Teachers don't have it as hard as my husband says he does

Yes but if one person is so stressed by their job that they can’t stop themselves being foul to their family the maybe things need to be reprioritised.

Top and bottom of it he sounds deeply unhappy in his job

This weekend he had both Saturday and Sunday morning as lies in and when I asked when mine was his answer was "when I give up teaching."

What a prick. Ugh. It’s all about him isn’t it?

He sounds horrible and completely useless. I
would not be able to continue a relationship with someone behaving like this.

Oh absolutely but I think OPs frustration was that she was being looked toward to work more but no suggestion from husband that he would do more in turn. He can hate his job and want to leave it but he needs to then step up at home or find another job really.

This is interesting but on this point Plus students now see themselves as customers which adds a new dynamic. it feels as if students have been very poorly serviced as customers over the last few years. Although I can see the dynamic might be changing they do have more to be upset about.

I wouldn't say students have been poorly serviced in the past but it has forced some poor performing institutions to up their game.

However, the biggest issue is students not understanding that academics aren't just there to teach them. We have other responsibilities which actually bring in income to allow us to run undergraduate courses as many are run at a loss despite the tuition fees universities charge. I once had a student work out how much they were paying me per hour and therefore should be available to them when they demanded.....!

Teacher know the profession, the dedication required and the remuneration package + pension they will receive. I'm sick and tired of teachers moaning about a profession they willingly pursued with prior knowledge of all these factors.
Many jobs are demanding, have pressures that require extra input. Over the last 10days I have worked 95hrs getting a production linebacker up and running, it's a part and parcel of being dedicated.
Quit moaning and leave if you don't enjoy your work.

PurpleWisteria1
My husband works as a senior manager in financial sector earning 3x what a teacher does and whilst it is stressful it’s still not the level of stress and sheer exhaustion that I found teaching a class of 31 6 year olds to be.

You are talking about two different people though - how do you know what level of stress you would feel working as a senior manager in financial services with three young children at home?

towriteyoumustlive
I spent 10 years as an engineer working on high stress projects, and 9 years as a teacher, teaching KS3/4/5.
Both jobs have their pros and cons, but secondary school teaching (particularly A Level) is SO much harder than a "regular" job.

There are obvious limitations with the comparison if you were younger and child-free whilst working as an engineer.

This is true but OP is making it sound like he does little at all. And I dont think a 50hr working week demands both available weekend lie ins. I say that as someone working that and more most weeks.

@Bewilderedandhurt "Quit moaning and leave if you don't enjoy your work."

Hmm.
I refer you to @noblegiraffe 's post at 11.50

Why do some posters think that that smart-alec remark is such a 'gotcha?' It just makes them look very foolish.

Exactly. Especially as, as many have noted, men do tend to do less childcare and housework even when women in the home are working.

Why are you with this lazy selfish waster?

He has a family, works a job and does nothing else while you earn twice his income and nothing else?

Are you out of your mind suggesting he resigns?

Your life would be so much worse.

Start thinking about whether you want to remain married?

I think your life would be easier without him.

Reading threads like this it is no surprise that there is a massive R&R crisis in teaching, it seems like the shittest job in the world according to here.

Off thread topic but that makes me so sad. My DS (high ranking uni- kids all have top grades) was shocked by this in lectures he attended. Crisps, drinks, chatting, yawning, texting...

As a side note, btw, school courses can get scrapped too if we can't drum up recruits or Gove and co/ society at large decide the subject is not worthy

Oh absolutely! I teach in an education faculty and teach a subject that has been directly impacted by Gove and his views on certain aspects of the curriculum and education.

I absolutely appreciate the stressful nature of teaching, I guess I'm just pointing out that that level of stress isn't exclusive to the teaching profession.

Teachers are, that’s why education is in such the state it is. I’m sick and tired of know it all non teachers who feel the need to act all high and mighty about how they aren’t teachers and therefore are so much better and act as if they work so much harder

Teaching is exhausting and its clearly too much for him, so he should leave. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging when a certain career prevents you from being a whole person. It's not fair on himself, you or your children for him to continue. Get him to ring up his old uni for careers advice and start exploring a career change.

Teaching is hard.
Your husband sounds like a nob.

In the meantime, he should allocate some of his 'fun' money towards a weekly cleaner, as hes not pulling his weight there.

It’s probably ok usually but that high debt plus lockdowns / strikes makes me feel sorry for them

As customers they seem low down the order of things.

@Hubblebubble Yes, because that's exactly what we need. Yet another one to leave.

My DH is a teacher (albeit 80%). What you describe is unrecognisable to me. DH more than pulls his weight around the house, spends lots of time with our DC and is generally a very pleasant individual to live with.

But her DH is using the fact he's a teacher to opt out of family life and generally be a poor parent and partner. So mentioning teaching is relevant in this context.

But it's not teachers per se complaining that they have it so hard they have to opt out of family responsibilities. It's her her husband.

So why not start a thread entitled "My HUSBAND doesn't have it as hard as he says he has?"

Less goady, but of course, possibly wouldn't get as much traction as this one does.

Hang on. Either it’s the job or it’s him that’s the problem. Or maybe both. If it were my husband and he was saying it was the job making him feel and behave awfully, then I certainly wouldn’t be putting up with a miserable home life just so that one teacher is retained.

It’s probably ok usually but that high debt plus lockdowns / strikes makes me feel sorry for them

I agree that lockdowns and strikes have made it very challenging. I chose not to strike Because I didn't want my students to suffer further disruption (that was one reason anyway)

As customers they seem low down the order of things.

That's unfair imo. Every university I have worked at has prioritised the student experience.

I wouldn’t want to be a teacher, from SO many doing it, it sounds shit.