Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 4

[NatzCNL]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to concieve after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
Linspins ? Franklin 22/01/10
Shangrila ? baby boy 01/02/10
Can'tdothisagain ? Babycan't 12/04/10
Katerina100 ? baby boy 06/10
NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
Allstarsprincess ? Frank 30/07/10
Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
GinaFB ? Alexander 03/01/11
LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
Coffeeandchocolate ? Coffeebean 22/02/11
Rushingrachel ? Oliver 02/03/11
Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
Lisbeth Salander - baby boy 7/11
Stormbird ? George 24/07/11
Sarahmia ? baby girl 25/07/11
Eavers ? Jacob 11/08/11
Grandj ? Eliot 01/09/11
Babylily ? Miles 05/09/11
NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
Cherrybug ? Kade 02/11/11
Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12

Monten, I'll keep my fingers crossed for your scan on Wednesday. Because I've been far too obsessive with OPKs etc, I'm pretty sure that I didn't ovulate until around day 24 of my first cycle post tfmr. So if I had fallen pregnant that cycle and had used the first day of the cycle to predict my due date, I'd have measured behind schedule. I hope this is the explanation in your case x

Hi all

I'm having a medical term due to spina bifida tmoro.

I guess I'm just looking for help or reassurance that I will get through this and that people do go on to have healthy children

Hi there worried, I hope today wasn't too bad and you're back at home. Take your time, you've been through a lot. I can't guarantee you will have a healthy baby, no one can, but if you read this thread you will see stories of plenty women who have. You've had an awful thing happen, but it doesn't make it any more likely to happen again. Take care

Hi everyone, I had my repeat scan today and confirmed miscarriage. No heartbeat any longer. Am booked for an erpc on Monday. Very sad and can't believe am here again. And will be going back to the same clinic for a general anaesthetic for the same procedure for the second time in six months. Life is tough. Good luck to all of you, hope I'm back with better news soon.

So sorry to read this Monten. Sending you big hugs

Oh Monten, I'm so sorry to hear this I really am. I've been thinking of you , Sending you lots of love xxxx

Hi monten really sorry to hear your news :( devastating to hear of other people also going through this heartache x

Monten I am so so sorry

I'm so very sorry to hear your news, Monten. It's so terribly unfair.

I'm so sorry monten

It's so unfair.

Hi everyone. This thread has really made me feel like I'm not so alone after our tfmr back in February. I am thrilled to report that I got my bfp last week. Thrilled and terrified!!

Congrats Lucky! Great news xxx

Fingers crossed it'll be you soon too Tea. I know its still early days but do you think you'll wait long? After my tfmr I was desperate to start trying again but dh didn't want too. Thankfully he changed his mind but those 9 weeks were an awfully long wait....... So grateful it happened quickly and hoping everything works out this time xxx

I know they say to wait till you've had your first AF bit we've been trying already. I just want to be pregnant again. I have no idea if I'm ovulating etc so I don't really think anything will happen. I just want my AF now so I have an idea of where I'm upto. Xxx

Lucky, that's great news

Thanks Lostlove- my plan was to try and 'forget' about being pregnant for a bit but thats not working out too well!!! Obsessing so much How are you Tea? Glad to hear you're trying again. Found out I can have Harmony testing at Newcastle for £400. 5 weeks to go......

Hi ya lucky. I think I'd obsess too. How have you been feeling? I'm technically In the 2ww I think. I'm pretty sure I ovulated last weekend so I'm just praying that I'm up duffed. It's all i can think of! Xx

I've got everything crossed for you tea. All I've thought about since our loss is being pregnant again. Sometimes I feel really awful, I have 2 perfect healthy boys, the youngest is only 13 months and here I am desperate to have another baby!!! I know I'm so lucky to have them but I worry sometimes that if I don't have another baby I won't ever truly recover. I'm still struggling to understand I might get a baby at the end of this and for the moment feeling very negative, scared, excited. I'm totally over analysing every crampy pain and keep having a feeling I'm bleeding and rushing off to the loo (but nothing....) I think until we hopefully get the all clear I am going to be a nightmare!!!! I am starting to feel very tired and a bit sick on a morning even though I'm only 5+3. With the boys I wasn't sick at all where as in last pregnancy I was horrifically sick (was carrying a girl). Wondering if this is a sign I'm carrying a girl again ???? Me and dh have had the weirdest mixture of good and horrifically bad luck over the last few years but its proven we can get through anything. Despite being scared I won't be giving up on extending our family and hopefully this time next year we'll be one of the lucky ones holding our new babies xxx

I totally understand the desperation I really do, the baby we lost was our first so I'm just desperate to be a mummy.

It's totally understandable that you feel anxious and are analysing stuff, god I do that now and I, not pregnant yet!

Have you seen the ARC forum? I'm on there and that's been really helpful too xx

I haven't looked at the ARC forum but wish I had of contacted them earlier this year when I was struggling to deal with what happened. I can't imagine how awful it must be too go through the horror we've been through in a first pregnancy. Thankfully I had very uneventful pregnancies with my boys and I am reassured by the fact what happened maybe was just a one off as they are totally healthy. Its still not out of my mind completely though and I guess you never know. Glad we've got harmony testing sorted - just waiting for Newcastle to send me an appointment through xx

If you ever do need them for a chat or to join the forum I'd recommend it. The forums private so you apply to join. I'm sure you will be fine though. Glad you got harmony sorted out. Thinking of you xx

Hello all,
I've been following this thread since we had the news nearly two weeks ago at our 12w scan that our baby probably has severe spina bifida. I know I don't quite belong here just yet but I know in my heart that I will soon be joining you for good...

The sonographer who diagnosed this specialises in early anomaly scanning but his colleagues cannot confirm the diagnosis yet - so we are in limbo until they get a clear view of the spine and can confirm. He is sure of his diagnosis and we have already been offered a TFMR on the basis of the 'strong suspicion' of SB. We are going back for weekly check-ups, next one is Wednesday.

I guess that it's a defence mechanism but I have already completely written off this pregnancy and want to move on - which is of course easier said than done!

I'm scared about the procedure and terrified I'll be punished for this choice and never be able to get pg again. We have a 2.5 yo daughter who is just wonderful and I just can't wait for her to have a sibling...

I hope that everyone on here gets the happy ending we all deserve.

We had a tfmr at 21 weeks because our baby had spina bifida. I am pregnant again now, only 5 weeks, and petrified of it having the same problems. I am on 5mg of folic acid and pregnancy supplements that have the regular amount. I'm also eating a diet high in it. Until the 20 week all clear comes I will be very worried. I don't want to get attached to the idea of there being a baby incase it isn't to be.
Good luck to you all.
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Hi DRS. I'm 9+2 after a tfmr back in February and I am terrified! Our angel had a rare chromosome disorder and whilst the chances of being affected again are probably low I can't get my head into positive mode and whilst I would love to feel excited I'm too scared. For weeks I've been an emotional wreck. Tiredness and sickness have kicked in big style and generally feeling a bit low. DH isn't helping things either as he refuses to even acknowledge this pregnancy until we hopefully get the ok. We haven't told many people and not many knew I was pregnant last time as I always wait to get the 'ok' at the 12 week scan and we didn't get that last time. We are booked in for harmony testing next Monday. Different condition but I know how you're feeling. Sending big hugs xx

Sorry Madomoiselle, I didn't even notice your post. Hope you're doing ok? x