Husband left me sleeping in hot car

I agree with @Comedycook on both of his comments.

Of course he knew op was in a deep sleep, I think it’s very disturbing what he did.

Exactly...he got a thrill out of making her uncomfortable and causing her a potential degree of distress. Couples are supposed to look out for each other. He is not a good man.

This is beyond ridiculous. You are not a bloody Labrador.

Lacucuracha · Today 13:39
TimetoPour · Today 12:48

Lacucuracha · Today 12:31
@TimetoPour

Your DH thought you were in a snit rather than asleep.

How do you know that? Do you know him?

@Lacucuracha I know it because that was what the OP wrote in her post - She asked the husband and he said he hadn’t realised. I said it would be quite easy. If they had argued and were ignoring each other, he might not have given her a second glance.

How do you know that isn’t the situation? Do you know him?
OP thinks he knows she was asleep, not ignoring him. So why do you think you know better?

@Lacucuracha what is it with the why do you know best? I’m not the one here claiming to know everything.

You wrote it yourself, the OP THINKS her DH knew she was asleep, her DH says he didn’t.

Rather than upsetting the OP further, I thought playing devils advocate might talk her down off the ledge. That way she could go and have a sensible conversation with her DH and sort it out.

Yep, I've been sunburned through car windows on a sunny day and it wasn't anywhere near recent temperatures.

If you're in a modern car, with the sunlight only coming through the windscreen - probably not, though how you arrange the sunlight to only come through the windscreen I don't know, but it is the windscreens that block some of the UV rays.

However in an older car, or sun coming through the other windows, with fairer skin more prone to burning, yes, you can and easily in less than 15 minutes!

OP your husband doesn't sound like he likes you very much tbh.

Of course you can burn through windows. Unless they're specially tinted, they let the sun in. A car on a hot day is a bloody greenhouse.

Another one wondering why you're getting a hard time OP.

I've never left my husband asleep in the car or expected him to stay awake unless I need him (i.e. baby is upset or I'm lost). When we get home I wake him up to come in, like I'd assume normal people would, especially if it's hot. He might give me a bit of mumbling because he's tired but I'd never just leave him in the car?? If he wasn't coming to I'd get the kid out and sort our bags then try again. I wouldn't just leave him there.

Absolute psychopath? Really? 😂
FFS.

Think you replied to the wrong person.

Genuinely puzzled by the number of people who would leave someone they apparently care about, in a situation that might well be detrimental to them. I would have thought it was fucking obvious that cars get unpleasantly hot very quickly when they're in direct sunlight, even on relatively cool days. I would also think it's obvious not to leave someone asleep in one. No, humans don't automatically wake in these situations. As to whether that's an evolutionary disadvantage - genetic bottlenecks show we've come close to extinction on at least one occasion, probably more.

But honestly, if you care about someone, why leave them like that? Why not wake them up or wind a window down? Just how much of a snit do you get in with your partner/ spouse? My partner is an adult, yes. But I still wouldn't leave him like that. I'd be concerned and he would be about me as well.

I replied to the wrong post.
It was someone else who said the husband was an "absolute psychopath". Really? Not waking someone is psychopathic behaviour?
Ridiculous hyperbole.

What are you randomly @ ing me for?

Yes I called him that.

And it's not because he didn't just not wake her up. I mean you could not wake someone up of they're in a burning building. That would be pretty crazy behaviour. He knew exactly what he was doing and he got off on the idea of her being made to feel uncomfortable at best and very unwell at worst. He sounds absolutely vile.

Even I he genuinely didn't want to wake her up, why didn't he leave a window open?

Because he didn't think she was asleep, she's already said that.

So now she was in a burning building? Bonkers.

That not what I said. You said all he did was not wake her up. That's not the issue. Its the fact of where she was. If someone left you asleep in a burning building, you wouldn't just say, oh they didn't wake you up. Context is everything.

I would be absolutely mortified. Not because I fell asleep in the car (which is normal to do) but, that people would have seen you fast asleep in your car after lunch (but, i'm an ugly sleeper tbh so wouldn't want anyone to witness me catching flies, fast asleep, sweating in the heat in full view!).
How long was the drive home from lunch? Did you travel far?

No, OP thinks he knew she was asleep.

Yes. Context.
If he left her sleeping in a burning building I'd concede he may be a psychopath.
But that isn't what happened here.