To think that it is always unacceptable to call a woman a 'slag'?

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I think it is hideous and reinforces the misogyny in our society.

Why do people do it?

but victoria, you are not allowed to use that word - your rules!

I most certainly am Dittany!
I am amazing in bed.

oh well if WIKIPEDIA says it then it must be true

n*er is a 'real word' too, but we don't use that

Oh if it's on wiki it must be right.

'Slag' is a slang word. Slang words are not 'factually correct' by definition. They are...urm...slang. And most slang words used to describe female sexuality, sexual organs etc are deeply offensive.

Look, if you're happy to be called a 'slag', that's your call. But it does say a lot about you, I'm afraid.

Pootles2010 - you are of course correct, I did realise that there was no male equiv of the word. That in itself is not enough to prevent me from thinking it is OK to use.

eg the word "willy". There is no female equivalent "nice" word - it is often asked on MN - what to call the female equivalent. Is willy therefore a bad word? Does society hate women and therefore not have an equivalent word?

Wiki doesn't describe it as a factual word, but as a pejorative word. You know what that means, right?

Look we've already established that qk is a bit of a goer so we should all move on. I'd hesitate to use the word slag. Slapper yes,

What does it say about me RD?

TBH what it probably says is that I am autistic. It is a fact, I'm happy with it. I am autistic in case you think I am being flippant about autism.

Hmmm. Well, my son is autistic and I will be teaching him that 'slag' is an offensive and unacceptable word.

As far as i was aware, or i should say that when i was a teen, the word Slag was generally used to describe a female that would dress in very short skirts showing thier knickerless cracks off to the world, combine this with a nipple skimming top, a trowel load of make-up and then throw in a good dose of trying to get off with every male they see and they were called a Slag.

I think alot of people who use the word dont generally think about misogyny in any context.

I dont here it a lot these days and when i do its often when groups of teens are getting rowdy outside.

It says... that you're happy to use words which have a derogatory, disparaging, judgemental and belittling affect on the person you bestow them on.

Nice.

Nah it says she's pretty literal in everything she thinks about and is inclined to put people into catogories. Shame, I was hoping for a big fight.

I'm still great in bed though (Dittany)

My son is also autistic - of course I will teach him that it is derogatory. That means that you don't go up to someone and say "you are a slag". However, if he (accurately) described someone to me in private as a slag, I'd have no issue with him using the word. If this is wrong, perhaps you could explain to me why.

5DollarShake - I do not call people slags - so I am not belittling them etc! I would be happy in a conversation with my mum to describe someone as a slag (if the person in question was).

qk, it's hard to explain in any more detail than has already been explained on this thread.

It is, because of it's use from inception, a nasty word used almost exclusively to condemn, belittle and label women for daring to have sex because they want to, because they enjoy it, outside of a 'loving' relationship.

I would be mortified if the word ever crossed my son's lips and despite being totally against any sort of physical punishment, I might have to slap him if he ever used it to my knowledge...

You are, of course NBU.

It's perfectly acceptable to call a male friend a slaaaaaaag, though

Eleanor - I do not hate women. You have misinterpreted what I have written.

when I am God or in charge of the whole world somehow I will strongly discourage use of words like promiscuity

it is just an utterly pointless concept that has no use at all

My point was that once you accept it as a term at all, it starts to get bandied about to describe all manner of women who don't happen to fit some people's definition of sexually proper. So somebody in an outfit that is revealing, or a woman talking to somebody else's husband. Or any woman you don't like or are jealous of. I daresay so-called honour killings are justified by the word too.

It is just horrible.

I would argue that 'fanny' is the colloquial alternative to 'willy'

Slag is definitely a misogynistic term and is to be avoided at all costs.

I hate the fact that 'notches on the bedpost' are a matter of pride for men but supposed to be a badge of shame for women.

These notches are a matter of pride for men themselves. I'd think it was gross for a man to have hundreds of notches on his bedpost.

BecauseImWorthIt - I would find the word "fanny" coming out of the mouth of my 2yo or my 4yo to be a little bit rude. It isn't the equivalent to willy.

But qk - that is a judgement on your part. So who is to say it is or isn't the equivalent?

Why should fanny be any ruder than willy?