High risk

[JulieC1981]

I have been told I'm in a high risk for down syndrome.

I have to go back on Thursday for the next blood test.

I'm 38 years old and nearly 18 weeks. So nervous and scared about the results and next steps!

I had a tfmr due to trisomy 21 and it is a very difficult time. It is unfair of your husband to bring his beliefs into it like this. It’s your body at the end of the day. Men don’t get an opinion IMO. Hope you have a good outcome

Hi @JulieC1981 sorry to hear that you are going through this. I to got given a high risk ratio of 1:45 after my screening test. It was my very very low Papp-a mixed with my age (34) that put me at high risk. I was seen by a consultant on Friday who scanned me and couldn’t see any soft markers on the scan or anything that would concern him. I then decided to have the harmony test and waiting on my results. Wishing you all the best!

Also I have decided whatever the outcome if I am lucky enough to get pregnant again then I would pay straight for the harmony test at 10 weeks because the amount of worry and upset this has caused is not worth it. My Nuchal measurement went down from 1.8 to 1.3 from my 2 scans which I thought was a positive but apparently that doesn’t change my risk factor. Good luck to all those waiting on results.

JulieC1981 I too haven't told a lot of people, just my parents and mil. The wait is excruciating.
I have low Papp a and with me being 38, also my first born had ds (she was also stillborn) has all
Contributed to me being in the high risk category.
I hope everyone here gets the results they desperately want. X

We haven’t told anyone other than my parents either. When are you all hoping for the results?

I'm hoping for today or tomorrow. How about you? This is my second wait, I had my first NIPT test on the 4th jan, however my sample couldn't be tested as there was insufficient foetal dna in my sample. I have everything crossed that it works this time round!

I had a 1:28 risk of downs due to high NT fluid. Nipt test came back low risk, and both cardiac scans have so far been fine. I have another scan at 30 weeks and will be discharged from cardiology if that is ok.
I have my fingers crossed you get a low risk result.

Oh gosh @Blizy how awful to have to wait twice as long. How far gone are you now? Fingers crossed you get the results through ASAP. I had my harmony test on Friday so they said hopefully by this Friday.

I had my second test on Tuesday. I was told maybe today or tomorrow. I'm 17 weeks.

I hope everyone waiting for a result gets a low result.
I hope I don't have to be retested, this didn't cross my mind and having to wait even longer would be awful. I'm so sorry.

Bickles, I understand what your saying. It does have a bigger impact as I'm carrying the baby. But I made the choice to have another baby with him and he should have a input. I can't imagine as a man feeling even more out of control than I do right now. He is trying to be strong, but it is important in the decision making too x

Keeping everything crossed for us all. I must admit I was very naive and thought once I got to the second trimester it would all be plain sailing. It’s hard going from such a high to such a worrying time. It’s nice to have the support from MN though x

Completely agree with everything you have just said x

The wait is just awful, I keep crying because I don’t know what is going to find of it. @JulieC1981 do you know what factors made you high risk? It was a complete shock to me!

I cry everytime I think about it. My quad results were
AFP 26 ku/l
Inhibin-a 552 pg/ml
Hcg 28 ku/l
Ue3upd 2.1 nmol/l

She didn't explain to me which was high or low. They weren't the best to be honest. My age also pushed me up, I'm 38 x

Do you know what made yours high?

I don’r understand those results as I haven’t received mine yet but just got told my Papp-a was very low. Also I am almost 35 so think that increased my risk ratio. My husband is very positive about it but I am like you and find myself detaching from the pregnancy. We have decided that we might possibly have a termination if it was to come back positive because of the wider range of health problems that can come with the diagnosis (although it will be very hard and really don’t want to be judged) x

I can't say I understand them either!
You have to do what's best for you both and only you know what that is. Everyone who cares about you will support your decision either way.
My Husband won't even discuss a termination, which has out a great deal of pressure on me to be ok with outcome.
It's very odd to be pregnant and not really feel like it, I have the emotion of what's going on but starting to feel like the pregnancy is happening to someone else. Not sure if that makes sense or you can relate x

I am very lucky that my husband said he will support me whichever option but it will be a decision that we are both happy with. I am sorry that your husbands views are putting pressure on you. What are your feelings about it?
I know exactly how you feel, I have stopped talking about the pregnancy and it’s really sucked any excitement out of it. X

I honestly don't know how I feel. I don't feel I have a choice so haven't allowed myself to think about it. My parents feel a termination should be an option if it's high risk, I'm hearing everyone's opinions but don't feel I'm allowed my own.
I'm praying for a negative result so I don't have too face reality.
I don't talk about it now and worried that if it's positive I'll detached even more.
My husband said we can't over worry about it as it won't change it, he is right but it's impossible not too.

You have to be able to have your own opinion because you have to do what’s right for you and your family. It’s just so difficult isn’t it. I didn’t realise that around 90% of positive results end in TFMR. My husband is the same saying worrying won’t change anything but I feel like I am preparing for the worst (as almost away of protecting myself - if that makes sense) praying for us both to get results we want x

I didn't know that either. I completely understand as I'm doing the same.
I'll be praying for us both x
And everyone else who is waiting for their results.
Here if you need to chat x

How is everyone waiting for results holding up today? X

I'm thinking of blizy today as I believe her result are today.

Mentally I'm not to bad today, but physically I'm tired and have a very nervous tummy.

How about you? X

Thinking of Blizy too and hoping she gets the all clear.

Glad you are not feeling too bad, I feel a bit better today as trying to just think that it’s out of our hands now. Very tired too and already thinking about getting in to bed when I get home. Did you get told your results would be back within the week? X

That's about my day, get up and all I think about is curling back up into bed. But your right, it's out of our hands.
I should get my results Thursday, when are you expecting yours again? X

No results yet...this waiting is agonising!