties related to her low muscle tone, which meant she struggled to latch on - but ended up breastfeeding for 2.5 years!). She crawled at 14 months, walked at nearly 3, and is a real chatterbox - both verbally and through her great knowledge of Makaton signs. She can sing along to nursery rhymes and loves numbers and counting. She’s my absolute superstar. And I know that a lot of her friends through our local DS charity had heart surgery when very little - obviously horrific for them and their parents at the time - but now a year or two on, are doing brilliantly. Lockdown has seen many of our little crawlers turn into walkers and climbers!
Do have a look at the Down’s syndrome association website (www.downs-Syndrome.org.uk) as they have excellent resources for new and expectant parents. www.positiveaboutdownsyndrone.co.uk also has lots of stories and experiences from parents, grandparents, siblings etc. And there are a couple of really good Facebook blogs - Don’t Be Sorry (about a little boy called Oscar) and I am River, who, for that added bit of exoticism, lives in Tanzania! Both give really good, positive, but honest accounts of bringing up a child with Down’s syndrome.
Take care. I’ll be thinking of you and happy to answer any questions you have.