-to 'persuade' my daughter that tampons are not evil? LONG sorry.

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There's a backstory here! A bit graphic too, sorry. DD(12yo) has had periods for about 8 months. She came home from school earlier this week dying to get in the pool as she was so hot, I had to remind her she was still on her period.

Anyway she came downstairs a few minutes later in her swimsuit lookign all pleased with herself, I'd bought her a box of Tampax in case she ever wanted to try them, and all by herself she'd gone and put one in.

Three hours later and she came in for a shower, then yelled for me. She'd got the tampon out about half an inch and said it hurt to pull it, said it was a 'stinging' pain. Then she said she'd used a Super tampon (I got her a multipack). She was on day 5 of her period, so very very light.

I figured it was probably not ready to come out i.e. still a bit dry, but it was hurting as she'd already got it out a little bit.

Cue a very entertaining hour in the bathroom - I ran a bath, got her to lay in it and 'open' herself up, hoping it would soak the tampon. She was a little bit tearful because it was hurting but we still had a right giggle, the way she was laying there was like giving birth (she just did that subject at school) and we were making cracks about seeing its head, and whether it was a boy or girl). Anyway, eventually she managed to get it out, there was barely any blood on it at all.

She said it's put her off; but I would hate her to get it into her head that Tampons Hurt. I'm inclined to really try and persuade her to use one (a SMALL one) right at the beginning of her next period when it's really heavy, so she can see how easy it is to get out the 'right' way.

My friends think I'm mad and evil and should let her wait. I'm really worried that if she does, she'll never use one. She swims a lot, and goes to dance class, and absolutely FLOODS at night (enough to where she's started wearing Depends - she ASKED to), and I think tampons would really be a good idea.

I would never push her into something she's not ready for, but she actually used this one herself, so she obviously wanted to. I just don't want her to be 'scared' of trying a tampon again.

So, at the end of all that - AIBU?

I use a mooncup. So much less hassle and you can go swimming in it and can leave it in longer than any tampon/pad as it's medical grade silcome. You should ask her if she'd prefer to try one of these instead. They sit lower down than a tampon so more comfortable in my opinion. Give her all her options and she which she prefers more.

I switched between pads and mooncup when I was younger, as I could leave it in all day and not be too worried, and depending on flow it can last 12 hours without needing to be emptied.

Which was handy when I was at school...

Dry tampons do hurt to pull out if you haven't broken your hymen yet because it stretches the skin a bit as it pulls out. In fact, even if you have, they're still uncomfortable if you're dry. I don't particularly like them you can still feel them no matter how well they contour to your walls. But I like them better than pads if I'm being active.

Anyway, she's 12. Just let her wear what she wants. Some adults never use tampons, and that's fine.

I have only have light flow periods with the BC I'm taking and I just use light pads exclusively.

Get her a mooncup / diva cup. No problems with stinging ever, and she can still go swimming, etc.

i never used tampons until probably late teens early twenties as the thought scared me. i then tried tampax compak and would never go back.

i never wear tampons at night tho, always night.time pads for that as they scare you at school about toxic shock syndrom haha!

anyway could maybe try a light or medium tampax compak as there is no fiddling around or anything with them.

Why not let her give the moon cup a try? It would be safe to try it when she's not on her period, unlike a tampon, so she could practice without the pressure of making a massive mess if it goes wrong.

No harm trying.

I used to find lillets the absolute worst for this when I first started my period! The first tampons I used were free tampax ones they give me at school and they were fine, no problem. Then one day I used a lilet and OMG! It swoll up huge, got stuck and HURT. Never again.

Use tampax and maybe lube / vasaline to get it out.

These days I'm a big fan of the mooncup. Depending on the shape of your daughters' hymen, she may be able to use one whilst still a virgin.

Amazing that you have such an open relationship with your daughter.

Zombie thread everyone

I've never used a tampon.

katiesnicks "Ha ha just noticed the date!! Very hungover lol"

But how did you find a 4 year old thread to post on it?

Just noticed the date! How did it end up back on active lol.

I miss that zombie alert notice we used to have. It needs to be brought back!!